Monday 29 June 2020
Sunday 28 June 2020
Meditative
I was talking to a friend about ways to
keep a daily balance of mind. The two brilliant ways that come to mind are:
Mindful and watching your breath.
It has been my experience that with a
regular practice of these two techniques, you will find your sadness/
depression/ conflict etc disappearing.
Mindfulness can also be described as being
in a meditative state all day. Be IN the moment, whatever you may be doing.
Train yourself because it may take some practice. But once you begin to
experience the results, you will truly never go back to a state of unmindful.
And it will help in curbing reactions and will help in being proactively
responsive.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Saturday 27 June 2020
Thursday 25 June 2020
Maturity
Why am I treating someone badly because the
person deserves it according to you? Hmmm. Retaliation can never be a solution.
Somewhere, retaliation means you are unwilling or unable to solve an issue
amicably. Because you lack courage to understand that you are a part of the
problem too.
Staying away from what you cannot handle
debilitates you in the long run and your courage levels are naturally low. That
is not really an ideal way to live. But sooner or later, life teaches and
levels us out if we don’t do these ourselves, with understanding and maturity.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 24 June 2020
Tuesday 23 June 2020
Recreation
I love this phase in which I have finally
found the desired balance between work and recreation. Everything has been a
lesson and everyone I have met has held a mirror before me. And I am so
grateful that the realization has been sweeping in slowly and steadily.
Happy is the mind that accepts what it
cannot change instead of wallowing in meaningless agony. Move on! You are a
unique soul even if people don’t view you or themselves as such.
Eckhart Tolle says suffering is self
generated. A hundred percent true when you actually reach that point. And no
arguments are left over in the bag of doubts.
What stops you from being happy people
situations and reactions? What? Think and you will realize that YOU can’t
handle what life presents. If you understand that often , in life, you have to
get used to long jump, high jump, hitting the ball right ( sometimes wrong) and
all this is just competing with yourself and bettering your last performance,
you will automatically start getting cleansed from all those polluted mindsets
that keep you in a whirlpool of negatives where you are just playing the blame
game and pointing fingers at life, at everyone but never at yourself.
Whereas, everything begins and ends with
the self and in the self. Ghalib’s words translated:
When I didn’t know my own mental state, I
blamed the whole world. But the day I perceived my shortcomings, there was no
one left to criticize.
My worst “enemy “may be my best friend
within my soul group.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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Monday 22 June 2020
Sunday 21 June 2020
Blessings
In the earlier years, we were taught to
touch the feet of all elders. The blessing of elders was of prime importance.
We were told that a blessing was a form of energy that was transmitted from the
elders to us when we touched their toes. And this energy was packaged with love
and affection and the good will that emanates from close bonds.
It is a blessing to belong to a family
where such thoughts are given importance and such feelings exist.
Blessings go a long way. They cleanse the
one who gives and the one who receives. So, in every situation, just bless,
bless and keep blessing, without worrying unduly about the motives and feelings
of others. It is really not relevant to us since we only bless and let go.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 18 June 2020
Honest and Welfare
Why is it that it has become a crime to be
honest and welfare oriented? Very simple! This is the scenario of current times
for the same reason that families are becoming distant.
Too much freedom given, taken or taken
forcefully has, over a period of time, diluted the impact of honesty and
benevolent advice. Today, when freedom has been generally misused to result in
an eclipse of general welfare, the scope of an upward swing would require a
herculean effort from each one of us.
We have always had to be driven towards
that upward swing. We need to be taught to think right. And then maybe, we will
realize how valuable the values that we lost were.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 17 June 2020
Tuesday 16 June 2020
Realization
There are so many personal prejudices in
current times, so many competitive attitudes ending with toppling another to
climb onto their backs. Even conversations are only about others. And the topic
is not really about people either. it is mostly about our own underlying envy ,
a desire to discredit someone in someone else’s eyes.
We are seeing this even on the larger
canvas as in the current elections. And it is there because the average caliber
of human being has been found wanting. Open hostilities indicate that there is
no value for respect as a personal virtue. We are willing to give up our
dignity, our grace to achieve what can only be a selfish end because, the
qualities of people with a high sense of dignity and self respect are very
different. They don’t need to downgrade themselves. They are confident and
contented people.
I would like to think that the tide is
turning towards a realization that values need to be generic and real, followed
by everyone.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 15 June 2020
Sunday 14 June 2020
Personalities
If we knew just how many personalities we
carry within us, we would become mature about containing ourselves within a set
of workable value system, workable in this life. It would not be correct to
just lead a life which is not inclusive and which is completely stubborn about
taking cognizance of the surrounding scenario and people especially if
different parts of you are going to be in conflict.
This would happen when there are past life
issues between souls , too. And even if this is just a guess, it is a
liberating thought which helps in consolidating your emotions into a positive
mode and helps you to move on.
And it would be good to remember that
complexities are rooted in simplicity and the onus is only on you to break
things down to simple thinking and living. Just with an understanding of the
true nature of the self.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 11 June 2020
Wednesday 10 June 2020
Tuesday 9 June 2020
Conversation
There is an academic world out there which
keeps your cerebral movements stimulated. Sometimes, you meet people who you
can listen to for hours. And there is always so much to learn if you have an
open mind during interesting conversations.
The world is such an incredible place if
you observe all its features.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 8 June 2020
Sunday 7 June 2020
Happiness
Happiness is when we are comfortable in our
emotions. Things have worked out our way. People are nice. We are well.
Everything is nice.
Bliss is on a higher level though when we
live within our high vibrations. When nothing happening around us matters or is
important to us either. When we reach that point, this state has more permanence,
like when we actually reach the mountain peak that we were happy just at the
thought of climbing.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday 4 June 2020
Comparisons
Why is it that often, new friendships fade
into a kind of indifference after a while whereas old bonds can be revived any time?
What is it about childhood friendships?
We travelled with my dad every two years
and this moving constantly never really gave us the time to strengthen bonds.
Today, when I see my children having such strong bonds with their friends, it
is because they were together since school days.
As children, there were no motives attached
to friendships.
Not a care in the world about the frills of
family name, fame etc.
Comparisons set in only when, as adults, we
start calculating and comparing.
But as I always say, everything does have
two sides and the good side of changing cities is that you learn to adjust and
adapt early in life. And unconsciously, your mental horizons expand as well.
We call ourselves widely travelled when we
have indulged in a lot of foreign travel. But I tell people I was a widely
travelled kid!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday 3 June 2020
Tuesday 2 June 2020
Words or Actions
What makes you feel peaceful after you have
acted on it is generally the right thing. If you have an active conscience, it
will tell you when you need to repair damage done through your words or
actions.
As you move on in life, it is your feelings
that will indicate your path. Feel guilty? Then there is work to be done angry
and also happy? Then you are on the right track.
So, instead of judging others, look inside
yourself. And ask, is there work in progress or has it slowed down or
completely packed up?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday 1 June 2020
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