Showing posts with label Philosophy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Philosophy. Show all posts

Tuesday, 25 February 2020

Truth


Truth is often unpalatable. Reality is often unacceptable. But facts don’t change. As you move through life, equations change, just like people playing different characters in a play. And the one thing you cannot afford to do is get wedded to one role. Otherwise, you cannot play another role effectively. Though you always remember the ones you played to the hilt.
In life, therefore, compartmentalization is of prime importance and leaving memories behind, too. We hold onto beautiful memories for dear life and lament on what has changed. But we have to allow for the evolution of everything and everyone. Not everyone will stay with you. Not everyone will care for you the way you want them to. And the opposite is also true.
But you know what? It is ok. There are many pluses in life and gratitude for this is imminent. You let go what doesn’t work and what doesn’t work is what gives you constant pain. What deprives you of your peace and happiness?
How many times do we cut our losses and make peace with ourselves?
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 12 November 2019

Understanding of people

When you develop an understanding of people and can muster up a kind of X-ray vision into their thoughts and predictable reactions or responses, life becomes very interesting . More than that, you begin to see it all as if you were watching a movie. You know what is going on and what is coming next.
What I discovered about this is that it kind of stops affecting your life after a while. You tend to get a little detached from what is unfolding before you.
I have stopped asking myself, “ what if ? Could I have ? Should I have ? “ etc etc. Because I can’t avoid the outcome. I think I could have done it this way or that way. But could I really have ?
So, getting immune is the best way to go.
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 18 August 2019

Personal behaviour

The thing about personal behaviour is that though you may get several accolades or critics by your side, ultimately, you are your own judge. Your motives are your own , and not always fathomed by the onlookers. So, it is probably better to be in a state of equilibrium on the outside and introspective within. No one is going to give you medals or punish you .
Generally, our conscience does all of this. Because we can't hide from ourselves, right ? The buck , therefore, stops right here, with us. It cannot be passed on. And hence, the periodic need for introspection.
Surekha Kothari

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Thursday, 24 January 2019

Quality of existence


Large heartedness is always the way to go. Humans are, by virtue of being a part of the Divine energy and hence, spiritual beings, are naturally expansive. This intrinsic quality must be retained to lead a higher quality of existence.
Ultimately, the micro IS the macro. But small mindedness is not productive. It is not natural. Servicing our needs which have already been built into the cosmic plan is therefore, is counterproductive. What we service is our wants, not our needs. And that's where the difference is not recognized.
You will notice that the moments of the greatest happiness are always when you have extended yourself beyond yourself to others; Maybe, charity or a kind listening ear, "annadaan”, imparting education, and the like, even loving selflessly.
The day we recognize this, we will be well on our way to a truly happy state of being.
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 6 November 2018

Philosophies of life

Isn't it amazing, this zest for life and will to live? Despite lives ending around us and all kinds of ailments plaguing humanity, we still carry on. Philosophies of life emerge every day. Some listen. Some listen and practice. Some don't listen. Some don't want to know and are happy in their world. Seasons come and go. Wrinkles start to show, last on the face and limbs. Those on the mind are older but when they manifest outwardly, we begin to take notice.
We are humans. We will regress some, progress some, cry some, laugh some, and carry on; Living life with all that we have, good, bad and indifferent. Who is anyone to say what these mean anyway? Because they mean so many different things to so many different people that you get exhausted from trying to fathom and analyze. It's like you roam all over the world and then finally, come back and rest only in your home.
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 11 March 2018

Love and morality



This world is preoccupied with love and morality. Everyone craves for love but it is the most hidden and rationed emotion. Almost as if we fear to love. And where there is fear, there can't be love.
We often tend to camouflage love within the layers of morality. In every day and age, there are different ways of expressing love. We take the love of parents for granted. Yet, some children do feel distanced from them also, for many reasons, but mainly due to their perceptions which may or may not be close to reality. As is the case everywhere, we don't express love or are scared of feeling it because we don't know if we will be loved back or whether that lonely core we have within us can or will be filled by another human being. Very few feel love at the soul level which is the true nature of love.So many conditions are attached to this word "love". "If you love, you can't do this.” And, “if you love, you just must not or cannot do that". Etc.
Love could be a part of morality but morality cannot be beyond love. Love is like space, vast and eternal. Morality is an attachment to be used as a tool as and when required. If love results in guilt, it gets attached to morality, the concept of right and wrong. If you believe that anything is right from the bottom of your heart, it is beyond morality. The condition is , the intention should be pure and should stem from our higher soul consciousness.
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 26 December 2017

Opinion

We all have an opinion about something. Some of us have an opinion on everything. Healthy debates are absolutely essential. But are these opinions relevant, based on some facts or coming from a space “it is my right to express". You know, "this is a democracy and I can say what I want". Sure. We can't argue with that. Except that the consequences of those opinions are of prime importance.
We all think we are right from where we are looking at life and situations. We look at the same thing with different eyes and a different mind which is wired differently. And obviously, the conclusions we arrive at are also varied.
The only people who desist from an opinion are perhaps the suppressed, depressed or fearful or, maybe those who just don't want to go there, for falling from grace maybe or for whatever reasons.
Those who are vocal will have plenty to say. Others might follow. Like, in a theatre, there are players and there is an audience.
This world is also pretty much similar. But for every tongue that speaks, there are two ears attached. The tongue is enclosed behind the lips for a reason: to give an opinion when required only or to keep silence. And the ears are outside: to listen carefully and take in what is necessary while throwing out the garbage through the second ear. Including harmful opinions, hate inspiring opinions, wicked opinions, dishonest opinions etc.
What a wonderful vehicle (body) we humans have! And how we abuse it and misuse it! We must contribute by way of opinions. But, the cardinal rule is:
Speak for all humanity.
And it will be heard by the Almighty.
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 24 December 2017

Stages

There comes a stage in your life when you don't need mush. In fact, at any given stage, what is really heartwarming is the feeling of warmth you share with someone. When someone extends hospitality and you reciprocate in equal measure. When you remember the small things you have done for each other, when you understand each other's circumstances without expectations.
Putting your best foot forward is done to impress initially. But it doesn't last. As a relationship deepens, superficiality gives way to a maturity and mutual respect. There may be a few such equations but they are the ultimate in satisfaction.
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 21 May 2017

Packaging of knowledge!

Packaging of knowledge! Every generation responds to what it can understand and can get convinced about. Today, there is a huge movement towards spiritual understanding amongst youngsters. PROVIDED it is presented in a manner that they can relate to.
We still have the traditional, religious concepts like deity worship etc. And that is fine because it is the faith that carries us through, wherever we place it. But in a knowledge based generation, the "why" of every belief, every sentiment, and every action must be answered. Ironically, we have to explain logically the phenomena that are beyond logic.
This is precisely why the Bhagvad Gita is the most widely read and studied today. It is a way of life and even spirituality has to be understood as a way of life.
The meaning of dharma, karma , cause and effect , and all the laws that the Universe would have us live by must be experienced and not just talked about. Doubts must be addressed and cleared and this can only be done by practicing them and observing results. Only then can convictions become a reality.
Surekha Kothari

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