Monday, 25 March 2024
Circumstance
Everyone has difficult
circumstances to tackle in life. But, it is disturbing to see so many people
developing a victim mentality. Worse still, making their victim card a weapon and
playing it to their advantage to gain sympathy.
Today, we need more courage than
ever before. Life is fast and no one has the time. We need to do things for
ourselves because the support systems of families and elders is crumbling. To
blame life is completely futile. Nothing just “happens”. The fatalistic card of
“woe is me” can only mean defeat /lack of motivation to get up and walk again.
There will always be supporters
around you in strange ways though you may never see them as such out of
wallowing in self-pity and confused feelings. I have seen many an olive branch
by well-meaning people, rejected again and again.
Actually, you can beat yourself
up all your life, with comparisons, maybe for bad decisions made or a karmic onslaught,
branding yourself as “unlucky” or whatever.
But you know what? It only makes it worse. Only you can turn your life around.
Again and again, I come back to
the courage needed to transform a negative pattern of thought to an “I can do it”
mode. It is hard work and sometimes, many tears before you smile again. But that one smile is worth the tears
preceding it.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 21 March 2024
Monday, 18 March 2024
Perspective
The mantra for life, I have
discovered, is “that was THEN, this is NOW”.
If we reflect on our thoughts,
how much of our thinking patterns come from past experiences? A maximum
percentage, I would imagine.
We judge people from past
experiences.
Our relationships, more often
than not, are dictated by the past experiences too.
Our trust factor also comes with time,
again only from the past.
Our behavior stems from early conditioning.
Our guilt comes from what we did
wrong earlier.
Our lack of forgiveness is
because someone has hurt us and that becomes a negative past memory.
So, the past, which is really a ghost,
rules over us even though it has passed.
It is incredible that we still
won’t let go. Irrational that we won’t give our present a chance. The more we
read about living in the NOW, the less we actually do. The past has occupied so
much space within us. It actually lives there; like the cobwebs we have no time
to clean. We are so busy planting pretty fences and flowers in a garden which
is full of weeds.
Popularly said, “nowhere” can be changed with a new perspective, “NOW HERE”. But our mind is here and there all the time. Never in the NOW.
Awaken, people, to what we are
doing to ourselves during our life here! Improving every moment in the present,
trying to clean each such moment is the only thing we can do.
As we clean, and declutter, we
create new spaces to attract the energy which can change our lives and bring in
what we call miracles”.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Friday, 15 March 2024
Tuesday, 12 March 2024
Meditation
Many people think meditation is something you do in an isolated place with closed eyes. But a meditative state is one of “no thoughts”. Anytime, within any activity, done with deep concentration, one can reach a state of “ no thought”.
The mind exists only as long as there is thought. If you think you have a mind, you do. If there is no thought at all, there is no mind and that state is the ultimate state when the true self shines.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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