I can never find it in my heart to “understand” why we don’t see that everyone carries their burdens and their grief, sometimes silently and privately. We just see the surface and that too, may have more depth than we know.
The smile hides a million hurts.
The “trying to be normal” with those that have hurt you terribly speaks of a
grace no one wants to acknowledge.
What we do with our lives is a
promise to ourselves. Do we want to elevate it or enslave it? Do we want to
feel proud of who we are amidst many challenges, or do we want to fight battles
which end up making us the losers? Because we don’t “win” in conflict. We just
lose … lose our peace, our grace, our minds and our energies.
Ultimately, how does it matter
that someone meant to insult or be rude? The onus is on them for their
intentions. Yes, I know it is easy to say this and I have also been there. But
you learn over time that dignity and respect are more important than retaliation,
despite the fact that your non retaliation can be seen wrongly as weakness, but
often, only when the attempt to bait does not work. At least, it does not
disrupt your peace. And it is okay. Always prioritize on your peace is the
lesson I have learnt.
If someone is on the wrong track,
it is foolishness to follow. The larger part of the lesson.
Surekha Kothari
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