Showing posts with label reflection. Show all posts
Showing posts with label reflection. Show all posts
Tuesday, 17 December 2024
Monday, 18 November 2024
Realization
Ironically, the day you start
healing is the day you realize that you really have no control over anything
anyone says, thinks, understands (or misunderstands) or acts. You realize that
you are constantly pushing yourself or being pushed into corners all the time.
And suddenly, the tipping point
happens and you just invert the bag of baggage into a dust bin instead of your
mind becoming the dustbin where the unnecessary baggage should have been thrown
out long ago.
I guess karma could also be a
sudden realization after a lot of struggle. That change could be lifesaving,
better, soul saving.
Any realization comes with awareness.
When, how and why will depend on our own reflection.
Surekha Kothari
www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 30 May 2024
Thursday, 25 January 2024
Reflection and Practice
Sometimes, when we start talking
about spiritual thought, we also run the risk of a little spiritual arrogance!
There are many texts being quoted but little reflection and practice.
There are no mountains to climb
but simple steps towards uncovering our spiritual base which we have, sometimes
in our ignorance, covered with confused thoughts. We may be led to think we are
on the right track but we may not be.
Overt behavior sometimes is
judged as non-spiritual. It need not be. Our basic nature prevails unless we
work on it. But human goodness can still be lurking within. Superficial
judgements can be completely off the mark.
Humans have a tendency to judge
people superficially because generally, they see only the surface of a person.
Whereas, the teal person can be very different.
Therefore, both judging people
and gossiping speaks of the shallowness of the people who indulge in it.
Let us get out of both tendencies
because we have been the victims of both at one time or another and we
definitely have not enjoyed the experience. So why indulge in them at all?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 3 October 2023
Personal Reflection
In relationships, how much are
you doing merely for show and how much you really do with genuine feeling
should be analyzed. We are in the habit of fooling ourselves!
And often we genuinely also
believe that we are doing things for the right reasons! But really speaking, we
all like to believe this about ourselves. It can be far from the truth.
Virtue is not partial. It is
universal. We cannot call ourselves virtuous if this only shows up sometimes.
It is so easy to blame others
based on the past. We all do this… keep hardcore memory about what was done
years back. We tend to forget all the good that we also saw in people years
ago. No memory there! Only blame continues.
Anyways, the onus is on us
ultimately. We can believe in humans or malign them. Or we can mend fences and
build bridges without judgement and while giving chances to some valuable
relationships gone wrong due to expectations and blame, misunderstanding and
negativity.
… and before we start accusing
anyone, there are no exceptions to imperfect humans. Let us not be under any
illusions that one is better or worse. Because if we have changed for the
better in some aspects, we still have work to do on many other aspects. So, to
keep any form of ego would be a mistake.
If all aspects evolve, we would
all be Buddha. But, with a little change, we become more egoistic than humble
and detached like Buddha.
Immediately, we start comparing
with the others who might appear less evolved.
This is why each one has to look
within and bare our misdeeds to ourselves so that we can accept the complicated
thought processes we carry in terms of our fabricated psyches. They don’t have
much to do with our reality.
But yes, real change happens only
with pure awareness, acceptance and personal reflection.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 28 September 2023
Thursday, 7 September 2023
Friday, 26 August 2022
Cleansing
Reflecting on the behavior on others is really futile. The mind is a vast ocean of desires, many complexities, memories and negativities along with the positives. It is the former that really persist. Somehow, the mind has a tendency to dwell only on its own well-being. And so, the ego will distort the truth a million times over for that false sense of well-being.
The modern-day human is so acquisitive that the prime feeling prevalent is a feeling of being threatened that some people seem better off in some aspects. It is so evident that fear rules. The fear of loss! Ironically, whatever we fear losing is already lost because it was never ours. And yet, we hanker after this mirage and see a falsity that masquerades as reality.
Minds are so afflicted that what is termed as “normal” is often just a figment of imagination, often a delusion. And far away from the actual reality.
The worst is trying to cleanse our inner pollution while surrounded by polluted minds. An uphill task, for sure! Many give up because it seems an impossible climb!
Yet, we have to start. The alternatives to this will lead us nowhere.
Surekha Kothari
www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 3 February 2022
Tuesday, 11 August 2020
Perspectives
A popular thought: if God brings you to it,
HE will take you through it”. As we go through life, with each onslaught, we
begin to get stronger and stronger. As they say, if it doesn’t kill you, it HAS
to make you stronger.
