Self-Respect

 It is rather sad to see people attacking someone’s self-respect repeatedly. Even a strong person can find it very cumbersome and meaningless in the long run.

The “pleasure” so felt is not so pleasurable in the long run because you have just ignited a spark of negativity for yourself. It can carry on if both participate. It can also be watered down with a lack of response from the innocent side.

The way we hold on to our complexes, can only be a longer journey of healing for us. Yet, one sees it all around! And it becomes exhausting at some point.

To heal oneself becomes very difficult if we continue to be affected by others. Therapists, mood elevators, anti-depressants and timidity are not the healing I mean but these are a reality more than self-work. Self-work starts only when blame recedes.

Sure, when people in your life abuse, ridicule, reject, marginalize, these are bitter pills for most.

One has a to find a way out for oneself for that little piece of peace which is not available anywhere but within us. And often we have to slap ourselves to fix back our head straight. Life!!! Keep going!!

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Evident

 Being able to join the karmic dots and understanding patterns as hindsight is often very painful. We see conflicting relationships compounding under egos and increasing distances over a long period of time, coming to a head at the end of our lives. We have evidently not understood and corrected ourselves while there was time.

Life is not a party! The remorse and guilt that overpowers you for ill-treating your people while YOUR going was good, you will realize over time, was a completely misplaced sense of what life was all about.

I have seen people leaving this world with so much remorse and I have seen those left behind living lifelong under the weight of what they COULD have done differently but will never get a chance to anymore towards the person who has gone.

WHY? What is not to understand and not to get on? Why do we judge instead of love? Why do we distance instead of understand and respect everyone’s life journeys, especially their challenges??? Especially when we know WE expect this from others? So much can be salvaged if we learn and change with this one thought.

Can we perhaps slow down, reflect and correct ourselves while there is time???

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Circumstances

 There are many moments in the lives of human beings when there is so much pain it becomes a herculean task to even bear it, let alone find the courage to overcome it. And not always is there a reward at the end of the pain, like when a new mother forgets all the pain when she sees her little baby.

This pain is in return for the pain we may have caused someone in some life. Or we might be facing some circumstances which might be painful, and which just came upon us. But this is not an unsalvageable guillotine.

That’s life. You learn to cherish good times and be patient in adverse times, with an indomitable faith that times will change. Just one thing! Be sure to learn what lessons this adverse time is there to teach. Salvaging those parts of your affected life with wisdom and patience is the only way out to let the pain recede.

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Transformation

There is no value in relationships where little things are constantly misunderstood and have to be sorted regularly.

It needs one experience of watching someone leave this earth, of the grief and remorse, even guilt felt by those around for what could have been , to wonder why we don’t treat relationships better in our lifetime.

There are a few landmark experiences in life which are utterly transformative. Make you accept and deal with life with more awareness and more grit. Above all, with more balance and respect for your soul.

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Belief System

 A fact of life! You cannot unscrew the minds of those who have used ironclad screws to strengthen their wrong belief systems. Or have set you up as a target. Just step away until and if at all, sense dawns on them!

I have realized that learning is so individual and time resistant that there is no point in getting frustrated when you try to steer someone towards the right understanding but they just do not want to go there.

It is strange how people claim to care but on a day to day basis, they are all about themselves. I have stopped getting surprised at these observations in people.

It doesn’t matter as long as you don’t let the injustice of it all plague you.

Relationships fraught with disrespect cannot work.

Life does not stop for anyone and everyone has stories! We are just one among the many, oppressed by our grief and sadness.

Just get out of such emotions. It is not worth it! Let go of what is not in your control. Karma can be a tough call. It takes away but it also returns in different ways.

Continue living life, staying away from the circus and drama of other people.

Be strong. Be smart. And most important, never doubt yourself. Always believe in yourself when your conscience is clear.

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Journey

 It’s funny how life comes a full circle. A crazy, fun loving child to a disillusioned, serious adult! Then, back to being crazy and light again! Thanks to god’s grace and exposure to spiritual learning early in life.

The hysterical laughter at silly things! Mocking life for even trying to invade my wholesomeness! The shadows that chase without any success until they disappear! Words and actions that used to hurt but have lost their power.

For I know we are not here to fall deep into SANSARA but to recognize its meaninglessness. But it is beautiful nevertheless! Just know how to navigate it. We have all the tools for an exciting journey!

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Perspective

 You never walk alone. This feeling of being alone or of loneliness is just a huge lack of awareness. An illusion out of ignorance.

The truth is, I walk with my spirit. I am my own friend, my own genie who walks within me. And that wholesomeness never gives me a lack of anything.

Have you ever tried to work with this perspective? Love yourself first. That fountain is enough for everyone.

The sun gives light to all. It does not diminish if a cloud covers it temporarily. You know it is there.

Similarly, my soul is THERE, in the journey. Like the sun. And like me, all of us are whole and complete. We have to realize the presence of our soul in everything we do.

Soul realization is a shining reality. Filled with joy!

Surekha Kothari

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