Showing posts with label Disembark. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Disembark. Show all posts
Monday, 29 June 2020
Monday, 10 February 2020
Sunday, 26 May 2019
Wednesday, 20 February 2019
Tuesday, 28 August 2018
Journey
I think we all know that we can change the
belief systems that are obsolete and have stopped working for us. Which means that
we can recreate our reality? So, if we wallow within the same obsolete non
reality , and refuse to change it, what happens is, there is a clash between
that and new realities of the people around them.
...and this might lead to a situation
where," never the twain shall meet".
Evolution is all about changing perceptions
based on an affected mind. As and how we realize we have not translated our
experiences into true knowledge, we must change our quality of actions to
inspire better experiences.
Life is a constant journey.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 31 May 2018
Monday, 28 May 2018
Thursday, 24 May 2018
Sunday, 13 May 2018
Thursday, 3 May 2018
Ignorance
The hardest thing is to let go and let
people walk away. As hard as it is to walk away from people who have
contributed to happy memories. Tough to convince yourself that their role in
your life is over and yet, to remember that they are your soul connections from
many lives. Good to remember that they play a part in your life as you do in
theirs.
How intense is attachment? And how painful,
too. And worse is when, in ignorance, you begin to react badly to them when you
don't need to. We all just play a role.
But how difficult it is to make you believe
this! How very intense and illusory is attachment!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 10 April 2018
Tuesday, 3 April 2018
Wednesday, 21 March 2018
Tuesday, 6 March 2018
Sunday, 11 February 2018
Performances
When we pronounce people as insecure, it is
actually an issue of self esteem. There are immensely talented people who have
not gone anywhere, Reason? Low self esteem leading to a diffidence, often all
through life. Starting with a lack of award winning "performances" in
the eyes of a critical family to self criticism, the journey is very painful.
And then they don't believe those who see their talents and try to encourage
them to look beyond their self image.
On the flip side are average
but very confident people who get past obstacles with their winning ways and
even reach the top. Self esteem was hardly an issue here. But they work hard
for recognition to compensate for their lack of natural talent and a limited
acquired one. At group gatherings, people stand out in both these cases. It is
interesting to watch how some can just take over while the others prefer to
keep quiet despite the ability for coherent and intelligent speech. The mix of
individual and group energy is a case study I enjoy learning from.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 13 July 2017
Foolishness
Very often, we seem to have little or no
control over our thoughts. They keep coming almost like a cyclone and shake up
the very core of an individual. Very few have the awareness and capacity to
stop them when required, observe them and change them if and when necessary.
Sometimes, out of nowhere, some thoughts
connected with old wounds surface suddenly. And then we understand that the
healing is still pending. We will not get over these thoughts unless we heal
them. Through understanding, love and forgiveness. What damages healing is also
the intensity of negative feelings. The more intense, the less the ability to
let go and more the pain and resentment.
Often, we are also so helpless with
thoughts coming in. We actually believe that thoughts just come in. But from where?
And do we have the power to regulate them or not? Do we KNOW we create them AND
have the power to let them go, bring them in, transform the negative ones at
will and by choosing the direction we want them to take? Perhaps not.
People say they tried but no resolution was
found. Again, let us ask "why". Because we insist on playing and
replaying the same old "hurt" tape in our mind.
Again and again and again. We want a salutary
action, a re conciliatory action from the person who has hurt us. Right? We are
unwilling to let go till this is done.
We don't realize that WE can sort this out
ourselves. Why do we need the crutch or a dependency to feel better? Or even to
forgive and forget? Come on! Resolve the hurt yourself. Because you CHOSE to
get hurt. Right? So, why expect someone else to solve YOUR issue, created by
YOU?
We need to get out of the mode of
"approval seeking" and emotional dependence. We want to belong
somewhere, lean on someone because we don't know how to live with people AND be
independent. We keep loaning or giving away our precious energy to them.
The help we expect from others can be
easily done through self counseling because at the end of the day, it is OUR
ego that initiates the hurt. So, with counseling the ego, it is possible to
heal it and even smile at what we realize now, was utter foolishness on our
part.
Simple, my dear Watson! How can anyone hurt
me if I don't WANT to get hurt?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Wednesday, 31 May 2017
Life in KALYUG
Very
long ago, a definition was given about life in KALYUG...
1.
KALYUG would be found in the streets of ADHARMA.
2.
In DYUTKREEDA: that is, making easy money by foul play and without deserving it
through hard work.
3.
PAANAM / VYASAN: poisonous consumption, addiction of liquor, drugs and in thoughts,
words and deeds.
4.
Indulging in gossip
5.
Less sleep and prone to several health issues.
6.
More anger
7.
Less energy and inner happiness.
8.
More arrogance and showmanship
9.
Less purity of mind and body.
10.
Violence in all forms: thoughts, emotions and physical. Prone to enmity and
opposition.
Story:
A
shishya who lived in his guru's ashram had a habit of smoking.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 17 May 2017
Wednesday, 10 May 2017
Attitude
A
beautiful story with a message. There was once a clever businessman who, while crossing a river, fell
in. Not knowing how to swim, he started shouting for help. A traveler who was
walking along the bridge thought he would help him. So, he bent down and
extended his hand, saying “give me your hand”.
The
drowning man said, "No, I won't give you my hand". The man who was
trying to save him understood that he has never developed a habit of giving.
So, he told him, "can you at least HOLD my hand?” the man said, "yes”,
and was pulled to safety.
If we
look at the attitude of both, we understand how important it is to give.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 24 April 2017
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