Self-Realization

The phrase “attack is the best form of defense” does not come from a good place.

The fact that defense IS required implies a wrongdoing. The following attack on the victim to defend the wrongdoing by turning tables on the innocent party then becomes a double whammy.

This is the best way to escalate the increasing distances. And the absence of learning to admit the wrong doing and rectify it.

But look around you. Such acts of self-realization are almost non-existent. It is as if an admission of having done wrong will incriminate the person in front of people.

I feel the reverse is true.  It is the bigger person who acts with humility and understands what was done was not correct. And learns not to take such paths in future.

That’s why it is never wise to use that phrase “attack is the best form of defense”. It comes from a place of defiance, not grace.

Surekha Kothari

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Law of Resonance

There seems to be a lot of ostracization and marginalization of people in society today. A wrong set of practices has taken over from the earlier respect and acceptability quotients related to people and relationships.

Money, fame and power having the illusory notion of status is probably responsible.

But spiritually and as per the Law of Resonance, it is important to remember that in doing so, we have also marginalized ourselves. And we have also become ostracized from our own wholesomeness.  Because integration is the inherent nature of wholesomeness, and marginalizing others is reflected deep within our dark spaces where we need illumination.

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Transformation

It is good to be simple and simple to be good. If only we realized that life is a flow. To watch as things, unfold in your life, and accept them with grace is the best way to live simply.

Again and again, we have experienced the conflict in our lives when we have tried to go against the flow. Reacting, wanting things to go our way and the discomfort of having to adjust to circumstances both beyond our liking and our control: these are ways we inflict suffering on ourselves.

Think! What IS within our control? Just ourselves and can only train ourselves. For what? First, to become simple. Understand that every episode is a trigger for learning! Yes, this comes after a lot of pain. But if that pain does NOT translate into learning and transformation, it was never worth it.

Anything that appears negative always has a positive side at the other end. Everything is a lesson.

With this attitude, life becomes simple and graceful and this leads to freedom beyond our imagination.

What lacks is the application of this knowledge. As they say, no pain, no gain.

Surekha Kothari

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Consequences

If your flight clips someone else’s wings, it is not freedom. It is an ego flight. What you choose today becomes your future agenda because of the consequences of your actions.

Karma is not a punishment. It is a mirror. If you sow thorns, you cannot reap flowers. You will meet many people who will hurt you, hate you, even harm you. But if you return the same, it is possible that somewhere, you may have been responsible for what you are receiving today. Once you understand this, you will refrain from retaliation.

So, do not react ever. Keep yourself clean in every thought, word or deed. This is your right power, an enduring power because you are experiencing your wholesomeness.  And when you are whole, you can only share wholesomeness. There is only wholesomeness to share.

So, never try to change anyone else. Change yourself and everything changes around you. But it takes time and a lot of faith. Don’t forget! We take time to turn over a new leaf just as we took so much time to become polluted.

Surekha Kothari

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Real Strength

The frailty of humans has to be understood. Their psychological stability depends on the circumstances being favorable. If your sense of self-worth depends on what you achieve like wealth and power, it is possible you may lose it also. The tragedy is, the more you expend your energy in maintaining an image, the further you move away from your authentic self.

And when you are in that space, even a small criticism can ruin your day. A setback can throw you into despair.  A rejection can wound you for years. A loss can destroy your identity completely.

Is your being strong possible then only when life agrees with you? When

your strength exists only in ideal conditions? 

That is not strength at all. Real strength reveals itself when conditions become unfavorable.

Anyone can be calm when there is no storm. What happens when the storm comes? When crutches fall away? When there is loss and loneliness? The true mettle of a human being shows up only then.

So, cultivate the strength that holds up under the adverse circumstances. Understand that challenges can and do come unannounced. Be prepared and let the universe be your guide and the divine energy your support.

Surekha Kothari

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Divine Hand

A family is like a bunch of assorted flowers put together by a Divine Hand. Different souls slated to be together to help each other evolve. They are all different, with different destinies but bonded in love and compassion, looking out for each other.

This karmic nature of families is real.

We are duty bound to act as per the divine laws to attain freedom of the soul.

Learning humility and letting go of our pride, our egos is the first lesson.

Developing a community of friends outside is wonderful but not at the cost of family.

We only ask for blessings from family. Have you noticed? From our connections bound by birth. Somewhere within you, you know that genuine blessings are given from the heart by people you have grown up with and who love you despite all your faults and weaknesses and such blessings reach the Divine, believe me.

So, please return to your families, especially your parents who are living in senior citizen’s homes. It is sad that many parents prefer to be there. This says something about the lack of care and love from those who were nurtured and cared for with love by these very parents.

Surekha Kothari

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Idealistic

Make your life easy. We all have feet of clay and tend to give vent to our anger and frustrations. And in doing so, we may let words slip out that in calmer moments, we would not.

What amazes me is that apologizing when you ARE wrong should come easily if the conscience is active. But it does not. What is active is the ego and we cave in, and become slaves to our ego. There are cases when hurts pile up between two people over a period of time.

Actually, so much pile up is unhealthy. Often, one is a dominant defaulter and the other keeps quiet until one day, something gives way and the conflict acquires large dimensions.  And sometimes, it us because none is willing to extinguish igniting fires.

It is always better to voice your feelings the very first time you feel someone has wronged you. If you keep silent for whatever reasons, the damage to relationships gets unnecessarily worse. It is definitely not worth it. I find the closer the relationship, the more the intensity of hurt. People call me too idealistic but honestly, whatever the nature of the relationship, never stop stating your truth gently and firmly so the next time, people will be careful. 

And try to be simple, without drama and conflict. Ultimately, YOU and only you are responsible for how you feel and why. The entire onus of your life is yours and no one can make even a dent in you without your permission.

Surekha Kothari

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