Wednesday 28 February 2018
Tuesday 27 February 2018
Immaturity
Immaturity can be a curse for those who
seek happiness. I am sure that knowingly, no one would drive themselves towards
unhappiness. It is the inability to see that one is on the wrong path and on a
path that leads to grief and nowhere else.
What is immaturity? To my mind, it has many
faces.
A tendency to be impulsive can be
immaturity because it can tilt the balance between cause and effect, and
balance in everything is the key.
Thinking only of your own comfort and
disregarding the feelings of others is immaturity because true happiness is a
derivative of the heart which works in two ways: give and take.
Living without morals and values is
immaturity. Maturity is when you have your principles and responsibilities
intact along with freedom.
Immaturity is when you don't know who is
sincere and who isn't, when you get impressed by external facades instead of
evaluating the inner core of people.
A lack of Ethics constitutes a big portion
of immaturity, when you, out of your own unhappiness and dissatisfaction with
your existing life, cause upheavals in the lives of others, when you let your
petty ego mar beautiful relationships.
When you live in denial of your own
weaknesses and refuse to be counseled. And sometimes, choose those to counsel
you who have a hidden motive to come close, shunning those who love you and
have wisdom to impart.
Carrying grouses over small issues and
allowing this to distance you from people, without actually realizing that no
one can be perfect and that only love makes imperfect perfect.
These are just a few. I am sure everyone
will have points to add to these. And those who speculate on this subject will
definitely be able resolve a lot of confusion in their minds.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 26 February 2018
Observers
There are people who, for some reason, do
not trust or have faith in most people. They are suspicious. What happens then
is that they close their mind and heart to even good advice because they don't
trust.
Observers can see many more traits clearly
than the person who is experiencing negativity. They are heavily into the
denial mode. The tragedy is that they also get distanced from people, sometimes
from people they have been close to. Their vision gets clouded and they can't
discriminate the sincere from the insincere.
The bottom line being that we are
responsible for our lives, we need to pull up our socks, however impossible it
may seem to do so during that low phase. There are all kinds of solutions available
and possible if we don't start obsessively harping on just that one which is
not a working solution. We just need to trust that things will get better if we
know how to make them better and keep trying until they do.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday 25 February 2018
Thursday 22 February 2018
Trait
To be dependable is a great character
trait. Can people do that with you? When you say something, you do it. When you
commit something, you stand by it. You value your words as much as others do
because you top them up with action, a great quality, indeed.
I see loose words hanging in the air a lot.
You learn to understand who says things for effect and will never act on them.
In the long run, you simply can't depend on them. Not a good thing and not the
best way to be or the best reputation to have. Because it demonstrates that you
are not committed even to yourself.
I hear people say that they are committed
to some and not to others. But then, don't offer or promise to do things for
people you are NOT feeling committed to. Then you are okay and would still be
called a committed person. People have forgotten that words are energy and are
to be valued.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 21 February 2018
Tuesday 20 February 2018
Unrealistic
It is unrealistic to think we can do
whatever we like and get away without a tag attached. Life is a trade off. God
sneakily perhaps gave us free will while lining our path with karma at the same
time so that we are often confused into taking turns which bring grief. And we
have done this completely on our own, no one to blame but yourself. And the
too, you can't really blame yourself because you had to make the choice you
did. The tag attached and the price to pay these is also karma inspired. Your
mind will work in a certain way to make you experience the results of your
actions.
Does it sound ominous? If it does, you need
a change your attitude towards it. Grumble and bear Grin and bear or understand
and bear. But bear you must.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 19 February 2018
Sunday 18 February 2018
Introspection
To speak freely is a human right. To live
in fear and bottle up your opinions and thoughts is an injustice that societies
must come together to combat, for good can only come out of a free and frank
discussion followed by introspection.
Just as we stop in our tracks when a black
cat crosses, (sheer superstition but we do it nevertheless), we need to stop in
our tracks when our thoughts, speech and actions become black.
Black is a color which soaks in white to
make a gray but what we need is pure white, the healing light and the light of
clarity and purity.
There are so many tags attached to life…
such as "difficult", "unbearable", "sad”,
"exhausting" when we work with black.
What we need is radiant white in our lives.
And white symbolizes "simple", "honest”, "loving" and
bright....
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 15 February 2018
Peace
Sometimes, we feel heavy and drained, Exhausted
with having to do this and having to do that. Aren't we the real culprits? We
blame this and that but.... who ask us to pack in so much?
My favorite line these days is, why aim for
being a perfectionist in an imperfect world? I mean, if something doesn't get
done today, it will be done tomorrow. I envy people who can be calm and
completely chilled out about postponing work.
But, really speaking, nothing can replace
peace and calm. Not even being eulogized about how perfectly a job was done and
certainly not at the cost of mental health.
Hey, chill out! I really recommend peace
rather than a piece of stress, definitely not worth it because perfection is
generally to show to others. Each one of us is already a perfect part of
perfection. And so, there is no action needed to become what we already are.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday 13 February 2018
Judgments
When
the mind is untouched by pollution, all human chatter fades into
insignificance. When Jesus Christ can be nailed to the cross, this world is
certainly not the right place to be in. We are all here to find peace in a
cruel world, detachment in an illusory world and courage to eliminate the
superficial layers in order to reach the soul.
