Showing posts with label Significance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Significance. Show all posts
Thursday, 16 January 2020
Sunday, 7 July 2019
Experience
Humans have been known to forge great
bonds, just as strong as hatreds sometimes. A brother could donate his kidney
to his brother. A sister could conceive a child just to give it to a sister or
sister in law who can't bear children. Commendable and nothing less than a
sacrifice. Yet another sister could decide to marry her own brother in law
after her deceased sister, just to be a mother to their kids. Emotional moments
and acts.
Physical pain is so much better understood
than emotional pain. When pain is compounded many times over, its increasing
depth becomes unfathomable to someone else. That is natural, I guess. They
haven't gone through the experience. Yet, they might easily sit in judgement
over something despite NOT experiencing it. Whereas, some would think it
prudent to cut and delete such things from their lives.
Seeking understanding from people is not
always productive. In fact,quite the contrary. No blame necessary. Everyone
functions from different levels including us. Life is made up of all hues, like
people. People just forget that life has many hues.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 25 April 2019
Perception of reality
If life can be described as per my
perception of reality, it is a whole lot of phases, of dots that get connected
as you look back. There are periods of transition that come in response to the
saturation of one phase. Something works for a period of time and then they
don't work too well and this is a time for change. And so the process goes on.
But this is not to say there is no
connection. There are links between the phases, or you would not be able to
join the dots later in life. As we mature, we can look back and start
understanding what happened back there. Not that one should live with guilt and
bitterness. Could it have been better? Sure, if YOU knew better! But you
didn't. So, what happened?
Many a time, I hear friends talk with great
guilt after the bereavement of a parent, about not doing their best. “I could
have done better, contacted a better doctor, and been more vigilant".
Could you really have? And they carry this burden on an unrecognizable persona:
THEM. To what end?
This can be only the result of feeling out
of control. But then, we ARE out of control with destiny. It unfolds the way it
must and we start imagining that we could have changed it. Yes, but did you? Could
you? What does this say to you? Even if it had changed the way you wanted,
actually, it was meant to. That's all. Where do you come in? You just try your
best. I have to use the cliche "leave it to God".
We speak of the law of attraction, as if it
works for all of us. If it were that easy, every human being would want to
attain the earth for eternity. So to say, if everyone could take ladder leaps from
the first to the 10th step, why would the ladder have the in between steps at all?
Let's get real.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 9 April 2019
Spiritual search
It was predicted that a time will come when
the sweetness of tongue will win many battles whereas the good, upright and
honest will go unnoticed and / or misunderstood. And one, who shouts when the
right thing is being pointed out, will also win because it will never suit them
to admit that they are wrong.
But this also says a lot about people who
make such people win. Who believe them and humiliate the ones that are actually
in the right. What would you call them? Easily led away by superficiality? Not
enough substance or courage to sift the right from wrong? I guess you have to
be a true "kalyug" person and you had better be if you want to
survive lies, treachery and core dishonesty.
The upsurge in spiritual search is a result
of us having reached the pits. Of us valuing things and shunning people of the
exhaustion of trying to prove oneself in a blind, deaf and dumb world. Futile! Completely
futile!
If light has to survive in darkness, it has
to shine brighter than ever. If goodness has to survive in a polluted world, it
has to connect to the source, for looking on earth for a return is looking in
the wrong direction and is like searching for a needle in a haystack.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 3 March 2019
Empowerment
We indulge in many impression creating
words like "empowerment". Sounds... hmmm.. like a powerful word.
Well, it is . But again, we dilute its significance by attributing the need for
empowerment merely in women and then , in children. It seems to be by default
that if men are not included, they are already empowered.
A truly empowered person cannot inflict
pain or resort to sadism or abuse even remotely, precisely because
"empowerment" is a sum total of many humane qualities. We always hear
that women need empowerment because they work against each other or don't make productive
use of their lives. Not to mention being second class citizens.
But, I think men could very well have men
empowerment organisations where they learn how to respect, support and care for
the womenfolk . AND teach their own kind to abstain from abuse of all kind just
on the prowess of their physical strength as is evidenced by the rampant crime
against women and children all through the world. After all, they were all born
of women. When heinous crimes are committed, mothers and sisters are probably
kept behind doors to be protected from people like themselves.
Capital crimes without capital punishment.
Statistically, how many women rape and kill ? And yet, THEY need the
empowerment ? Requires major thought, doesn't it ?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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