Showing posts with label attitude. Show all posts
Showing posts with label attitude. Show all posts

Tuesday, 1 October 2024

Recognize

We often fail to recognize the impact of the people we meet in our lives. Each time I go out, I meet just a few people in a crowd and I know I was meant to meet them. I recognize that there are no coincidences.

When the mind is open and you are a seeker, help comes from various places and learning becomes easy. IF you have the attitude that everyone teaches you something. At a conference of almost 1000 people, most of them unknown to you, this happens. It is truly incredible!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari


Wednesday, 28 December 2022

Attitude

 

We keep ourselves busy throughout the day. But we have never reflected on our attitude while doing our chores or other actions during the day.

Some work is being done with joy but some also under force, not really wanting to but having to.

From where does the “having to” arise? There is an always a reason and once we reflect on our attitude with which we perform daily actions, we can perhaps change every action into an attitude of service.

This attitude of being of service to someone or something with every action transforms it into virtually a prayer. Your actions then acquire a new dimension, that of every action becoming a meditation. Of course, the joy of doing things with this attitude day by day will transform us into beings of light over a period of time.

Therefore, Attitude is most important. We fulfil social obligations as if we are doing a favour to someone… grumbling but attending the event nonetheless. How much we have to lie to ourselves! Instead, if we must go, it can be done gracefully and willingly. This is just one example. There are so many things in the day where we need to take on everything smilingly. If we just can’t, then we just don’t if it is not essential.

Just as a glass remains clear inspite of colored liquids being poured into it, our mind should remain pure, whatever thoughts or actions might require our presence. And one way to do all of this, is to let happiness be our core in whatever is required of us or we WANT to do it ourselves. It makes life simple, stress free and spiritual.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Monday, 28 March 2022

Superfluous

 How does it help to get desperate to get something in life ? I wonder ! If one has to get so desperate for anything, it really has to be worth it.  But, is anything really worth it ?

You lose your peace of mind and what you are ultimately left with after all that desperation and even some amount of frustration , is not peace but just a piece of your mind which has been fragmented many times over.

Such a waste of energy and your mind , too. Even scientifically speaking, this state is a state of imbalance. It would be a good exercise to imagine all that we can actually do without , and the conclusion is mind boggling. Because we can do with a lot less. And this means many things in our lives are superfluous. Which in turn means, there is no need for any desperation to achieve the superfluous.

This brings us into a state of balance. If you achieve it, great ! If you don’t , great ! This attitude keeps the mind as well as our peace quotient intact.

And isn’t this what we strive day in and day out : a slice of peace ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Sunday, 20 September 2020

Contentment levels

 

The reason why we humans find life difficult is because it has so much to offer that we lose our instinct for choices also, because we lose ourselves and don’t find a direction.

Just like if you went out to dinner and the spread was so huge that you could not taste everything and later, you regretted not trying many of the other dishes. Of course, if you had, you may have ended up not liking a few.

Similarly, we also skim the surface of life, not tasting all of it , experiencing different tastes from others and therefore, unable to understand why others are not like us. And, like food, we end up liking and disliking, sometimes, without any apparent reason.

That’s why the best attitude is that what comes to you is meant for you. And that should be your contentment levels as you have new experiences.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Tuesday, 21 April 2020

Arrogance


Learning is directly proportional to your awareness that you NEED to learn to develop other parts of your personality. This awareness makes you come under the “smart” category. You can learn from anyone and anything if you want to. Yes, some of us like to make our own mistakes and learn and don’t want to be advised. But the last categories are the ones who come into the category of the ignorant. Once you feel you have all the answers, there is no learning or growth thereafter.
Who has all the answers? What it is, is an attitude of defiance, an element of ego that refuses to stand corrected an arrogance which stunts any possibility of illumination.
Surekha Kothari

surekhakothari.wordpress.com


Thursday, 23 August 2018

Evaluation


No two cases are identical though there may be similarities. We tend to assess people and situations based on our experiences. Sure, that's normal. We form certain belief systems based on these experiences.
What we forget is, others don't necessarily have to have the same or similar beliefs. Just because their conditioning, their thinking patterns may be different.
And that's why in society and even families, tolerating and accepting people of other belief systems is vital to harmony and peace in the world. And that is what plagues us: the lack of what we should have in abundance.
Why is it so difficult to understand that if I am different from others and expect to be liked for whom I am, then others also expect to be liked as they are. It is a healthy attitude and one which inspires more learning. Because we learn more from those we like, accept and respect.
This is not for closed minds though. You have to be very open to critical, objective evaluation of yourself and the performance of surgery of the blocked energies or trapped energies to accomplish a free flow of transforming energy.
So much to learn and so much time wasted!
Surekha Kothari

surekhakothari.wordpress.com


Thursday, 26 July 2018

Attitude


Wearing your attitude is an old saying. Actually, the difference is in its quality. An attitude is or should be an expression of who we are. Cultivated attitudes for presentation to the world are suspect, because that's not who we are.
At the end of the day, we have to live with ourselves. So, if somewhere within us, we feel the need to enact an attitude superficially, we may not be confident that we will be liked for ourselves. Which means, deep down, that we don't like ourselves too much?
The one we need to impress is ourselves, not others. As they say, we always talk about loving this one and that one, but how about loving ourselves so that our attitude may have genuineness to it?
Surekha Kothari

surekhakothari.wordpress.com


Tuesday, 24 July 2018

Maturity level


Every academic institution today boasts of in-house counselors for their students. This was not prevalent when we were studying. If I might make a somewhat general statement, the issues were of less severity and the one factor I remember is the respect we had for teachers and parents. Education was considered a noble vocation and the quality of teaching high.
That is not to say education is poor today, on the contrary. There is so much more available and all of it more within reaches than we had. But this is not always commensurate with our mental levels as well as maturity levels. There is definitely more conflict of choices and less focus on patience and depth of learning as in giving learning and the practice of it enough time.
The inevitably resulting emotional and mental agonizing would most definitely include disorders of the mind, feelings like depression, anger and frustration, hopelessness etc. We don't know how far back these had come to stay within us. Starting with traumas related to birth itself.
So, within the last few years of my experience with counseling, I have really understood how deeply you need to understand a person before you can counsel them. How much of their energy you have to feel closely as if putting yourself in their shoes. It cannot be a superficial job if results are to be seen. And it is serious business because you are dealing with the psyche of people. The ideal result is calming and not aggravating the mind.
Surekha Kothari

surekhakothari.wordpress.com