Tuesday 31 May 2016
Sunday 29 May 2016
Friday 27 May 2016
Wednesday 25 May 2016
Mindset
Stereotypes and mindsets! We live with them all the time...
in fact; some of us do not know how to live without them...because if we don't
believe them, we are lost. Our whole foundation of survival is based on them.
Change, therefore, becomes a generator of fear...fear of the
unknown.
Like, I am holding my mom's finger for security…what will I do if I let go of
it?
The mind has no existence unless we fill it with thoughts
and emotions according to our perceptions, prejudices and thought processes.
When fear rules, we try to find solace in stereotypes, because they have been
tried and tested and provide a certain comfort level.
But these will never encourage growth. On the contrary, they can limit us to a point where we begin to live with closed minds which can breed all the negativity in the world.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday 24 May 2016
Monday 23 May 2016
Formula
“To
kill with kindness” is a wonderful formula. And deeply spiritual one. “Killing”
metaphorically.
The thought can bring a smile to your face but it is not easy
in reality. We are so accustomed to reacting in the manner of "an eye for
eye" that to remember to be kind to a "least deserving person"
(in our perspective) is out of
question.
To sustain kindness
no matter what is not impossible if we continue to be who we are
You must have noticed that to return
cruelty with kindness repeatedly is painful for the other person...in fact,
unbearable. The only way to bring a positive change in another is not to exchange
the good for the not-so-good.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday 22 May 2016
Friday 20 May 2016
Depraved or deprived
Depraved or
deprived? This is a very basic subject of analysis when we see young and idle
minds engaged in activities like rape, violence, anti national activities etc.
Are these partially or completely depraved minds? Or, are they pampered and
throughly spoilt, depraved minds who have been brainwashed, or completely out
of control, or dangerously criminal minds whose spirituality is dead?
Strange,
isn't it that this is the land of sages and the highest levels of spirituality
in which the darkest deeds are happening? Sure, it is a world of dualities!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday 17 May 2016
Density
Would we appreciate light if there
was no darkness? How would we see the good in someone if there was no bad in
this world? We live in the world of opposites so that we can make a move towards
the right choices for our soul.
It is all about our vibration levels.
Humans function at different levels of energy. Density gives more body
consciousness and less of subtle awareness. But unless we learn from the
Universe what it teaches us every minute, we will not be able to take
significant steps towards understanding the realm of the unseen phenomena.
The idea is not to expand our external worlds but to
discover our inner world in its micro form. Once this is accomplished, the
understanding of the macro world will be automatic. Because they are the same.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday 13 May 2016
Compromise
To be in sync
with life and ourselves, a huge body of inner work is required. Every thought
has to be sifted. Every word has to be measured for the hurt it can cause and
every action for its consequences.
Sometimes, we
don't realize how we compromise our principles for just short time gains. We
try to justify our false deeds by an outer coating of pretended genuineness and
then compliment ourselves for being clever...though we know we can't hide from
ourselves.
THAT should be the catch phrase for
us. That we can't hide from ourselves.
And
therefore, sifting and transforming our pretences to honesty becomes a
necessity, not a luxury to be experienced just now and then.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 11 May 2016
Circumstances
The day you start feeling the
hand of God in your life, you will gradually start letting go of many things
that may look good but not necessarily an integral part of your journey. We cultivate
some undesirable habits which we realize are undesirable...but they become
habits.
When you are meant to let go and don't, then God works through
circumstances to force you to quit.
The signs are very evident to a sensitive person.
But sometimes, the timing goes wrong and it is too late. For example, if you are a chain smoker and
believe nothing will happen to your health, and you see your family member or
friend passing from the world due to cancer of the lungs, it is a sign.
Or, your car has a puncture when you are about to leave home but you
have an important meeting. So, you ask for a cab. Half way, the cab stalls. You
still don't see the sign and call for another vehicle. And this vehicle has an
accident. See what I mean?
The Universe
always speaks to you in such ways but you do not give importance to these and
walk straight into a danger zone.
It is very useful, therefore, to be aware of what
life is showing you through signs.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday 10 May 2016
Guilt
Guilt is a wasted emotion. There is no merit in it. Because we
make the rules and we break them. Don't you think we know what we should not be
doing? And yet, we do it and feel guilty for having done it.
For example, sweets are not good for diabetics. But often, they
say it is forbidden and the very next minute, they have helped themselves to a
piece. And then they are ridden with guilt and worry.
So, instead of
bringing upon us a situation which ends up in guilt, can we avoid the very
reason which makes us guilty? And you know what that is?
A LACK OF SELF
CONTROL.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 9 May 2016
Friday 6 May 2016
Prevention
Do we see the
disconnect of words and action in some people? They say something completely
opposite.
We don’t realize how damaging it
can be to us. The mind and intellect have to be sync. If they are not, it
creates confusion over a period of time. The intellect gets clouded and the
result is disturbing.
The old values advocated “saying
what we mean” and “meaning what we say”. There was a valid reason. It
encouraged being true to ourselves.
Today, it is all
about being really nice outwardly and harboring many grouses within. This
bottling up is dangerous if done over a period of time because it can manifest
as serious and
even chronic ailments.
Prevention is
always better than cure...some kinds of cure are very long term and very
difficult to achieve.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 5 May 2016
Wednesday 4 May 2016
Perception
I have noticed that there is a threshold of tolerance for
life's events and once that is reached, the wells of dejection and depression
become very easy to fall into. Most if the time, it is people who don't support
people in such cases. They feel that supporting will take away something from
them. But the Universe gives more to those who give with a pure intention.
We say "man is not an
island" when we refer to relationships. But it is equally true that the
soul does
stand alone on the earth, unfolding its, unfolding
its own journey with some pointers and help from other souls here.
And yet, we gather so many
insecurities along the way...about people being critical, people not liking us,
people not wanting to socialize with us, isolating us etc.
Our perceptions can be really
narrow. If we expand our thought processes, we will understand that, we are all
like passengers on a train, travelling together in our own compartments, with
those others who travel with us. When we arrive at our station, we disembark.
Others carry on till their station comes up.
So, there are those who will
travel with you, whether with good will or criticism. Both are necessary for
the soul. If we can see everything and everyone around us as helping us in one
way or another, the first emotion we will let go of is stress. Our challenge is
not people but what they are mirroring in you.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday 3 May 2016
Monday 2 May 2016
Hospitality
Working
on yourself constantly is a necessity many disregard. The greatest impediment
to growth is the lifestyle. Affluence deprives us of the delights of spending
time with Mother Earth…living in villages, walking on green grass with bare
feet, having simple food cooked with great love by simple village folk…these
are great exercises in grounding us and enabling us to experience real people
and real values. It also connects us to our real one.
Even
today, if you go into the fields and meet the farmer, the hospitality is tremendous
and genuine. What you wear or how you look does not matter in the least.
“Atithi
Devo Bhavaha” is a reality even today,
though sadly, not so rampant in cities where we have buried ourselves in dense
matter and forgotten to swim in the flow of genuine emotions.
India,
despite centuries of abuse, has survived on the very strength of its spiritual
and value heritage which has been able to defeat the dark forces of subversion
since centuries and it will continue to
be a forerunner among nations.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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