Recognize

The law of resonance is the simplest law to understand and if practiced, can turn your life around and bring it into a happy mode.

Just do not react to negativity in anyone. And this can only happen if you yourself are a positive person. As long as you are reacting to people, you too, definitely have some of that negativity within you.

The state of not being swayed is when you come into your own and stop resonating with anyone’s negativity because you are no longer recognizing it within yourself. It is pretty amazing how liberated you feel when you reach that state.

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Retaliation

Sometimes it is important to be silent. The chatter of the mind, playing the devil, can be all consuming.  It is time then to keep quiet and retreat to a corner where you CAN be quiet. Helps you think and reflect.

Retaliation does more damage. It is counterproductive. It takes you back to the devil’s territory in the mind.

I have found retaliation / conflict to be a self-starter to disaster most of the time. Your perception might be that it was started by another. But no!

It started with your own choice of response to an event. Something triggered negativity in you and your reaction then became the cause of the deepening of conflict. 

Think about it! This is how suffering starts. It is our choice.

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Art of living

 

The only way that these days, one can retain relationships is being perfect in the presence of people and NO weakness must show. Want to cry? Go to the restroom, sob to your heart’s content and paste the perfect smile on that face before venturing back into the crowds. In short, bottle up! And then we wonder why there are increasing cases or depression, even cancer!!!

Ultimately, it is all about contacts and group activities. If you are desperate to belong, well, you have to pay the price.

Especially if someone treats you badly, giving it back “sweetly” denotes the art of living well. After all, suffering is self-inflicted, isn’t it? Who asked anyone to so sensitive to callousness and insults? A rhino Hyde required, please!!! Or otherwise, sit in loneliness. For you will be shunned!

The art of living in this world is perceived this way. If Sri is trying to teach you another form of this art, then will it penetrate a trained thick Hyde steeped in the material World?

With so much pettiness, self-seeking and value less existence, a large part of the world may still be insensitive to abuse and knows how to return negativity with cloaked negativity. The question is, which form of the Art of living do we subscribe to? Because both seem to “work” for different purposes.

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Quote of the day

 

Quote of the day

 

Quote of the day

 

Aware of the patterns

It takes a while for people to believe that we can heal ourselves in many ways. Because we are responsible for making ourselves ill in the first place, we have also been endowed with self healing powers. Some terminal cases have been healed , too. Two cases that I know of with terminal illnesses cured themselves just through a few hours of pranayama per day.

The fact of the matter is , our thoughts and emotions when starting to deeply embed within ourselves are what manifest later. Negative emotions arising out of negative thoughts are the core reason for a gradual

Deterioration in health.

People ask me how any “ normal” person can stop feeling hurt or sad or depressed or angry at some time and in some situations. Sure ! True. But it is one thing to feel it momentarily and another to let it fester. Instead, it is healthier to let it go. Any emotion that is doing harm instead of good cannot be acceptable.

If relationships you have valued get affected, if restlessness and guilt sets in, if peace eludes you and thoughts crowd you each second, you haven’t started walking towards the path of light.

Become aware of the patterns and stereotypes you live with and don’t hesitate in asking for forgiveness, forgiving yourself and erase any memories that are painful, knowing they are just your perceptions. Give the benefit of doubt . And let go , let go. How many times ? Well, all the time. Holding on will harm you. It will bring illnesses you don’t need anytime soon , in fact, not at all.

So, relax. Have a “char minar,” as the saying goes.

Surekha Kothari

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Divine spirit

Every night, you acknowledge that the Divine spirit guides and protects your life. You also say a prayer in gratitude, for health, safety, love and support given by the universe. When things go right, we forget that they need not have time for gratitude.

Many a time, we have a close shave, a near mishap on the road. But we are safe time for gratitude.

So many similar situations have come into our lives as potential dangers, but, only potential time for gratitude.

