Tact,
diplomacy or a deflection of truth? The lines between these are blurred today.
There are very fine lines between these. So much so that it becomes difficult
to tell the difference unless we can really fathom our own intentions or those
of others, for that matter.
Twisting
the truth a bit to suit our for-the-moment needs is often done under tact
and/or diplomacy.
Actually,
we need compassion for ourselves when this happens. Because we stray without
knowing this. And this straying is so subtle that even we can't see it at the
time. Of course, for some, it may also be deliberate.
Facing
our truth is like getting scorched under the sun with no shade at all. And who
is strong enough?
Truth
is truth. Undiluted. To be tactful is just to say the truth so that it is
palatable. Diplomacy has shades of tact but is slightly diluted. Because a
diplomatic person tends to say what the opposite person wants to hear. So,
often, that borders little on truth.
It
is a fine balancing act. There can be possibilities of crushing someone's self
esteem with truth or a possibility of making them feel good with a slight
camouflage of truth. That’s why life is called gray and not black or white. And
sometimes, our wisdom can be another person's poison.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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