Connectivity

 

I think we blame the artificial means of connectivity too much. I think human connectivity has failed to a great extent even before technology took over.

Remember how friendships used to be? Frankness and loyalty and trust were the three vital pillars of a relationship. What happened?

If you feel close to someone and say something you see in them that needs improvement, you will lose the relationship. The ego is intolerant. So much for frankness!

Loyalty? Trust? What’s that? Talking to others about your friends / family is a “normal” thing. Of course, we tell ourselves that we are not being disloyal. We are just sharing our lives to feel good. But does gossip make us “feel good “? If so, we need to examine our mental / emotional state.

We are gradually bringing society to a high superficial level, bringing “friendship” also to a level accumulating around us people who contribute to our egos and who make us feel relevant because somewhere within us, we have a big void.

In a world of social media, when “friends” can shun us because we have not studiously put a “like” to their posts or have not commented on certain posts, are we even qualified to seek friendships? What kind of priorities have we developed and how much “on the surface” are we! Sometimes, when I experience shallowness, I think we are lost in this jungle.

A definition of a relationship has changed many a time but it was never as multi-pronged like a hydra as it is today. The earlier 3 pillared edifices is rare and extremely valuable even if there is one human being in your life
who answers to this 3 pillared definition. You should not let people like that out of sight or your heart. Hold on to them. They are priceless.

Surekha Kothari

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Consequences

 

There was a time when the spoken word was like a signed document of trust. Today, cheating and lack of ethics in business is rampant. To execute a job order, a client has to pay 75 percent advance and in return, gets damaged goods.

It is money all the way and a hundred whitewashing excuses to deny a shoddy job done.

There seems to be no fear of divine intervention and fear of God, even though it is written in black and white that you will face adequate consequences for non-spiritual action. Yet, people think they can get away.

This kind of unethical earning will not stay. Like gambling money does not stay.

We know this to be true but we still let the devils within us win. For a little money.

Surekha Kothari

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Maturity

Maturity! A very vaguely understood, perhaps misunderstood condition. Generally, we refer to maturity when we actually speak of people aging. "Maturity" seems to be used as a synonym for aging. Frankly, it is only the body aging and so, all aged people need not be accused of being mature.

Maturity is an inner process of growth. It means to take complete ownership of the self and that, too, with responsibility. Very often, we remark about people's immature behavior or immature words. Both project a certain lack of growth.

Maturity has no direct connection with life experiences. But, it has everything to do with personal responses to those experiences.

There are times when you must give in and times when you must hold back. To understand when to exercise such a choice effectively is a part of being mature, to HANDLE yourself during situations, to be calm, to be proactive and aiming to cause least damage while acting upon a well thought out plan.

Maturity is to act wisely and bring a wholesome harmony into an erstwhile tense situation.

That is why impulsiveness is often not considered to be maturity. Not enough thought there! It is also often mistaken for "spontaneity" which, again, is not a synonym. "Impulsive" is judged as "childish". Yet, Osho says that to be childlike is to reclaim your innocence which leaves you desire less. He calls this state as maturity. Where you don't really NEED anything. You are happy anywhere, any time and no situation have the power to rob you of your peaceful state of being.

In maturity, we feel light and happy all the time. Because we have understood the transient nature of this world. That everything that has a beginning must have an end and that we don't have control of this cycle until we are mature enough to realize that we are all Buddha’s. We have understood that, apparently unobtrusively, we are flowing away with time and each time we make long term plans, God has a good laugh at our expense.

It is when this happens that maturity has dawned and ignorance has lost finally!

Surekha Kothari

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Perfectionist

It is not easy to deal with a desire for perfection in everything. You invariably deal with people who are anything but that. To deal with people when you are trying to achieve perfection and a certain standard in everything you do, you had better not rely on them completely unless you want to get stressed out and even fall ill. 

Perfectionists have little patience with mediocrity. But to expect your standard of work from others is also foolish. In fact, it is wiser to bring down your standards a peg or two. Otherwise, you are likely to get into serious conflict with such people. To move forward, you might have to deal with less than efficient people and work.

Unfortunately, there are paid officials in many places who do not have the interest or ambition to grow and learn. Because they do not observe. And because they have no pride in their work.

And this gives rise to much frustration in perfectionists. I have seen people leave jobs, sack employees because of this. But they suffer for it.

So, simply put, be protective about your health, chill and relax a little. Everything will get done in time. I am often told that life should also be enjoyed. And I agree....so, learn to grin and bear in general.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Socialize

Why people do certain things! Do we understand why people do what they do? Take for instance, card games like rummy and bridge. Although they fulfill a similar purpose, one is a "white collar" game and other is not looked upon as one. No guesses here for which one!

I see card rooms at clubs filled with people, especially the retired and older generation, who love to socialize over a card game. And I also see other club goers who turn up their noses at such groups. The only prejudice for this aversion seems to be that of playing with money. But gambling is another story…it can be indulged in different ways.

I see the other, lonely side of these people who are cut off from work and often, from their families as well. Time hangs and there is much loneliness which gives rise to depression and ennui towards the world in general. This can be a potentially dangerous situation.

There is a need for the older generation to keep their brains working and interest in life alive irrespective of whether it is playing cards, browsing the internet or anything else.

In fact, this may become true for all of us as we age. Card games keep the memory ticking, some social activity alive and enable these people to come out of whatever burdens they carry.

It is very sad to see people who lose their mobility and their youth, languishing for a lack of support. Indoor games are very good for them. In fact, many are now opting to be in special homes where they can be looked after and be with their own kind, rather than become isolated within their families.

So, there is always a larger perspective we fail to see in our conditional minds. What we criticize today may be a great pastime for us tomorrow. The idea is to stay well, with our mental, emotional and physical aspects intact and healthy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Trust

Trust is a quality either you have or don't have. It cannot be a half measure or faked. But it is fragile and has to be reinforced in a lot of cases. It takes a long time to build up and just a moment to break.

Relationships are completely dependent on this one major ingredient. Goodness is the starting point in inspiring trust. Any deviation or oscillation does often end a beautiful relationship.

Human wants lead of a breach of trust, mainly for short term gains. Such a pity, especially when you reap the joy inherent in a relationship of trust. It is really awesome. Of course, there are rules that keep it going.

The more we trust a person, the more sacred the bond becomes.

Time tested trust transforms into faith and then there is no looking back. Because faith has no opposite. Just like bliss has no opposite.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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