“Letting go” is more a philosophical statement than a genuine attempt for most people. Sounds wise on the lips. But without any meaning if not practiced. The phrase is not meant to be just spoken about.
These are all personal practices
for ourselves. We live in a family, in a community where there WILL be a wear
and tear of emotions and feelings and even reactions in the name of being
“human”. But instead of harboring the adversely affecting emotions, can we let
go of them immediately as they arise? Knowing that they are harmful to us and
no one else? Or do we come under the category of “self-destructive”?
Actually, we have a tendency to
get into conflict, retaliate, get hurt, shun people and ultimately, lose
relationships. And ironically, we are the ones who have suffered on that
emotional see saw without seeing any change whatsoever in the people we have
conflicted with, except blame for us.
The question I always ask myself is: would I carry a burning coal in my hands just because someone gave it to me? Obviously NOT!
But in many ways, we ARE carrying
grouses within us, which are like carrying burning coals, which come from
others because we don’t have the wisdom to LET GO. We are unable to focus on
what is good for our mental health and peace of mind. And therein lies our core
of restlessness and frustration.
When maturity finally dawns, we
are able to laugh at ourselves at our earlier foolishness. And we automatically
start to let go of the unnecessary burdens we carry.
Learning to discard and delete
does not have to be learnt from AI. We have our own super intelligence we could
use if we lessened our dependence on the opinions of others and delved into our
own common sense department within our intelligence bank.
Surekha Kothari
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