Showing posts with label Observer. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Observer. Show all posts
Tuesday, 7 May 2024
Wednesday, 11 October 2023
Sunday, 5 April 2020
The Freedom Movement
Our generation, which was born around the
freedom movement, much idealism , patriotism, the spirit of sacrifice, of
honour and integrity, has more than its share of emotions. Emotions were our
ammunition to deal with injustice and for a strike for independence from
colonialism.
We were also taught to give more than take.
We respected morality, ethics and principles. We were loyal to family, to
social ethics, to senior citizens and prided ourselves in being the way we
were.
Today, we are gradually beginning to
realise that these are the values to imbibe. Standing tall is in fashion,
thanks to our PM, who is as humane as he is a no nonsense Indian, proud and
self respecting not only on his behalf but on behalf of the nation. He exudes
an exemplary and inspiring persona. You want to emulate him.
It strikes a chord within my generation and
sparks a hope that we can salvage the traditional and cultural heritage that
keep our heads held high. Proud to be an Indian , especially from the earlier
generation.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 4 July 2019
Monday, 8 April 2019
Thursday, 19 July 2018
Choices of feeling
There are so many built in systems within
us which, when we discover, we also marvel at. Putting them into words is
difficult. Like the inner voice which tells you what to do if it is loud and
clear. Of course, if we have muffled it along the way, it is a different story
altogether.
Then the choices of feeling, should I mind this?
Or should I feel bad? Should I feel happy or sad? Shall I give in or resist
eating heavy calorie foods?
Then, there is the system of the body
relating the story of the mind. All the psychosomatic problems that manifest in
the body, telling us all is not well.
And if you know how to read the systems,
you could nip any arising issues in the bud. There aren't any external systems
that can be originators of issues. Look within. All the treasure and all the
"poison” is all there.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 18 April 2018
Tuesday, 20 March 2018
Desire
What often becomes a wound, regret and a
cause for depression is the memory of what we aspired for but didn't get. I
would really like to meet one person who got everything, haven't yet met one.
But neither have I met many who are able to
count what they HAVE got. If only we could use a magnifying glass to view our
blessings, we could find it in our hearts to feel very foolish at our myopia.
From the smallest toy when we are kids to
huge empires when we are adults are on our wish list. Avarice rules us in
wanting the world, beyond ambition. And the whole conflict is about being
deprived of the few desires in life as compared to the ones achieved and these
being the reason to feel happy and blessed.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 8 March 2018
Thursday, 15 February 2018
Sunday, 19 November 2017
Conversation
I think I understand why people don't share
heart to heart conversations anymore. Or rarely... it is not easy to understand
the pain of others for the simple reason that each one's intensity of feeling
the pain and the reasons for the pain are distinctive to each person. What
won't touch me will probably scar someone else for life. And while I could be
clinical , the other person could feel suffocated with an unimaginable tide of
grief.
Ultimately, life is about how much you can
reconcile yourself to. How much numbness you develop before you start to get
into the kind of drug induced slumber that knocks off your brain for a few
hours.
Count your blessings...one, two,
three......calm down! You are alone with your pain. And you have to get your
own power and control back. For one, stop giving importance to that feeling
which is likely to drown you. Cleanse your energy before it breaks you and
brings you to a point of no return. Create space around to build up the
capacity for movement. The last thing you need is to stand still within the
muddied swamp of pain which no one can pull you out of but yourself.
So, share your feelings with yourself, then
expel them from your system and relax with a smile and a charminar!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Wednesday, 19 July 2017
Thursday, 6 July 2017
Progressive
Common
sense says one must do what is progressive. What hinders progress is obviously
our inability to THINK progressive. India being such an ancient country, it is
steeped in various traditions. Each state has its own culture and traditions,
almost as if it were a different country.
As
a nation, we evolved. We tried to learn from other countries as did others from
us. But somewhere, we started thinking that the definition of progress is more
money, more power. The race is to become a power center. In every field.
This
power center is like the honey that bees get attracted to and swarm around. And
then, we develop a mob mentality ruled by these power centers. Basically, a mob
mentality is mindless and can often become a dangerous trend.
Any
belief that begins to border on fanaticism loses its core of origin. Every
belief starts with an experience and gets strengthened as a stereotype which is
then very hard to let go or change.
We
must remember that stereotypes are valid for a period of time. And there valid
reasons for their development and existence, too. But they are not all
timeless.
We
have heard ad nauseum that change is a constant. So, some truths also change
with time. To move on and adapt ourselves would certainly be progress if the
consequences all around would be win all around.
But
if we try and hang onto some stereotypes which lost their value in an evolving
world or within a changing context, we could end up in a regressive situation
instead of a progressive one. And every phase is chronicled in history as the
wisdom or the madness of men. We look back in judgment but what we need is to
be vigilant and aware in every phase so that wisdom prevails and we need not
look back with regret, small or big.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 24 May 2017
Energy exchange
I
was listening to an interview on criticism and being a critic. It is amazing
that we never think of it as energy exchange. But it is.
When
you criticize someone, you cause pain. But in doing so, you also go through
pain. In fact, if you criticize with negative energy, it causes you more harm
because the energy is deliberately emitted. The receiver can deal with this
kind of energy in three ways.
1.
Either take it in, absorb and feel the pain.
2.
See that energy coming at you and return it. Someone criticizes you. You
criticize them back. But the negative vibrations stay.
3. Transform that energy. Understand that the person has negative vibrations and
that you need not harm yourself by taking it in. This way, with understanding,
you have transformed the negative energy.
I
don't think there can be any contest in which one a clear intellect would
choose. But is it that simple? It can be, though.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 16 May 2017
Tuesday, 24 January 2017
Compulsions
How many compulsions we have to deal with in life on a
regular basis! A lot of energy is lost if we look at them as necessary evils.
To HAVE to do something against our wishes needs an instant infusion of extra
energy in the form of mustering up a little more enthusiasm than we actually
want at that point.
There is heaviness and reluctance and a need to just become
invisible so that there is no compulsion foisted on us.
But actually, that compulsion could be pushing us towards
new experiences which we would be deprived of otherwise. It is like not wanting
new experiences and getting caught in a limited space because we are
comfortable there.
I have realized this fact. And
each time I have surrendered to compulsions, I have gained in one way or
another. Rather than avoid them and miss out on a piece of life. It could be
that the universe wants us to have that experience and that may be the right
time for it. And maybe, we would emerge wiser, better and happier in the
bargain.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 28 April 2016
Entrenchment
Even we don't
know how deeply entrenched we are in this world. Every minute we are creating
more and more attachments, more and more prejudices, inflated egos and little
signs of starting the process of detachment. We are amassing products of misery
and stress each minute and then, in desperation, looking for people to bail us
out or improve our lot.
It is very possible to live as
householders and still maintain a detached attachment and equilibrium. It is
not necessary to become a recluse and go into the Himalayas to practice detachment. On the contrary!
Living
amongst people and yet being balanced is the acid test for us all.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 18 April 2016
Friday, 15 April 2016
Monday, 4 April 2016
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