And the Lord said, "Forgive them,
Lord, for they know not what they do". Forgiveness is the biggest tool in
life. Every human being needs it big time. The value of this healing tool can
be realized only with the development of a spiritual mind and spiritual study.
Human beings tend to get very caught up in ego based conflicts, whether within
family or outside, because they lack the basic knowledge of soul connections
from other lives.
Our texts speak of unconditional love as
the only way to live. With all. But this was a principle of satyug. In kaliyug,
we look for saccharine instead of sugar, an attractive exterior instead of a
beautiful soul, superficiality instead of feeling each others' pain, and a lot
more. But as in everything in life, there is a positive aspect. You adjust and
adjust and adjust with your pain and hurt until acceptance sets in.
Spiritualists can achieve this without going under permanently. Others are
scarred for life.
And the irony is, none of this is real and
all we are doing is playing the roles we are given. There is never any
permanent damage but for our ego. It's like hating a very likeable person just
because he plays the role of a villain in a drama.
I know there are always reactions to life,
events and people because everyone thinks differently. Everyone IS different
and can only play their own roles even if we expect that they should change the
script for our sake. They cannot because that is the way they were meant to be.
Otherwise how would WE experience OUR Karma?
And it is we who cause ourselves much
damage by reacting badly and then holding on to our self inflicted wounds.
Those who hold on can only pretend to move on. They may be masters of
pretensions and fool everyone. But what about the soul within that knows the truth?
From every angle, we see a different truth
sometimes. Because we can only look at things our way and according to our
level of understanding. That's why we speak of putting ourselves in someone
else's shoes. Which is very difficult unless you are very mature and truly
spiritual, and realize that no one is perfect and everyone has ups and downs
which affect all the members of a family or group.
Therefore, forgiveness and understanding
are the greatest tools we have and should exercise instead of conflict,
criticism and diluting connections of the heart.
People often tell me that they forgive but
cannot forget. And I see nothing wrong. If you have a good memory, you will
remember. The acid test is , does your memory have an emotional charge ? If so,
then you have not forgiven. And your karma with that soul or those souls is not
yet neutralized.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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