Ignorance

 Can our purpose in life be to just spend it in handling relationships? Compromising, pleasing hurt egos, giving dutifully that often becomes a one-way traffic.

Honestly, I am very doubtful we gain much, if anything, by doing so. We are probably very far from the truth about our soul requirements.

All the pain, the grief, the struggles are so ignorance based! But ironically, we HAVE to go through all of these to understand we were in the wrong space.

The reason we give so much importance to relationships is not always to learn from those interactions, to know what to do and what not to do in our journeys.

Unfortunately, it is more because we cannot live without dependence. People / groups make us feel relevant and give us a sense of importance and well-being. And this gives us a sense of comfort, even validation.

But this also deprives us of any effort to build up an awareness that this is not the real “us”.

That is why, among the large population in the world and several spiritual gurus out there, spiritual awakening is a rare path.

We can say that today; more people are beginning to understand the importance of developing a spiritual consciousness as being of equal importance. Also that, this knowledge improves the way we live on this earth. Because their experiences in life without a spiritual quotient have been exhausting. 

I will keep emphasizing this ad nauseum even, and if even one person learns to embark on that path, it is a life well spent.

Surekha Kothari

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Inspiration

 Clarity of thought inspires a powerful life. Clear energy and therefore, focused.  And the clearer, the purer. You can’t go wrong. The right kind of power shines through without effort and very naturally.

Such people illuminate their lives and their surroundings. So, imagine if there were many more, how much of this world they could illuminate and what the quantity of energy could do with the positive vibrations throughout the world?

Sadly, a utopia at the moment. Too much accent on the artificial!

Surekha Kothari

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Self-Indulgent

It takes two, always two, to distort a relationship. And even in this, depending on the nature of the relationship, one may naturally give more and keep giving IN more, perhaps as a parent would.

But often, the more you give, the less you are respected. It is misunderstood as weakness. But let’s put this one question to parents first. However thoughtless your children are, can you stop loving them or readily helping them when they are in need? I don’t know of one parent who would abstain. They are a part of you and for a mother, created from her own flesh and blood.

The same question to the children. One youngster said to me, “well, we did not ask to be born, so, why are we expected to listen to our parents?” “And why can’t we judge our parents too, as we do others? “

The fact is, EACH soul chooses the mother as much as the parents want the child. It is a two-way traffic. Yes, nature has willed the flow of life to be one of parents to children to children becoming parents and so on.

But, the connectivity in the universe inevitably demands some rules to be observed. We cannot walk away from our reciprocal value systems. The love energy makes it possible to fulfil these duties and responsibilities.

Very rarely if at all, in these times, do we see a Shravan kumar carrying his blind parents on his shoulders. Unfortunately, the heretofore unheard abuse of parents in many ways has disconnected families as never before. Family pride is confined to power and status more than unity and support.

Just as friends are becoming extended family because natural families are falling apart, so is AI going to replace the original human intelligence that has gone wrong and become corrupted and self-indulgent, causing severe imbalances.

Is it ok then to say, “well, we are helpless” and that this is a new wave setting in, a synthetic wave which has not risen out of the ocean and cannot merge into the ocean. It is as artificially existent as the robot is today. Who knows if, in time, the human race will become extinct also, like the dinosaurs! And only robots will exist!

And remember, the original thought was at a micro level!

Surekha Kothari

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Silence

When you awaken, you look at your life and many of your reactions with amusement. Each one of us is enveloped in a drama of karma and desires. We judge every experience from the way it appears to us : positive or unpleasant.

If we take away that aspect of our own feelings about the experience, what is left? Yes! Only the experience. And without attaching emotions, it is easy to go through it.

Conditioning makes this clinical observation very difficult. Our attachments with relationships and having been taught our behavioral patterns very early in life, we grow up with realizations of what works and what does not, again depend on how WE feel.

Subjective patterns are there to stay unless we can observe and change them consciously.

What really works ultimately is inner silence. That gives us more clarity and also prevents self-defeating thoughts about how others make us feel. Actually, totally unnecessary but inevitable to mankind most of the time.

The other moot point is that if you are a giver, people get comfortable around you and take what you have to give. But there is no energy exchange and you end up depleting your energies out of love/ attachment or whatever …

Silence is that tool that consolidates your energy levels. It makes you abstain from expending your energies in the name of compulsions prescribed by families and societies in the name of “duty”, whose forces are very difficult to resist by individual energies.

Awareness and consciousness are the basis of living, I am learning. Bringing your subconscious world into the conscious one will help create new patterns of living. And I am not saying this is easy. To break old patterns requires courage to move out of old self-created molds.

But there it is! Take it or leave it!

Surekha Kothari

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Retaliation

 I can never find it in my heart to “understand” why we don’t see that everyone carries their burdens and their grief, sometimes silently and privately. We just see the surface and that too, may have more depth than we know.

The smile hides a million hurts. The “trying to be normal” with those that have hurt you terribly speaks of a grace no one wants to acknowledge.

What we do with our lives is a promise to ourselves. Do we want to elevate it or enslave it? Do we want to feel proud of who we are amidst many challenges, or do we want to fight battles which end up making us the losers? Because we don’t “win” in conflict. We just lose … lose our peace, our grace, our minds and our energies.

Ultimately, how does it matter that someone meant to insult or be rude? The onus is on them for their intentions. Yes, I know it is easy to say this and I have also been there. But you learn over time that dignity and respect are more important than retaliation, despite the fact that your non retaliation can be seen wrongly as weakness, but often, only when the attempt to bait does not work. At least, it does not disrupt your peace. And it is okay. Always prioritize on your peace is the lesson I have learnt.

If someone is on the wrong track, it is foolishness to follow. The larger part of the lesson.

Surekha Kothari

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Impurity of Intentions

There is an unseen force that guides us if we are tuned into it. There is also an observer within us that seldom lets us forget our wrongdoings and our impurity of intentions.

Despite this, we humans continue with our usual ways, in our unaware state. AND face consequences repeatedly.

What more can be said? What other pointers can be given when we ourselves are our worst enemies?

Surekha Kothari

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Divine

If we could remember everything, there would be no past, present and future. An interesting and intriguing proposition!

Some of our saints had graduated to that state. And they continue to be with us and around us to help us.

This universe is so vast and the possibilities so seamless, our limited awareness cannot even imagine the extent!

Even small glimpses are thrilling. If we can only expand this awareness and consciousness to incorporate a desire to unveil these aspects of this wonderful creation!

The Divine within the Divine!  There is nothing before and nothing beyond but existence within this Divine. And merging with it.

Surekha Kothari

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