Connectivity

 

I think we blame the artificial means of connectivity too much. I think human connectivity has failed to a great extent even before technology took over.

Remember how friendships used to be? Frankness and loyalty and trust were the three vital pillars of a relationship. What happened?

If you feel close to someone and say something you see in them that needs improvement, you will lose the relationship. The ego is intolerant. So much for frankness!

Loyalty? Trust? What’s that? Talking to others about your friends / family is a “normal” thing. Of course, we tell ourselves that we are not being disloyal. We are just sharing our lives to feel good. But does gossip make us “feel good “? If so, we need to examine our mental / emotional state.

We are gradually bringing society to a high superficial level, bringing “friendship” also to a level accumulating around us people who contribute to our egos and who make us feel relevant because somewhere within us, we have a big void.

In a world of social media, when “friends” can shun us because we have not studiously put a “like” to their posts or have not commented on certain posts, are we even qualified to seek friendships? What kind of priorities have we developed and how much “on the surface” are we! Sometimes, when I experience shallowness, I think we are lost in this jungle.

A definition of a relationship has changed many a time but it was never as multi-pronged like a hydra as it is today. The earlier 3 pillared edifices is rare and extremely valuable even if there is one human being in your life
who answers to this 3 pillared definition. You should not let people like that out of sight or your heart. Hold on to them. They are priceless.

Surekha Kothari

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Life Span

 

As researchers excitedly work on elongating the human life span, the senior citizens struggle with loneliness, ailments, little to look forward to and non-productive living.

The erstwhile vivacious and bubbly friends are today victims of personal tragedies galore! So many have passed on and so many are suffering from diseases and the loss of loved ones!

Some flog themselves (metaphorically) to keep their sanity and agility of mind by doing sudoku and such activities others give up!

The bottom line for longevity of life would definitely be sound mental, emotional and physical health. In their sunset years of fragility, all senior citizens need love, compassion, understanding and looking after in order to survive their last few years in relatively good health.

Let us not forget, their lives have been fraught with stress which they took on to keep their families thriving. Their brand of family love was sacrificing and working hard for their children. And often, the intense struggle cost them their own sense of joy AND that of others around them.

This should always be carried in the front of our minds.

Surekha Kothari

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Observation

 

People who oscillate between not liking but grudgingly also admiring certain aspects of a person complicate the relationship. Personal likes and dislikes basically depend on your self-esteem status. and from that stems all judgement, all complexes and all adverse action. Even competitive, ego inspired action. “I am better” syndrome. Yes, if you are better every day, that is wonderful! But if that observation is in comparison with someone else, that is wrong thinking. 

We know we are not intrinsically like that but we are compelled by our mind pollution that tells us what will makes us feel good. And an afflicted mind is more misleading than otherwise.

People talk so much about mind control. As a healer, I believe that to cleanse the mind, though more difficult, is more permanent. Controls can slip but a cleansed mind carries no contradictions.

The world is buzzing with talks on the need for meditation, relaxation: anti stress, natural medication for cleansing our mental, emotional and physical toxins.

Surekha Kothari

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Happiness

 

Among the thousands of thoughts per day, if you analyse them, you will be shocked to see how many are merely ego driven reactions. There is no substance there. But we still internalise them and then go into a frenzy of an emotional whirlpool. “I” am hurt. “I” cannot forgive this.”I” will hit back.

What is this “I” ? WHO is this “I”? Only this one question and its answer can relieve so many toxins that we build up in our systems. What is the point ? Has anyone become happy harbouring so many unwanted toxins ? In fact, quite the reverse.

To be at peace, letting worthless thoughts and reactions slide off you is therapy. For the self , and indirectly that which spills over to others in the form of our attitudes , our mentality.

Nothing should  matter except the pain of our loved ones as well as of those we can help. The energies that we fritter away aught really to be kept intact for benevolent acts , both to ourselves and to others. The main purpose in life is to give back in equal measure what life has given us.

I have understood that by expecting anyone to behave as we want is also an ego exercise to force “other” behaviour into making US feel good. No one is duty bound to make us feel good. That is a personal choice. Happiness is an internal fountain.

Surekha Kothari

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Fragile life

 I have learnt that when someone reaches out to you, do always respond. Because you never know! It could be the most important meeting of your life. Or, it could be your last with that person.

Do we ever focus on how fragile life can be? We are so confident that each time we go to sleep; we are going to wake up the next morning. For many, that morning never came.

Sadly, I see so many egos at work a lot of blame too. I see couples whose destinies were not to be together, keeping grouses for life. I see families growing up amicably enough but later, conflicting on emotional and material issues. We never learn to say, “God knows better”.

Where does all the love go? Because there was a time we DID love. How does it turn to hate? Dislike? They say every action has an equal and opposite reaction. That the more you loved, the more you hate now.

Not at all! What turned to hate were the expectations that were never met. If you profess to love, that love should never be quantified. Love with expectations is not love. You really don’t know what karma has in store for you. Whatever it may be, the love you hold in your heart makes it easier to go through life. It is an enormous strength even if your loved ones are far away.

Surekha Kothari

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Pain

When there is a pain in any part of the body, it is so difficult to tell yourself," I am

Not the body but the soul". Pain medication s such an integral part of the human being!

Mental, emotional or physical.

Sometimes, I think, we preach all this which IS true. The body will perish etc. However, to graduate to the "Chidananda Roopam shivoham shivoham” is just very, very, very rare.

Surekha Kothari

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Attachment

Attachment and peace are not compatible. Because attachment is bondage . And souls are freedom seeking.

It stands to reason that as long as I consider anything as "mine", I will always think of something as "yours" , too. And the conflict of mine and yours takes away peace.

What IS mine ? Actually, nothing . Yes, I am holding onto the illusion that all I have is mine. The children are mine. The family is mine. The friends are mine. Etc. And then start the expectations as well.

We are actually caretakers. Nothing and no one belongs to us. The sooner we know this, the better life will be and the more we can deal with life with wisdom and a fair amount of detachment.

If we don't detach with understanding, we will have to suffer and ultimately, be compelled to detach. So, Looked at from different angles , there IS no peace with attachment.

Surekha Kothari

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