Thursday 28 September 2017
Analysis
All these years of my practice have taught me that the one
single enemy within is insecurity. It is like the nucleus of an amoeba. Everything
undesirable emerges from it.
I can be insecure about innumerable things. Starting at
birth, with my environment. Maybe, I was not a wanted child. The family never
accepted me. Maybe, I grew up in isolation...a neglected child. Could be my
family was financially not sound and I had to pinch pennies....and
circumstances like this....
People seldom realize what has transpired in the lives of
individuals they meet or know, and how and why they have become the way they
are today...
Character and personality are not traits only from one life.
We have multiple personalities living within us. Kids who display certain
qualities don't do it coincidentally. There is always a good reason.
So, insecurities build up from childhood, not only because
of incidents that happen in this life but also those from other lives that we
are here to neutralize.
An analysis of these insecurities will bring up effects like
anger, complexes, diffidence, lack of self worth, envy , jealousy etc.
In fact, insecurities are directly proportionate to the self
image. Feeling good and worthwhile is important to survival. And self image is
generally based on the illusory self and therefore, cannot sustain itself, as
all illusions cannot and do not.
So, try the antidote to insecurity. Strip away the surface
layers of reactions one by one. Realize the power of love as being able to
achieve miracles and discard anything that your soul within revolts at. Listen
to the voice of the soul from within and understand what the Universe tells you
about your life and how to live it. Gradually, you will succeed in dropping all
insecurity, the biggest being that of the inevitability of death.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 27 September 2017
Monday 25 September 2017
Promises
“I
really wanted to do it but could not". " I wanted to actually say
something else but I ended up....".” I am going to do this tomorrow even
if I have to create a 25th hour."...
Promises!
Promises! To myself or others or both....but no action...constant
procrastination shows an undefined, undecided mind. Maybe, a lazy mind with
very little positive energy. Someone who is carrying a huge weight on them. Or,
a diffident mind.
Sometimes,
I think the journey is so darned complicated! Such different mindsets! So much emotion!
So much distrust...Lack of courage…among those "lucky" people who
have much to thank the Universe for.
And
on the other side, friendly and smiling faces of those who are
"deprived" of faculties, limbs but filled with divine energy and
divine spirit...fearless and indomitable.
I
learnt a new lesson today. A renewed awareness of these aspects of learning and
the fact that it is so important to resume living life after every rest we
take.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday 22 September 2017
Sense of excitement
Life
does not give prior warnings. There are no re tests. There is no fast forward
or rewind. We just have to make sense of what works for us with a bit of trial
and error. But that is the fun of life as well...an adventure into the
unknown...
It
can also be a source of stress if not treated as an adventure. But come on… what
is there to lose ultimately? Only what WE hold on to, right? If we just dropped
things that we carried, it would be great. And we would experience freedom.
I
have found that things I was so stuck on for a long time were actually trivial,
though, as per current perceptions. But that's fine. This is what moving on
means.
I
believe that so much is changing in the external environment today because
somewhere, humans are beginning to raise their vibrations. They have been
creatures of low energy so far, their energies constantly being depleted and
sacrificed to petty thoughts....not adhering to the universal principles or the
spiritual ways of living. We have paid a heavy price. No more.
There
is a new phase opening up. A better and hopefully, higher way of life. If you
notice, several spiritual groups are meditating for world peace all over the
world. The good news is, youngsters are joining in. The kids being born today
are reflecting the phenomenon of the elevating vibrations of young parents.
These kids are incredible.
We
are gradually and surely moving into a new world where there is a sense of
excitement, a hope and a proactive projection into the future. Where nothing
less than merit, ethics and honesty shall prevail.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 21 September 2017
Wednesday 20 September 2017
Tuesday 19 September 2017
State of abundance
Life works very logically. When you want
something, it keeps you in want. When you feel abundant, abundance comes to
you. Strange? Not really.
See...we are all about memories. Unpleasant
and pleasant. Negative and positive. So, when we live within those negative
memories and are not happy, we feel a lack, and we cut our cord with the
completeness which is the Divine. Of which we are a part. It is like saying, I
am born in my family but I am not a part of it. So, I will not do what they do.
