Showing posts with label Compliment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Compliment. Show all posts

Sunday, 24 June 2018

Happy living


Saving good energy is vital to happy living. Once you get sensitive to energy, it becomes much easier to sense what we call "bad vibes" from someone. Means negative energy directed towards you. And you need to be very strongly positive to be immune to it. Mostly, we are not.
So, until you become strong, it certainly would be the wiser option to stay away. Contrary to neither what many term this it is, not running away nor cowardice. It is merely a self protecting method. We owe it to ourselves because we seldom find someone who would act as a protective shield.
I say this from personal experience. Stay away and cleanse yourself from anything you don't want others to foist upon you. The more you are unaffected, the more you will continue to cleanse and be less and less affected until one day, you will smile and deflect the "vibes" you don't want to accept.
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 22 May 2018

Self-esteem


I have noticed that complexed people often not only have low self-esteem, they also retreat into themselves and prefer to hold back than brush away their fears and hesitation. You are done if you justify your stand because then, coming out of it is really difficult.
Do you endear yourself to yourself? Odd question, Not at all. In fact, THE right question. Because if you don't see anything within yourself that endears you to yourself, most likely you won't feel that you CAN endear yourself to others.
The answer lies in your shaking off the wrong ways of thinking which a body of complexes becomes with you, and approach life and people with simplicity and honesty. Not worth it to become heavy weight with negativity.
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 15 May 2018

Lifestyle


I hope there comes a time in everyone's life when you stop being influenced by others around and start to feel and act on your own. How much time we spend in minutes and hours every day fulfilling the needs of those around us? Granted, they are loved ones. But, it leaves us lacking somewhere.
By the question is, is it unhealthy not to love yourself? Do we have to feel guilt about it? So, how much do we do for ourselves? I see this image of sacrifice for others expected of a woman, a mother, a sister, most of the time.
Why is it that in India, women can be "up there" and revered or not desirable company? Especially when she strikes out for independence, loving herself no in between! Urban India is changing but it takes generations to gradually transform current trends and over a long period of time.
I find it is a lot of hypocrisy to revere the woman at home but not the ones outside, to honor what befits your mindset but choose to dishonor and disrespect those who perhaps don't fit in within your mindset or those you feel threatened by. Is it all about controls then?
The current dilemma is that of a changing role for women, which consequently must force change in the lifestyle of men.
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 21 February 2017

Fragility of life

The fragility of life! The desire to live and the illusion of being immortal keep us going. When there is a death, it only comes to the next door neighbor. Such is our mental makeup.
But life is fragile and a shock could be awaiting us round the corner. So, never take your health for granted as you grow older. Now a day, things just fester inside and by the time we can take stock, things are way worse than we dreamt.
I see people shying away from seeing doctors, fearful of what they might diagnose. We talk about "mind over matter" so easily but when it comes to us that are not always easy.
Just as being forewarned is being forearmed, being careful and balanced in everything would be wisdom.
And even then, we have to pass on when our time is up. Someone said live everyday as if it were your last. That everyday would be the best day every day. A great attitude even to nullify many a karma....
Wishing us all the dawn of this attitude...

Surekha Kothari

surekhakothari.wordpress.com


Monday, 31 October 2016

Spirituality

Spirituality is not a religion. Neither is it a chain of rituals to be performed. It is beyond anything manmade. We can be practicing any religion but we are all spiritual. Our intrinsic quality is to be a spirit.
Yet, people don't seem to understand this. They talk of anything spiritual like it is a phenomenon from another world.
Even if we teach the theory of spirituality, there will be a lacuna, because spirituality is to be recognized as a set of principles which have to be practiced and experienced. If you are spiritual, you have to follow a path which will be fraught with uncertainties and painful realizations. So, people don't go there at all. Understandable, I guess, but ultimately, a deep loss.

Surekha Kothari

surekhakothari.wordpress.com