Respect

 Between the mental states of over explaining to please people and attacking people when YOU might be wrong, there is a middle ground.

RESPECT everyone whether, in your eyes, they deserve it or not. Not because of anything else, but because it demonstrates your sterling quality of non judgement.

We need to understand this. Yes, we all have showered our frustrations and anger on others. But we do need to become conscious and change this. For ourselves. Not because of others.

Whatever we change for the better is a win win for us. When we detest people due to their negative qualities, the law of resonance says “look within”. YOU may have something to clean up yourself.

My guru says, detest the negativity, NOT the person. Every soul shows karmic traits and learning to cope with their karmic agenda, so, your role would be to live and let live. If you are close, point out lovingly what they need to work with.

Just as the cane acts as a loving support to a blind man when he crosses the road, love can hold your hand and help you cross over from grief to happiness. If you don’t have enough love, then you need to enhance the love factor within you.

Surekha Kothari

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Circumstance

 

Everyone has difficult circumstances to tackle in life. But, it is disturbing to see so many people developing a victim mentality. Worse still, making their victim card a weapon and playing it to their advantage to gain sympathy.

Today, we need more courage than ever before. Life is fast and no one has the time. We need to do things for ourselves because the support systems of families and elders is crumbling. To blame life is completely futile. Nothing just “happens”. The fatalistic card of “woe is me” can only mean defeat /lack of motivation to get up and walk again.

There will always be supporters around you in strange ways though you may never see them as such out of wallowing in self-pity and confused feelings. I have seen many an olive branch by well-meaning people, rejected again and again.

Actually, you can beat yourself up all your life, with comparisons, maybe for bad decisions made or a karmic onslaught, branding yourself as “unlucky” or whatever.  But you know what? It only makes it worse. Only you can turn your life around.

Again and again, I come back to the courage needed to transform a negative pattern of thought to an “I can do it” mode. It is hard work and sometimes, many tears before you smile again.  But that one smile is worth the tears preceding it.

Surekha Kothari

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