So... a lack cannot be filled up unless you
recognize that you don't have any lack actually. The Divine, your source, is
complete. You CANNOT have a lack. It is only a perception.
In the second scenario, you feel abundance.
Because you understand the truth about who you are and where you belong. So,
nothing transient should be able to take away your abundance. However much you
try and empty an ocean with a cup, you can't. It will always be complete. And
when you don't react to the world, you live in a perpetual state of abundance.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 18 September 2017
Sunday 17 September 2017
Circumstances
To deserve what you get! How far is this true?
Does everyone get what they deserve? "Deserving" is such a debatable
word. We all feel at one time or another that we didn't get what we deserved.
It is an imaginary yardstick we have for ourselves that makes or breaks us.
Who is really to say what we should have or
not have in terms of anything ? Or, deserve it for that matter.
How many times we set goals, work towards
them but fail to achieve them. Did we not deserve them then?
Likewise, we get pulled into a tunnel of
success in something we never even hankered after. Did we deserve that when we
did not ever work for it ? Was it luck? Or karma?
So, deserving is something it is better not
to focus on too much. You want to achieve something, go at it with full steam.
Try your best. Don't judge at all, whether you achieve your goals or not.
Because, this is a most positive way you can live your life. Circumstances may
change while you toil. You may also decide to change course along the way. Who knows?
So, why care or wonder about deserving at all? You had what you had. You have
what you have. You will have what you will have in the future. A perfect
attitude for contentment.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 14 September 2017
Exhaustion
Life makes us change by force if we don't
do it willingly and with understanding. We resist and resist and resist....we
agonize, agonize, agonize...we defy, defy, defy…we live in conflict, combat the
world day after day....
And what happens finally? Nothing but exhaustion!
More and more exhaustion. Till we want to drop.
When do we call it a day? When do we start
looking for a little bit of heaven? A little bit of peace?
A tortoise withdraws into its shell to keep
safe during an adverse climate. Not so the human...sometimes, two people are
too many! And the shell is merely a nonexistent illusion. The desire to have
your will prevail at all costs blinds a human to all else. After all, aren’t
the free will a gift of God? While we move slowly but surely towards exhaustion,
we lose out on life itself...and then nothing matters anymore.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 13 September 2017
Tuesday 12 September 2017
Ideologies
I wish we could "see" ourselves growing up. And stop ourselves
each time we were getting conditioned by thoughts and ideologies that would
never work later in life...so much of what we imbibe along the way is not our
own. We have been indoctrinated with belief systems that are not personally
experience based. So, they may not fit the bill. As grownups, therefore, we end
up unlearning some, relearning some and creating some new ones.
The mistake we make is not stopping to re examine our thought processes
often enough. We carry on living according to our obsolete thinking and wonder
why we are not feeling light and happy.
So, recreate yourself time and time again to feel the pulse
of life. Live life to the fullest. Release yourself from old pains, and go
forward light hearted and adventurous into the exciting unknown.
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday 10 September 2017
Consideration
Relationships
are longer lasting if they are spontaneous. When you keep away, despite
closeness, out of too much consideration or an "iffy" attitude, you
end up creating a vacuum in the other and often, distances may crop up
gradually but surely. I have seen cases where one of the two in a relationship
actually drives it. The other sits back for whatever reason. This is just one
type which struggles to survive.
I
really wonder whether there are too many "equal" relationships in
this world. Spontaneous and happy.
Most
of my clients struggle with inequality. It is amazing how simple answers aren't
forthcoming or visible at the best of times and people love to wallow in their
self created, self pity, aided by complex thinking inspired by a complicated
mind.
They
say, heart connections are more enduring. But I have seen them transform into
controlling tendencies or over sized expectations.
Then
again, heart and head connections are advocated. But if one has more heart and
the other has more head, it might pose a challenge.
So,
what works best is to just be you because life is a challenge for each of us.
Often, just trying to manage relationships becomes stressful. So, stop managing
(or manipulating) and start living your own life and live it well. Because
living someone else's life is something you can't do without a lot of confusion
and pain. You were not meant to in the first place.
