A line once again caught my
attention. “Those who feel lonely with age, have not strengthened their
relationships when they were younger”. I have this habit of tearing apart every
saying in terms of, not words but actual experiences. And I find many sayings a
little on the superficial side.
I have seen karma at work. For
some, it is heavy. Relationships are all karmic. If your lot is in learning
through being isolated, that’s what your lot will be. Despite being loving and
caring, relationships will mostly go wrong. No one to blame! It is just what it
is. Sometimes, building relationships can be like pulling teeth. You can get
more misunderstood than understood! No answers come forth despite one hundred “why’s.
It is just meant to be so.
People will counsel you left,
right and centre, that you don’t have “the art” of sustaining relationships.
Maybe, everyone is not need based. Maybe, love runs deeper than superficial
demonstrations to make others feel good so that they may like you….
The one sustaining relationship I
have discovered, is with myself. Until I have that, I will feel a void, a
loneliness and try to make others complete me. A futile exercise! No one can
complete anyone else.
So, let’s try and isolate, if
required, to become our own friends. That will work like a miracle has
happened! You have to experience that state. But you have to reach it first.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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