Friday 30 December 2016
Wednesday 28 December 2016
Tuesday 27 December 2016
Monday 26 December 2016
Presumptions
Presumptions
and misunderstandings have a close relationship. If you understand something or
someone, you will make assumptions on the fact that you know and understand and
can therefore, predict to an extent.
But
when you misunderstand, that can be based on your expectations of people,
people you could sometimes be colored and prejudiced about. Actions in this
case may be misunderstood and hence, incorrect presumptions made, guillotining
someone who may be more innocent than guilty.
We
often mete out undue injustice in this way and should train ourselves to
observe rather than involve in emotional leanings that might prevent clear
thinking and damage relationships. We all live and learn. To correct faulty
patterns is not impossible.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 22 December 2016
Wednesday 21 December 2016
Tuesday 20 December 2016
Monday 19 December 2016
Destiny
Sometimes, when there is no moon, even the
tide goes into depression and ebbs away...life also ebbs away slowly, inch by
inch. Ultimately, you are face to face with your God. And you both know the
truth of your life. Life after life, only the Divine and your soul are players.
Destiny leads always. If Jesus Christ could be crucified, what can we say of
lesser beings? The world is a stage for many dramas unfolding...and the more
involved you get, the more miserable life becomes. Play your character to the
hilt as per your conscience. Don't expect anyone to know or empathize with your
story. After all, they are also birds of passage. What and who do you think you
can hold onto?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday 16 December 2016
Spiritual science
It
is so interesting to listen to people's conversations and observe the attitudes
and emotional patterns which shine through.
Trivial
and apparently casual conversations are not so ordinary because an aspect of
the personality becomes evident to the onlooker.
For
example, being secretive! I would prefer the word "privacy”. That has a
valid connotation for me. The word "secrecy" somehow demonstrates the
darker side ...and above all, the kind of things that people feel the need to
be secretive about surprises me.
If
you are invited to someone's home for a meal, the statement is, “I am OUT for
lunch", "OUT" being the catch word here. If you are going for a
holiday with "friends". No names mentioned! You might know them. AND
feel bad you were not invited two brothers, sisters or sisters in law don't
have any desire to share friends. Too close for comfort!
WHY?
All this in the name of "healthy" trends or the reverse?
Can
one call this a malfunctioning of society, this opacity and this compulsion to
control people and environment?
If
you really analyze this, the root cause is mostly the perception of a reduction
of attention and importance, or let's say, sharing the person and risking their
walk over to the other side. Or maybe, a tiny voice from within that might
whisper, "Maybe, the other person will outshine me". It is the fear
of loss, a loss of many things under the apparent, superficial reason.
Definitely an avoidable emotion! It just causes inner as well as outer
conflict. But it is a very real issue today. Gone are the days of togetherness
and large heartedness.
I
know there can never be unanimity in such views. But the basic fact remains
that these attitudes exhibit a deep sense of low confidence levels and self
esteem. Of course, one can carry on living in this state all of one's life. And
people DO, too.
On
the deeper level, these are also separatist attitudes where people are making
choices of people and taking sides, sometimes being forced into taking sides,
just because there are two sides...an undesirable polarization in perceptions!
Spiritual
science teaches us oneness, the complete opposite.
But
everything ultimately boils down to our self image. It is important to keep
updating it through constant work and experience. Not be a big fish in a small
pond and getting inflated but a small fish who is lively and courageous and
swims along, exploring the furthest corners of the huge universal ocean so as
never to be intimated by anyone or anything and taking on everything with a
personality adaptable , mature and confident.
The
canvas is so vast that the minds cannot afford to be small. This is a gross mismatch.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 15 December 2016
Wednesday 14 December 2016
Personalities
I just had to write on the post below. I don't think we even KNOW how
much in fear we live, in the name of love. We cling on to our "near and
dear" in the name of caring, sharing, unity etc. Parents claim to love
children. Children claim equally to love their parents. Friends claim to love
each other. But often, we see so many power games being played. The more
rampant the ego, the more power play we see. Powerful or powerless? In control
or controlled?
We readily compromise our personalities, our choices, swallow our tears
when hurt , smile when we want to scream foul play or blue murder....haven't we
seen enough misery in "families" , in fact, in most groups? ...and in
the bargain, we lose ourselves trying to procure a bit of love, to feel wanted.
We don't realize we go along with the wrong, the unjust, even the callous
because we want to feel good in being a part of people, and then we stop
thinking. We just have to toe the line. And we do...all the time. It is easy.
Exercising the right choice and thinking for ourselves may set us apart ...that
is scary, to say the least.
Exactly as the post says. We are so afraid of "losing" others
that the fear of loneliness results in our opting to lose ourselves instead for
a temporary happy feeling.
How heavy a price is this for our soul! Our journey is alone. We are
like passengers on a train who meet for a while and disembark when we reach our
destination. I have never seen any passenger telling another to go home with
them and live and die together. Have you?
But we know of people who had a mission and who had the courage to forgo
many an impediment to retrieve their inner core and energy from the people,
places and events to which they had lost it. So don’t be afraid to lose people,
be afraid of losing yourself.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday 13 December 2016
Friday 9 December 2016
Wednesday 7 December 2016
Divine gift
The
most difficult thing to do is KNOW the motives of people around you, SEE them
trying to harm you and yet smile it off without getting affected. In fact, even
meting out affection in return. There has to be so much confidence and faith
that anything that affects you has only been your choice.
I have
seen angry, even vicious people crumble under such cool attitudes. It’s also
called killing with kindness.
These
people are like mountains, "chattans" as they say in Hindi.
Unshakeable to the core! Yes, the core! When your core is anchored to the
Divine, it becomes truly irrelevant what kinds of webs of negativity might be
woven around you. It is like breaking your head against a wall...you will not
succeed in affecting such people.
What
a wonderful and Divine gift!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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