Surekha Kothari

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Ability to analyze

The capacity and the ability to understand depends on the calmness of mind which we possess or should possess. To think, to analyze, we need to keep a very peaceful mind. More often than not sometimes, the anger which sits ever ready on the tips of our noses activates immediately and puts an end to anything we might have been able to understand under normal circumstances.

But having said that when people live in a toxic environment from day to day with toxic people sanity can become a "has been". And calmness a distant dream. But people live like that. And if it doesn't kill them, it should make them stronger. As they say in Hindi, and I am translating here, that when pain transcends beyond a point, it actually becomes like medication. And at this point, calm should descend so that the ability to analyze should return.

If only....

Surekha Kothari

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Truth

Tact, diplomacy or a deflection of truth? The lines between these are blurred today. There are very fine lines between these. So much so that it becomes difficult to tell the difference unless we can really fathom our own intentions or those of others, for that matter.

Twisting the truth a bit to suit our for-the-moment needs is often done under tact and/or diplomacy.

Actually, we need compassion for ourselves when this happens. Because we stray without knowing this. And this straying is so subtle that even we can't see it at the time. Of course, for some, it may also be deliberate.

Facing our truth is like getting scorched under the sun with no shade at all. And who is strong enough?

Truth is truth. Undiluted. To be tactful is just to say the truth so that it is palatable. Diplomacy has shades of tact but is slightly diluted. Because a diplomatic person tends to say what the opposite person wants to hear. So, often, that borders little on truth.

It is a fine balancing act. There can be possibilities of crushing someone's self esteem with truth or a possibility of making them feel good with a slight camouflage of truth. That’s why life is called gray and not black or white. And sometimes, our wisdom can be another person's poison.

Surekha Kothari

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Polluted Mind

Keep the pollution away. And I don't mean only environmental pollution. That is an obvious fact. There are other forms. For example, what a polluted mind can do is not apparent even when our own mind does it. We should be so much aware, actually, that even if a polluted thought enters your mind, you ask for forgiveness immediately. Excessive? Not at all!

You will notice that we all have formulated very "artful" ways of overlooking the pollution in our minds. Take humor. One always knew of laughter being the best medicine, as avid Readers’ Digest readers believed laughter to be. But how much dislike and aversion can humor be laced with is something we all have seen many a time. Right? In fact, every night, at bedtime, if you recap every detailed thought, word and deed honestly to yourself, some pollution will be visible. Some negative thought about something, someone...even you. (You are equally important, if not more). Or, some emotions that lashed out uncontrollably because someone else was at fault and "did that to you"...when you know that no one can do anything to you unless you permit it...and some acts also that we try to palm off on some incident or people , acts that we are not really proud of.

One way to reduce this pollution is to keep the mind outside of you. Examine it minutely and see what thinks is and what it says to you. And take the positive in and keep the rest out. With a little practice, you will see a difference. Once you know you can do this successfully, you will want to do this exercise again and again like a child because you will start feeling so good about yourself that you will never want to regress to that pollution stage again.

Surekha Kothari

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Quote of the Day

Experiment

Sometimes, we carry the burden of compromise relationships just so we are not lonely. The other alternative, living with ourselves, is scary for many.

I advocate an experiment. Just make a resolution for 24 hours to be completely by you, without phone, TV, books and people. Just spend that time by yourself, with yourself. Can you do it? Think, meditate, introspect ....a sense of restlessness and even fear will grip you in a few hours, that is, if you last out for hours. Old memories, insecurities, negativities will crowd your mind.

And that is the very reason why it is essential to be silent every once in a while...it is a kind of mental and emotional detox and does wonders. It also energizes and gives mental strength. Which is difficult when you are within a compromise mode in relationships?

Because your energy is depleted while giving up your individual energy to a person or group. You will understand this when you look at yourself with awareness. And when you make the transition to resisting the impulse of compromising your personality time and time again, which invariably would result in feeling that something is not quite right within.

Surekha Kothari

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