Knowledge

It would be surprising if anyone did not change with time and experiences. However, there are exceptions to every rule.

To my mind, those who don’t change are holding on to the past, consumed by their ego and do not learn the lessons that come to them on a daily basis.

It is easy to advise others but very difficult to ACT on your own advice.

Observing yourself will make you smile often at yourself and your actions, knowing that they were quite meaningless. And we indulged in them nevertheless. When we target others, we also become victims to our own misdeeds. And this knowledge can cure us forever and keep us from any kind of conflict.

I certainly would not want my anger to corrode into ME when I am venting. But it does come back to me. AND harms me. Likewise, why would I project ANY negative emotion if I knew that the outcome would be damaging for me?

It just doesn’t seem to make sense.  We do have to make our mistakes to learn the lessons. But after that, it would be foolish if we think we have a choice and so, need not learn the lessons.

Surekha Kothari

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Peace

 There is so much freedom and peace in doing the right thing and not expecting a return. You reach there after plenty of heartburn though! But once you reach there, you look back and have a hearty laugh at yourself for being so silly as to expect what you THOUGHT you would get in return.

Humans are so changeable, at least, a lot of them. There are exceptions and those are so meaningful to us. And you are lucky if you have even one of that rare kind around you.

So, knowing this, it becomes easier to be civil to everyone, even help wherever and whenever you can, and feel happy you are in a position to make someone’s life easier and better.

Peace is not so difficult to achieve, after all.

Surekha Kothari

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Emotional pain

It has been well established that we have the capacity to heal ourselves and don't have to live with pain. One of the worst is emotional pain, the pain of feeling hurt, rejection, being discriminated against, humiliation to name a few. And this happens because we give too much energy to these emotions. Our attention gets focused on just one point, our feelings.

Have you tried to focus at an object near you for a few seconds ? It builds up pressure. And then, when you look away into the expanse of vision before you, you feel relief. Similarly, if you look at the vastness before you, the emotions become very minuscule and manageable.

The heart is connected to this world and the other world to heal

these emotions by yourself, and you can, you need to meditate on the heart chakra, sending it love, sending love to the whole creation and visualising love coming your way from the whole creation. This is a powerful healing meditation. In a few weeks, there would be both inner and external changes to n time and with daily practice. The pain will recede for one, and a happier state of mind sets in worth trying.

Surekha Kothari

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Maturity level

Every academic institution today boasts of in-house counselors for their students. This was not prevalent when we were studying. If I might make a somewhat general statement, the issues were of less severity and the one factor I remember is the respect we had for teachers and parents. Education was considered a noble vocation and the quality of teaching high.

That is not to say education is poor today, on the contrary. There is so much more available and all of it more within reaches than we had. But this is not always commensurate with our mental levels as well as maturity levels. There is definitely more conflict of choices and less focus on patience and depth of learning as in giving learning and the practice of it enough time.

The inevitably resulting emotional and mental agonizing would most definitely include disorders of the mind, feelings like depression, anger and frustration, hopelessness etc. We don't know how far back these had come to stay within us. Starting with traumas related to birth itself.

So, within the last few years of my experience with counseling, I have really understood how deeply you need to understand a person before you can counsel them. How much of their energy you have to feel closely as if putting yourself in their shoes. It cannot be a superficial job if results are to be seen. And it is serious business because you are dealing with the psyche of people. The ideal result is calming and not aggravating the mind.

Surekha Kothari

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Space

Spaces really intrigues me. I have lived in all shapes and sizes of homes with small rooms and not so small rooms. People say space defines a human being. I wonder? Does it really?

I would rather concentrate on the space within. I have seen highly spiritual people live within a very tiny space. And I have also seen people living in mansions whose inner space is very small and restricted.

Sometimes, I think the larger the space within; the less is the desire to acquire external space. Because any space which is external would be limited as compared to our inner "Akash". Anyway, it's not as if the acquisition of a humongous amount of space would be put to good use. It would probably be a constantly inflating ego that would occupy the large space and reside there indefinitely, and sometimes permanently.

Whereas, the deeper memories are of small homes filled with love and warmth, a small kitchen with just two items cooked lovingly, of dormitory style sleeping amidst giggles and much joy. Of elders becoming like kids amidst kids. And who also taught us the meaning of life in all its simplicity where people loved people and used things.

Today, people are used and things are loved and times will change again and yet again.

Surekha Kothari

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Tolerance level

Our tolerance levels are so thin these days, every little pin prick becomes a wound. The reactions to small, simple things are just ridiculously huge. It's like the world might be ending the next second.

What is probably happening is, there are very few filters. Very little thought before action. It is evident everywhere. On the roads as road rage. In parties, as an aftermath of too much alcohol. In families with too much money, fame and power, and so on...

It is unfortunate that a land of an old spiritual tradition should come to this. The whole world looks to India for culture, tradition and spirituality, a few major qualities being tolerance, patience, respect, discipline and inner wisdom that was honed since a very young age in the earlier times.

Today, the teaching institutions themselves are so commercial and non spiritual that they are bound to impart the same energy to the youth of today. Who do we blame for the onslaught of the "instant coffee" and instant gratification age where money and values are not talked about in the same breath?

Surekha Kothari

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Depression

Depression should not be allowed to step close to us. It has many, many repercussions. If you examine the reasons, one of the foremost ones would be the pain of unfulfilled expectations, especially of unrequited love.

As we know, no man is an island. But in developing relationships, there comes a tipping point which turns the relationship into one of dependency, into a need of a crutch. Automatically then, this is the start of the end of the relationship. Healthy bonds work differently. They can work on mutual dependency better than one stronger and one weaker link.

There is every need to strengthen our backbone to stand upright, even if to walk alone. Inner strength compensates for the presence or perception of many lacks. And it would be within the preview of wisdom to be aware that we journey alone from life to life. So, holding onto to any form of crutch is going to be nothing short of meaningless. Then why the depression?

Surekha Kothari

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