And
the good news is, some people will always walk through your life.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday 8 September 2017
Punishments
Sometimes, it is necessary to be cruel to be
kind. To save the life of a loved one, we willingly sign an approval form for
allowing a surgeon to use a knife on them. It is very painful to sit through
each minute until we hear an "operation successful" verdict. It seems
as if we lived those hours as if they were days and months. But we did it.
Punishments to kids are designed also for
propelling them towards learning. Children often say, "You are so
cruel". We laugh because we know we love the kids and why we do what we
do. But they perceive it in a different way.
It is not only to others but on ourselves, too,
that we have to practice this principle. To be tough on ourselves doesn't come
easy. Grit your teeth. Tighten your belt....apt supporting thoughts. Indulge
yourself a little only when you are generally in a state of balance. But
success comes with resisting much temptation along the way, using much
discipline, even more determination and perseverance. All these are symbolic
"knives" . They "bleed" you but ultimately help you and
give you a quality of life which could make you the object of envy.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 6 September 2017
Tuesday 5 September 2017
Destination
Time is linear. From the day we are born,
we are moving towards death. Ascension is symbolized as going upwards, evolving,
elevating ourselves. Even the Holy Cross means just that. A horizontal line
crossed by a vertical. The kunadalini rising through the chakras upwards also
means the same, that evolution implies breaking the linear and circular
dimensions to ascend, through higher vibrations generated by higher and purer
thought processes and use this life to shed all that is meaningless for our
ascension. Only we can do that by travelling the road enlightened people walk
along , to walk in their footsteps and to learn from them before we move along
on our own towards the only destination that we have been given this life for.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday 3 September 2017
Level of faith
I
find the fuss about genders very shallow. I mean, so... there are women and
there are men. I may as well be saying, there are lions and deer’s, or roses
and lilies. All creations of the Almighty.
Don't
you think all this fuss is that of just being unable to accept that creation is
made up of various forms, humans, animals and birds, nature, the flora fauna?
We fail to see the unified field behind the various forms. Our main but
invisible link. Unfortunately, we are very focused merely on the apparent and
visible differences of forms. Like, when we are so engrossed in a movie, we
fail to see the steady and unmoving screen on which the movie is being
projected. Without which there would be no movie at all.
The
actual consciousness of being a particular gender or the obsession with this
has a very valid reason. We don't remember but we have had different gender
roles in our past lives and the memory of this resides in our subconscious.
Sometime or other, our personalities may come alive within us when triggers
happen. The truth is, we are both female and male inside us. But we deny it
while role playing. We are not comfortable in our skin perhaps. Coupled with
this is our mind conditioning, of playing gender based roles.
It’s
only when we connect on the level of faith and love and equality that we can
start respecting all life on this earth. Instead of being intolerant and
separatist based on personal preferences. Only then will the social evils that
we see in our society today will be a thing of the past.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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Friday 1 September 2017
Vital knowledge
To have and to hold! This capsule has five
words but meaning on many levels. To have what? A soul, a life, a mind, an
intellect, a free will, relationships, education, feelings, values, ego,
attachments, hatreds, fears....many , many more. We as humans, fashioned in the
image of God, have everything that God has.
But...
To hold is another story. What do we hold onto?
Or do we hold onto anything? What is the ultimate realization?
Do we vibrate on the same level and connect
with HIM? It is indeed difficult to have around us, everything that we don't
need and must not want. And then we have to actually know this, separate the
two and make choices. Sounds complicated, right? And that's why "to
hold" becomes a journey of trials and errors. First, to understand what we
have, what is of value in our lives from what we have, and to explore the
hidden aspects of what we have to understand their meaning in our lives.
Next, to realize which items from what we
have must be held on to. Holding on can be very illusory at times. Like, when
you spot a monkey and a baby monkey clutching on to each other ( or so it
appears), can you tell whether it is the baby clutching on or the mother ?
In life, we also feel that people hold on
to us, places and events draw us..but the fact is, it is we who hold on to
these things because of our fears, insecurities and a lack of awareness of our
own spirituality, of who we actually are and where we come from and go to.
Once we have this vital knowledge, we can
easily go onto making the right choices. It is only the right knowledge and
enlightened knowledge that will bring maturity and growth, which, in turn will
make "to have and to hold" a meaningful reality.
For this, how many souls are ready to work,
is the moot question.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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