Generosity

 Generosity in people is a rare trait. Their smiles don’t come from the heart. Praise is even less forthcoming.

I have always wondered what smiling at and praising someone takes away from us. Anything? Nothing.

If we can only find ourselves comfortable and confident, both the traits are very natural and very human.

Yes, low self-esteem and feeling inadequate may be partially or wholly responsible!

There is no option but to examine these feelings and learn to overcome them. Because they are only perceptions that the world has gifted us . We don’t want or deserve such gifts. Instead, there are gifts we can give ourselves, like a high self, a right value system and confidence to stand alone if need be, within the light of truth .

Stay within your own light. And if there is darkness in any areas, dispel it and replace it with light.

Surekha Kothari

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Equanimity

When we have to face a heavy karma, all crutches are taken away from us and we are left alone to experience it. No one listens and no one understands at such times. These must be taken as tests. When we go for an exam, who writes the paper with us?

I don’t know why we feel entitled all the time! The universe decides what we deserve and when.

The ego energy is quite useless here. In fact, it causes more suffering by reacting negatively to our experiences. It compounds the issue on hand.

Wise people accept these with grace and equanimity. Others suffer!

Surekha Kothari

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Storm

I was in the eye of the storm. It was raging within me and around me. I was getting swept off! Desperately trying to hold on to something, I was also trying to find out where its source was and how to control it.

Behold! I realized it was in the “l” of the storm within me.

That’s life. We look outside for what is inside! And keep crying that we can’t find it.  Everyone’s story!

Surekha Kothari

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Ego

 Ego play between two people is the foul play of the mind. When there is hurt, it is always the ego that is hurt. We are far above this world of conflict. It is just drama created by the ego and we fall into its trap.

When we discuss the reasons for that hurt with a non-involved person, they don’t think it is a big deal. Because they are watching from outside.

The perfect learning IS to watch from outside and see it will appear very small and not worth destroying relationships for.

Surekha Kothari

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Relationships

Words can destroy relationships. Choose them wisely and economically. Wherever you absolutely need them, use them carefully. Otherwise silence is your best bet.

Wars have started with small indiscretions.  Misunderstandings have piled to a point of no return in relationships. .

It is always about “I”, “me” and “mine”.

The mind is the creative director of our heaven and hell on this earth and we happily give in.

Is conflict the essential nature of man? Or the ego insatiable about drawing blood from relationships?

Keep the company of spiritual texts instead of meaningless waste of time with non-essentials for the soul.  Life is very short.

Surekha Kothari

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Self-Respect

It is amazing how limited and clouded a mind we walk around with. The more comfort there is around us, the less we are inclined to notice that clouded aspect of us.

How do we live with this heavy burden of our feelings of likes / dislikes, our jealousies and hatreds, our desire to wound people we dislike and at the same time, craving to be loved by everyone?  Does this also become a part of our comfort levels where we revel in such activities and derive a vicarious pleasure? Because the two are so contradictory and, impossible if I may say so.

The clouds that cover our mind will not let clarity enter. In the absence of clarity, we are unable to look through the opacity of those clouds and into our real selves.

That’s why we must avoid thoughts and emotions which are not crystal clear and pure. For this to happen, we need to love and respect ourselves first.

Self-respect should prevent any action by us that makes us fall in our own self estimation and from the grace within us if we have not forgotten the truth of who we are.

When people look at our goodness and righteousness, they also respect us because such people are rare and therefore, respect worthy.  Why then would we stoop down to levels where we don’t respect ourselves?

Maybe, we have had to struggle. Maybe, we have had to let go of memories of hurt, betrayal and more. But in all of this, if we have been able to stand upright as tall as the tree that faced several storms, our value as a human being would multiply manifold. To ourselves and to others.

And that is where we need to be to access the divine frequency.

Surekha Kothari

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Elevation

 It is so easy to give up on relationships! Without any thought, anyone who may have different perceptions and will state them becomes a persona non grata.

Gone is the time when opinions were welcomed. In fact, they were invited. People knew they could broaden their own perspectives by listening to others.  And they were humble enough to acknowledge that they could always learn more than they knew.

Today, people think only their perspectives, however narrow, are the only right ones.

This is not how growth happens. This is the perfect “frog in the well” syndrome where we may think we are kings but only within the limited periphery of the well.

To widen our horizons, it is necessary to come out of the dark well to see and experience what we never knew even existed, while in the well.

This need has been camouflaged to a large extent by superficial comfort levels. So, this is where we will spend the rest of our lives without ever witnessing our own elevation.

Surekha Kothari

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