Divine

If we could remember everything, there would be no past, present and future. An interesting and intriguing proposition!

Some of our saints had graduated to that state. And they continue to be with us and around us to help us.

This universe is so vast and the possibilities so seamless, our limited awareness cannot even imagine the extent!

Even small glimpses are thrilling. If we can only expand this awareness and consciousness to incorporate a desire to unveil these aspects of this wonderful creation!

The Divine within the Divine!  There is nothing before and nothing beyond but existence within this Divine. And merging with it.

Surekha Kothari

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Achievement

It is a fact that sustained relationships have an important ingredient: communication. If there is none or very little, distances grow by leaps and bounds, however well-meaning both sides are. 

More or less, there is one person in the relationship who often communicates less. It could be due to preoccupations or just simple lack of initiative. Or then, some inner issues like sensitivity or inferiority even.

I have learnt that nothing works better than simple, direct and egoless communication.

Everyone struggles with something. But humility goes a long way in ironing out issues which are almost always small ones in the beginning.

This perception of “being better” than someone else is an impediment in relationships. The truth is, in those perspectives, there will always be some who are better off and some who are not. But these are wrong perspectives.

Not riches, not talent, not any worldly achievement can brand anyone as “better”. There are many spiritually rich but low key people who silently live their lives and better themselves every day.

So, where is the weighing scale? And who decides? But if you communicate only will you establish a meeting point, from wherever you are. Your values will determine your success.

Surekha Kothari

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Self-Sacrifice

 Suppressing authentic needs is a huge hole within our wholesomeness. Traditionally, we have been taught that goodness means self-sacrifice, living for others, suppressing our needs to accommodate those of others around us and forgiving everyone who hurt you whether they repent or not. In short, we have made excellent arrangements for our own depletion of energy and destruction of our self-image.

Kindness, in this connection, is NOT what I just described. Everything begins with the self and then extends outwards. It is that part of goodness which ought to start with kindness to the self-first. If your inner self is under the agony of suppression, denial and conflict, how do you even BEGIN to get enough energy to be what society selfishly demands from you?

That inner self, your suffering shadow self of which even you are in partial denial, must be brought into your conscious awareness so that you can heal it and integrate it with your true self. Only then can you become wholesome. And then you can extend yourself outwards and help others find themselves.

Surekha Kothari

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Responsible

 It doesn’t matter how many lives you have lived. Live this one to the best of your ability. Life can be perceived in so many ways! And created in so many ways. We are the creators, never doubt this!

Do you notice how we have an innate ability to change, cloak, mask our emotions in a second? As also the ability to move on from any situation, unless we don’t WANT to!

Have you noticed how in a second, we can become our own friends like no one can, and the next second, our own worst enemy?

How can all this be real if we don’t control our own lives?

And even when our lives are NOT within our control, WE are responsible for this condition as well.

Friends, every finger points only at each of us. We learn, write our own exams, do well or not and face all consequences of our actions.

The moving finger writes… and having writ, moves on! (or not). WE are responsible.

Surekha Kothari

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Self-Respect

 It is rather sad to see people attacking someone’s self-respect repeatedly. Even a strong person can find it very cumbersome and meaningless in the long run.

The “pleasure” so felt is not so pleasurable in the long run because you have just ignited a spark of negativity for yourself. It can carry on if both participate. It can also be watered down with a lack of response from the innocent side.

The way we hold on to our complexes, can only be a longer journey of healing for us. Yet, one sees it all around! And it becomes exhausting at some point.

To heal oneself becomes very difficult if we continue to be affected by others. Therapists, mood elevators, anti-depressants and timidity are not the healing I mean but these are a reality more than self-work. Self-work starts only when blame recedes.

Sure, when people in your life abuse, ridicule, reject, marginalize, these are bitter pills for most.

One has a to find a way out for oneself for that little piece of peace which is not available anywhere but within us. And often we have to slap ourselves to fix back our head straight. Life!!! Keep going!!

Surekha Kothari

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Evident

 Being able to join the karmic dots and understanding patterns as hindsight is often very painful. We see conflicting relationships compounding under egos and increasing distances over a long period of time, coming to a head at the end of our lives. We have evidently not understood and corrected ourselves while there was time.

Life is not a party! The remorse and guilt that overpowers you for ill-treating your people while YOUR going was good, you will realize over time, was a completely misplaced sense of what life was all about.

I have seen people leaving this world with so much remorse and I have seen those left behind living lifelong under the weight of what they COULD have done differently but will never get a chance to anymore towards the person who has gone.

WHY? What is not to understand and not to get on? Why do we judge instead of love? Why do we distance instead of understand and respect everyone’s life journeys, especially their challenges??? Especially when we know WE expect this from others? So much can be salvaged if we learn and change with this one thought.

Can we perhaps slow down, reflect and correct ourselves while there is time???

Surekha Kothari

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Circumstances

 There are many moments in the lives of human beings when there is so much pain it becomes a herculean task to even bear it, let alone find the courage to overcome it. And not always is there a reward at the end of the pain, like when a new mother forgets all the pain when she sees her little baby.

This pain is in return for the pain we may have caused someone in some life. Or we might be facing some circumstances which might be painful, and which just came upon us. But this is not an unsalvageable guillotine.

That’s life. You learn to cherish good times and be patient in adverse times, with an indomitable faith that times will change. Just one thing! Be sure to learn what lessons this adverse time is there to teach. Salvaging those parts of your affected life with wisdom and patience is the only way out to let the pain recede.

Surekha Kothari

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