Recognition

There is no point in wasting your energy trying to explain yourself to people who live in their own cocoon world, also unable to see the flicker of light in someone.

You know, they only echo the darkness because it is their own darkness coming to light.

We all have the light within us as we are all spiritual beings. But no memory or recognition of this!

So, we continue to struggle with feelings, emotions, ego and running headlong into walls, bleeding and crying that someone else hurt us.

Can we perhaps take a call on this?

Surekha Kothari

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Personal Growth

Have you noticed that when thoughts crowd your mind, they take away your peace?  Most of your thoughts are meaningless.

Either you are thinking of your past or planning for the future. And in the bargain, you are losing the only moment available to you: the PRESENT moment.

THIS moment, which is all we have, you can CHOOSE to be peaceful. THIS moment, you can become a different person. You can let go of all the useless thoughts that deter your personal growth.

But the mind keeps pushing you into dealing with those thoughts and misleads you into believing that you MUST act upon them.

Most of us give in to this. Then obviously, thoughts from the past come colored with past reactions. And thoughts of the future come laced with doubt and fear of plans being successful. This way, tension and stress become a part of you.

The more constructive way is to live in the present moment which is the seed of our life, a gift which we don’t know how to use. We can choose to be content each minute. We can make each present moment meditative. We can let go of everything external which is not good for our journey. And we can choose to love instead of hate and fear.

It works like magic.

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Past Grievance

It is hard when you do things for a return. Because however well intentioned, the outcome is NOT in our hands.

I have seen that a clean heart and a pure intention does find a response from the universe though. Not necessarily from the person who we directed the action to.

There is a huge reason here. There is also a karmic issue and need for resolution here. If both are healed from the past, the outcome will be positive. But if one has cleared the heart and one is holding on to past grievances, the outcome may not be a desirable one. And we don’t decide that.

So, your expectations don’t decide the nature of the outcome. But the good and pure intentioned heart WILL get a reward from the universe. In other ways.

This is why it is said, do a good deed and leave it to the universe.

This is not merely a theory but a time tested truth. An experience that words may fall short in describing.

Surekha Kothari

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Cosmetic World

Those parents who try to shield information of the dark side of life from their children, maybe doing a great disservice to them.

We do not live in a cosmetic world. To teach children to be positive is great but the lesson actually is to be positive in negative situations and while dealing with negative people.

Most of us change according to how we are treated. Not wise. Why do we change our core attitudes if we value them? How does it matter if others behave in different ways?

We don’t have to become a yoyo, oscillating from one extreme to another. Reacting to every situation, trying to be who we are not.

Balance is in the middle, the Centre. If we are centred, we are ok. It is a good reminder day to day. There are always cases where we do lose our Centre and so, must keep this in mind.

Surekha Kothari

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Unconditional Love

Most people do not understand unconditional love! People who are actually capable of this stand isolated.

Such people generally give naturally. They are not people pleasers. Neither are they expecting applause for what they do. It is their intrinsic nature.

But this breed is rare. And THAT is the issue. People are so lacking in trust and so full of the ego insecurities, they tend to shun even the genuine ones around them.

But the genuineness of truth of people who CAN love without expectations has to go through fire or just wait for this truth to reveal itself.

And no, such people are not even looking for certificates. And yes, they have to guard against manipulation. Today, the more you give , the more is demanded of you . And you become emotionally depleted if you don’t protect yourself.

The irony is, we would rather shower love on a pet dog than on each other. Though dogs are very loveable, and give you the very unconditional love that you don’t accept from a human being.

Strange, isn’t it?

Surekha Kothari

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Untraveled Path

Building awareness is painful. It awakens you from a deep slumber you have been indulging in triggered by early conditioning. It starts at home when the belief systems of elders is superimposed on your innocent childlike minds. And you take them as the gospel truth. The “respect worthy “elders mould you, give you their identity, expect you to fulfil their unfulfilled desires and expect you to keep up their image in society. Whatever it takes away from you it does not matter.

Later, with awareness building in you, you now notice that you have to unlearn so many things you never doubted before.

That new awareness will change you and change the environment around you too. You will have to step out of your comfort zone and face new challenges, connect with people who are like you are now, leave many past memories and people who don’t work in your life anymore, to move onto new pastures.

You know now why repeated patterns appear! When you are not ready to face the pain of that new awareness. When you are unable to have the courage. When the “known “engulfs you because the untraveled path brings fear of the unknown. So, you do the comfortable things and get the same results. Nothing new / inspiring/ challenging appears in life till the end. Something to think about.

Surekha Kothari

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Precious Time

When you have been deprived of loving relationships yourself, it is truly agonizing to see people who have them but who destroy them.

You will find several people in this world who will be around you for different reasons. Some valid.  Some not so valid.

But those who have been in your life forever and with whom you have had happy memories are already strong in love for you. Childhood bonds persist. I have also seen close people having misunderstandings and going away from each other, only to return even years later. And i think, “what a waste of precious time”.

The fact is, the close ones have the power to hurt your maximum. Due the very love you hold in your heart.

The amount we live in fear can be totally reduced if we love and support each other during our lives. Bonds built in childhood are strong. Ask someone who never had them! How difficult life can be!

 I look around and find so many egos consuming people, that they have lost the art of loving, giving love precedence over small issues magnified to a point of no return.

And I think, “what a waste of precious time!”

Surekha Kothari

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