Form of lies

A little today on a subtle form of lies…when we say something just to please someone temporarily, at that moment, just to be approved of, when actually, we have not meant a word!

This is so rampant in society that we call it form of “diplomacy”. But diplomacy, as is commonly understood is to state the truth in a way that it does not hurt the other person. Ultimately, everything can be put down to perspective…the way we took at things. But is it so simple?

When we don’t mean it and yet say it, it does amount to misleading and deviating from truth. This also may result in giving false hopes to people and therefore, is not at a very great distance from a lie.

I have seen people do this time and time again. They probably think this is a way to become popular…just tell people what they want to hear…but they are actually harming themselves. Not only that, sooner or later, people also understand what is going on. It is a “lose lose” situation.

So, it is really important not to take that route. Better to keep silence under such circumstances.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Expectations

We always think of expectation from others. But have we ever dwelt on how much some of us expect from ourselves? To be a perfectionist is one such expectation. “I want to do everything to perfection and I can almost kill myself just to prove to myself that I can do it.”

The flip side of this can be very damaging. Unrealistic expectations from the self can cause much stress, anger if unable to reach the self made benchmark, depression accompanied by low self esteem.

To relax and do your best is a good way to handle life. Often, the benchmark we think is ours can actually inspired by impressing someone else. And sometimes, it can be a trait from the past or past lives that continues due to karmic issues. Any kind of imbalance distorts. Expectations is a need that is perhaps better transformed into a calm attitude of dealing with what comes your way to the best of your ability without getting hyper.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Dualities

Life can never be judged on how much we lost. On the contrary. If we actually make a list of what we actually received, it would submerge the list of what we think we did not get.

Many things that did not come our way were not meant to because we had to experience what we came here to experience. "Loss" seems to be a meaningless perspective.

The mind always wants things constantly. It is like maize from which we need to find our way out. What is actually progress for the soul is not always what we desire. How does one emphasize this to someone?

The Universe always balances the roles of each human being. The imbalance comes from us, from our wants which may be unreasonable at the best of times. And when they are not fulfilled, we may feel we lost out. But in our world of dualities, behind every loss is a gain, behind every darkness there is light.

When we enter a phase of darkness, we get perturbed and anxious, not wanting to trust the power that we must learn to trust. The tide definitely turns in time if we learn to be patient and wait. Because as everything does....this too shall pass. Not only that, we too will pass. We must remember the ultimate reality before we hassle over temporary loss and gain. There are many core issues to focus upon.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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