People
who embark on this journey seem to appear to artificial people like pretentious
drama artists. But actually, stripping every layer of polluted skin, peeling
away memories is painful to say the least but cannot be seen by those who
struggle to survive on the strength of pleading that others approve of them.
They have yet to discover their true spirituality.
"Avidya"
or ignorance until it is seen and accepted as such, leads to illusory
perceptions of being knowledgeable and often results in arrogance and scant
respect even for the seniors in the family and society.
From
"Ram Rajya" to this, the cycle continues. New scripts will be written
in every phase when the old lose their interest quotient. New characters will
come up to play the roles of "family" and "society". And
value judgments will be given each time. Many will continue to get affected and
many will learn their lessons from experiencing their karma and move on to
another world.
Remember,
as the candle shortens, its flame burns brighter. Similarly, those who get
smaller in spirituality speak the loudest , perhaps like empty vessels making
much noise... in fact, much conflict and chaos.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 12 February 2018
Sunday 11 February 2018
Performances
When we pronounce people as insecure, it is
actually an issue of self esteem. There are immensely talented people who have
not gone anywhere, Reason? Low self esteem leading to a diffidence, often all
through life. Starting with a lack of award winning "performances" in
the eyes of a critical family to self criticism, the journey is very painful.
And then they don't believe those who see their talents and try to encourage
them to look beyond their self image.
On the flip side are average
but very confident people who get past obstacles with their winning ways and
even reach the top. Self esteem was hardly an issue here. But they work hard
for recognition to compensate for their lack of natural talent and a limited
acquired one. At group gatherings, people stand out in both these cases. It is
interesting to watch how some can just take over while the others prefer to
keep quiet despite the ability for coherent and intelligent speech. The mix of
individual and group energy is a case study I enjoy learning from.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 8 February 2018
Mind control
As we progress from phase to phase, we keep
changing drastically sometimes. My favorite line used to be, “I will never do
this". Over the years, I have done almost everything I said I would never
do. "Never" is a word which now holds a very childish connotation in
my book of life.
But on the flip side, do notice that I used
"ALMOST everything". That is vital to study. What gets excluded from
the "almost?"
You know, in reverse psychology, if you
want someone to do something, tell them not to do it and it will be definitely
done. Similarly, what you should exclude from your "almost everything”,
only your mind can do for you.
You can be adventurous and want to try it
all with the exception of what is not good or healthy for you. And there comes
the role of mind control. I call the mind the "x" factor, like in
Algebra where we were supposed to discover or arrive at the value of
"x".
Aren't we all spending our days doing just that?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 7 February 2018
Tuesday 6 February 2018
Spiritual evolution
Our spiritual evolution takes place slowly,
often unobtrusively only because we don't recognize it at first. Like birth
pangs, it comes in periodic convulsions, leaving us empty and exhausted. But
regular bouts over a period of time start to withdraw us bit by bit from the world,
through what we often call disillusionment, a subtle corrosion of our
involvement in it. I have come to the conclusion that this has to ultimately
happen to every soul, a kind of saturation point reached, if you will. The
tipping point comes after which the real evolution starts, with a gradual
detachment, a good way to live out karma.
Like a friend said recently, you don't have
to let the fire that purifies you, singe or burn you, because that is not
wisdom. You have to start closing chapters that you write sooner or later. But
close you must.
And before you close the final chapter of your
life, you owe yourself peace and an eye towards your real home.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 5 February 2018
Sunday 4 February 2018
Blessings
Beautiful lines. We receive so many
blessings all through life and all the time. But our eyes are desperately on
the locked doors of our own desires which we keep knocking on. Some of those
doors have nothing but grief beyond them but we persist. And ironically, those
that are open we walk through without evaluating what we leave behind when we
carelessly stride through.
This is the human folly that we see within
us and around us that triggers waves of unhappiness. The capacity to deepen an
experience lies within us. To stand still and breathe in the nectar from the
air is ours to do. And the more we breathe in, the deeper the resonance of the
depth.
This is exactly why our peers have
recommended counting our blessings. Because with each count, the blessing gains
strength and more it gains in strength, the deeper is lodges within the psyche
and the more it manifests constantly.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 1 February 2018
Melancholy
Melancholy and loneliness are eternal
partners. The former tends to alienate you from others because no one wants an
extra share. Most of the people I know have that area within that they battle
with. But melancholy people cannot be jolly and laughing either. So, they stand
alone. From this situation arises a void, loneliness. Your heart may go out to
them but their company can be exhausting.
Such is the situation in families and
society today. That tolerance is unavailable. Any amount of mental illnesses is
available for the asking.
Circumstantially, if life
pushes you into isolation, options can still be found. Either you can get lost
in your feeling lonely and unwanted or you can concentrate on learning and
creating a new life. Melancholy and depression are hardly ways to live a
beautiful if tough life. Giving in and giving up need to be replaced by "I
can and I will".
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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