In relationships, how much are
you doing merely for show and how much you really do with genuine feeling
should be analyzed. We are in the habit of fooling ourselves!
And often we genuinely also
believe that we are doing things for the right reasons! But really speaking, we
all like to believe this about ourselves. It can be far from the truth.
Virtue is not partial. It is
universal. We cannot call ourselves virtuous if this only shows up sometimes.
It is so easy to blame others
based on the past. We all do this… keep hardcore memory about what was done
years back. We tend to forget all the good that we also saw in people years
ago. No memory there! Only blame continues.
Anyways, the onus is on us
ultimately. We can believe in humans or malign them. Or we can mend fences and
build bridges without judgement and while giving chances to some valuable
relationships gone wrong due to expectations and blame, misunderstanding and
negativity.
… and before we start accusing
anyone, there are no exceptions to imperfect humans. Let us not be under any
illusions that one is better or worse. Because if we have changed for the
better in some aspects, we still have work to do on many other aspects. So, to
keep any form of ego would be a mistake.
If all aspects evolve, we would
all be Buddha. But, with a little change, we become more egoistic than humble
and detached like Buddha.
Immediately, we start comparing
with the others who might appear less evolved.
This is why each one has to look
within and bare our misdeeds to ourselves so that we can accept the complicated
thought processes we carry in terms of our fabricated psyches. They don’t have
much to do with our reality.
But yes, real change happens only
with pure awareness, acceptance and personal reflection.
Surekha Kothari
www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
