Thursday, 22 October 2026

Truth and Honesty

Team work implies that you have to carry people you are connected to, along with you. Not by controlling them but as willing to be connected.

But today, some obvious ways of subtle controls exist, like heaping obligations, financial help, meeting people’s needs with a motive and then making them a part of your grand plan.

“Willing” partnerships promise gain. Until sometimes, they are broken.

The same applies in relationships.

Freedom, real freedom, is possible only if we live on our own terms with the courage to uphold truth and honesty. Because these are soul requirements. This will connect you to yourself first. And those who respect you for who you are will connect with you.

We forget that we are only temporary in this world.

Surekha Kothari

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The THREE C’S

Think about this. The THREE C’S.

Caring

Compassion

Communication

Caring, because the intrinsic quality in humans is love. Caring is an offshoot of love.

Compassion, because we are all connected to each other. And understanding each other’s’ stories and journeys makes us human.

Communication, because it is the best tool to salvage relationships. And to repair / build bridges.

Whenever we have been resentful, conflicting and withdrawn, have we felt good? Negativity never feels good. It is not our intrinsic nature. 

But, just as clouds camouflage the sky, negativity clouds the clean space within us. It is merely temporarily superimposed, waiting to be cleared by human effort. And we owe ourselves a happy life. The problem is, we don’t let go. We give ourselves more importance than we should. In the whole of Creation, we are less than a minuscule dot. And changing continuously.

Why are we trying to capture the flow of life and reverse it? It can only give grief!

Surekha Kothari

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Saturday, 17 October 2026

Joy of Living

Sometimes, we feel a sense of foreboding, as if something untoward is going to happen. And it does.

How?

A few people definitely have that sense of foretelling. But with the majority, it is fear. And overthinking and over imagining the worst.

The fact is, our persistent thoughts laced with fear can manifest, bringing our fears into reality.

Meditation done regularly, gradually brings the mind into a state of thoughtlessness so much so that every passing thought becomes benign instead of laced with damaging emotions.

You start observing your thoughts and are able to let go of the undesirable ones. Next, they stop bothering you and the more the mind is cleared, the less you think the undesirable ones. Happily, you keep letting them go.

Imagine the volume of clean space your mind develops for the beautiful thoughts to enter, stay and create the joy of living!

Surekha Kothari

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Thursday, 15 October 2026

Recognition

There is no point in wasting your energy trying to explain yourself to people who live in their own cocoon world, also unable to see the flicker of light in someone.

You know, they only echo the darkness because it is their own darkness coming to light.

We all have the light within us as we are all spiritual beings. But no memory or recognition of this!

So, we continue to struggle with feelings, emotions, ego and running headlong into walls, bleeding and crying that someone else hurt us.

Can we perhaps take a call on this?

Surekha Kothari

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Personal Growth

Have you noticed that when thoughts crowd your mind, they take away your peace?  Most of your thoughts are meaningless.

Either you are thinking of your past or planning for the future. And in the bargain, you are losing the only moment available to you: the PRESENT moment.

THIS moment, which is all we have, you can CHOOSE to be peaceful. THIS moment, you can become a different person. You can let go of all the useless thoughts that deter your personal growth.

But the mind keeps pushing you into dealing with those thoughts and misleads you into believing that you MUST act upon them.

Most of us give in to this. Then obviously, thoughts from the past come colored with past reactions. And thoughts of the future come laced with doubt and fear of plans being successful. This way, tension and stress become a part of you.

The more constructive way is to live in the present moment which is the seed of our life, a gift which we don’t know how to use. We can choose to be content each minute. We can make each present moment meditative. We can let go of everything external which is not good for our journey. And we can choose to love instead of hate and fear.

It works like magic.

Surekha Kothari

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Wednesday, 14 October 2026

Past Grievance

It is hard when you do things for a return. Because however well intentioned, the outcome is NOT in our hands.

I have seen that a clean heart and a pure intention does find a response from the universe though. Not necessarily from the person who we directed the action to.

There is a huge reason here. There is also a karmic issue and need for resolution here. If both are healed from the past, the outcome will be positive. But if one has cleared the heart and one is holding on to past grievances, the outcome may not be a desirable one. And we don’t decide that.

So, your expectations don’t decide the nature of the outcome. But the good and pure intentioned heart WILL get a reward from the universe. In other ways.

This is why it is said, do a good deed and leave it to the universe.

This is not merely a theory but a time tested truth. An experience that words may fall short in describing.

Surekha Kothari

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Monday, 12 October 2026

Cosmetic World

Those parents who try to shield information of the dark side of life from their children, maybe doing a great disservice to them.

We do not live in a cosmetic world. To teach children to be positive is great but the lesson actually is to be positive in negative situations and while dealing with negative people.

Most of us change according to how we are treated. Not wise. Why do we change our core attitudes if we value them? How does it matter if others behave in different ways?

We don’t have to become a yoyo, oscillating from one extreme to another. Reacting to every situation, trying to be who we are not.

Balance is in the middle, the Centre. If we are centred, we are ok. It is a good reminder day to day. There are always cases where we do lose our Centre and so, must keep this in mind.

Surekha Kothari

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