Showing posts with label exceptions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label exceptions. Show all posts
Sunday, 31 May 2020
Thursday, 23 April 2020
Thursday, 28 February 2019
Emotional pain
It has been well established that we have
the capacity to heal ourselves and don't have to live with pain. One of the
worst is emotional pain, the pain of feeling hurt, rejection, being
discriminated against, humiliation to name a few. And this happens because we
give too much energy to these emotions. Our attention gets focused on just one
point, our feelings.
Have you tried to focus at an object near
you for a few seconds ? It builds up pressure. And then, when you look away
into the expanse of vision before you, you feel relief. Similarly, if you look
at the vastness before you, the emotions become very minuscule and manageable.
The heart is connected to this world and
the other world to heal
these emotions by yourself, and you can,
you need to meditate on the heart chakra, sending it love, sending love to the
whole creation and visualising love coming your way from the whole creation.
This is a powerful healing meditation. In a few weeks, there would be both
inner and external changes to n time and with daily practice. The pain will
recede for one, and a happier state of mind sets in worth trying.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 14 February 2019
Tuesday, 24 July 2018
Maturity level
Every academic institution today boasts of
in-house counselors for their students. This was not prevalent when we were
studying. If I might make a somewhat general statement, the issues were of less
severity and the one factor I remember is the respect we had for teachers and
parents. Education was considered a noble vocation and the quality of teaching
high.
That is not to say education is poor today,
on the contrary. There is so much more available and all of it more within reaches
than we had. But this is not always commensurate with our mental levels as well
as maturity levels. There is definitely more conflict of choices and less focus
on patience and depth of learning as in giving learning and the practice of it
enough time.
The inevitably resulting emotional and
mental agonizing would most definitely include disorders of the mind, feelings
like depression, anger and frustration, hopelessness etc. We don't know how far
back these had come to stay within us. Starting with traumas related to birth
itself.
So, within the last few years of my
experience with counseling, I have really understood how deeply you need to
understand a person before you can counsel them. How much of their energy you
have to feel closely as if putting yourself in their shoes. It cannot be a
superficial job if results are to be seen. And it is serious business because
you are dealing with the psyche of people. The ideal result is calming and not
aggravating the mind.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 15 April 2018
Space
Spaces really intrigues me. I have lived in
all shapes and sizes of homes with small rooms and not so small rooms. People
say space defines a human being. I wonder? Does it really?
I would rather concentrate on the space
within. I have seen highly spiritual people live within a very tiny space. And
I have also seen people living in mansions whose inner space is very small and
restricted.
Sometimes, I think the larger the space within;
the less is the desire to acquire external space. Because any space which is
external would be limited as compared to our inner "Akash". Anyway,
it's not as if the acquisition of a humongous amount of space would be put to
good use. It would probably be a constantly inflating ego that would occupy the
large space and reside there indefinitely, and sometimes permanently.
Whereas, the deeper memories are of small
homes filled with love and warmth, a small kitchen with just two items cooked
lovingly, of dormitory style sleeping amidst giggles and much joy. Of elders
becoming like kids amidst kids. And who also taught us the meaning of life in
all its simplicity where people loved people and used things.
Today, people are used and things are loved
and times will change again and yet again.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 27 February 2018
Sunday, 11 February 2018
Thursday, 17 August 2017
Thursday, 18 May 2017
Tuesday, 7 February 2017
Tuesday, 13 December 2016
Monday, 26 September 2016
Tolerance level
Our tolerance levels are so thin these days, every
little pin prick becomes a wound. The reactions to small, simple things are
just ridiculously huge. It's like the world might be ending the next second.
What is probably happening is, there are very few
filters. Very little thought before action. It is evident everywhere. On the
roads as road rage. In parties, as an aftermath of too much alcohol. In
families with too much money, fame and power, and so on...
It is unfortunate that a land of an old spiritual
tradition should come to this. The whole world looks to India for culture,
tradition and spirituality, a few major qualities being tolerance, patience,
respect, discipline and inner wisdom that was honed since a very young age in
the earlier times.
Today, the teaching institutions themselves are so
commercial and non spiritual that they are bound to impart the same energy to
the youth of today. Who do we blame for the onslaught of the "instant
coffee" and instant gratification age where money and values are not
talked about in the same breath?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 23 September 2016
Friday, 9 September 2016
Saturday, 3 September 2016
Monday, 29 August 2016
Friday, 26 August 2016
Depression
Depression
should not be allowed to step close to us. It has many, many repercussions. If
you examine the reasons, one of the foremost ones would be the pain of
unfulfilled expectations, especially of unrequited love.
As
we know, no man is an island. But in developing relationships, there comes a
tipping point which turns the relationship into one of dependency, into a need
of a crutch. Automatically then, this is the start of the end of the
relationship. Healthy bonds work differently. They can work on mutual
dependency better than one stronger and one weaker link.
There is every need to strengthen our backbone to stand upright,
even if to walk alone. Inner strength compensates for the presence or
perception of many lacks. And it would be within the preview of wisdom to be
aware that we journey alone from life to life. So, holding onto to any form of
crutch is going to be nothing short of meaningless. Then why the depression?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 10 August 2016
Wednesday, 3 August 2016
Genuine
The ingenuity of the human mind can conjure up "genuine"
reasons and justifications for actions and behavior. We are masters at the game
of illusions which are
a product of our creativity.
But there is only one reality. Sooner or later, we will arrive at that.
Rather, we will HAVE to arrive at that. Like a derailed train or delayed train
that might reach its destination late...how late would depend on how soon the
obstacles can be cleared. Life is pretty much like that. The difference is, in
our case, only we can clear those blocks and obstacles. We can go round and
round but ultimately, we have to find our path to reality. If we won't exercise
the right choices, we will be led to the right choice....
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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