When I see my loved ones having to live
without people they loved very much, and living with grace, I realize that we
really have no business to be anything other than compassionate. And live with
courage. And self respect.
Every second day, there is news of someone
getting unwell. There is always news of families breaking apart. There is
enough misery to cope with. And enough support to be given.
I really don’t know what to say about
people who get so selfish in their ego that they don’t recognize even those who
care for them. Their loss, I guess. They have not learnt to count their blessings.
Or, are in a whirlpool of mixed emotions where they don’t want to know that
they also could be riddled with faulty perspectives.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 3 May 2018
Ignorance
The hardest thing is to let go and let
people walk away. As hard as it is to walk away from people who have
contributed to happy memories. Tough to convince yourself that their role in
your life is over and yet, to remember that they are your soul connections from
many lives. Good to remember that they play a part in your life as you do in
theirs.
How intense is attachment? And how painful,
too. And worse is when, in ignorance, you begin to react badly to them when you
don't need to. We all just play a role.
But how difficult it is to make you believe
this! How very intense and illusory is attachment!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 18 January 2018
Aspects of life
You know, there is a need for each one of
us to seek as much exposure to the various aspects of life as possible because
only by observing the lives of others, different situations arising out of who
you are and how much you earn and how honed a personality you have ended up
becoming....
There are people who live in their own
little world who just don't develop themselves because they are just too myopic
or fearful.
You can easily educate yourself on your
own. Provided you want to. You just need interest, attitude and time, apart
from being like a sponge and imbibing and imbibing more and more, internalizing
the information and then making the necessary changes to your thinking and
emotions.
We tend to look at people very
superficially and tend to shun people who we don't understand instead of trying
to understand them and learning something we don't know.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 28 June 2017
Monday, 5 June 2017
Sunday, 21 May 2017
Packaging of knowledge!
Packaging
of knowledge! Every generation responds to what it can understand and can get
convinced about. Today, there is a huge movement towards spiritual
understanding amongst youngsters. PROVIDED it is presented in a manner that
they can relate to.
We
still have the traditional, religious concepts like deity worship etc. And that
is fine because it is the faith that carries us through, wherever we place it.
But in a knowledge based generation, the "why" of every belief, every
sentiment, and every action must be answered. Ironically, we have to explain
logically the phenomena that are beyond logic.
This
is precisely why the Bhagvad Gita is the most widely read and studied today. It
is a way of life and even spirituality has to be understood as a way of life.
The
meaning of dharma, karma , cause and effect , and all the laws that the
Universe would have us live by must be experienced and not just talked about.
Doubts must be addressed and cleared and this can only be done by practicing
them and observing results. Only then can convictions become a reality.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 10 May 2017
Friday, 28 October 2016
Wednesday, 28 September 2016
Digesting success!
Digesting success! It is a social issue
which increases with more materialism incorporating elements like excess
wealth, celebrity status and the power that accompanies these, often bringing
in a certain amount of carelessness, even callousness and riding slip shod over
people because with a head in the clouds, looking down is not a virtue in
possession.
Spiritually,
these are often not compatible because of what they do to the psyche. It is
only the odd person who can digest “success” in
terms of good karma being rewarded and therefore, gratitude.
But there is a little good news…
Today,
the tolerance to myopic attitudes is wearing thin. The wheel is turning once
more towards the universal values and against self centered thoughts and actions at the cost of others.
Today,
gradually, right is being applauded as right and wrong as wrong. I guess we are
fed up of artifice, might is right, the attitude that the end justifies the
means and the economic disparities which continue to make it difficult for the
common man to keep a certain standard, especially when there is so much
available that money can buy today.. And it doesn't help to have glaring
publicity and opulence for those few who have much and state it every minute
with their attitudes, their lifestyles and not enough demonstration of
improving the lot of the masses in the country.
No, I
am not either a communist or an anti capitalist. But I do believe in values
like stooping when tall, humble when successful and contributing to creating a
balanced society in every way.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 11 August 2016
Wednesday, 3 August 2016
Genuine
The ingenuity of the human mind can conjure up "genuine"
reasons and justifications for actions and behavior. We are masters at the game
of illusions which are
a product of our creativity.
But there is only one reality. Sooner or later, we will arrive at that.
Rather, we will HAVE to arrive at that. Like a derailed train or delayed train
that might reach its destination late...how late would depend on how soon the
obstacles can be cleared. Life is pretty much like that. The difference is, in
our case, only we can clear those blocks and obstacles. We can go round and
round but ultimately, we have to find our path to reality. If we won't exercise
the right choices, we will be led to the right choice....
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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