There are speculations now and then about the institution of marriage dying a slow death. I don’t think anyone can deny that marriage is hard work. However, basically, any relationship is hard work .
The essential ingredient in any
relationship is commitment. But commitment is also the end result of caring and
faith in the relationship.
In every day and age, this is a common
denominator : commitment. It is not a fashion statement but a genuine fact. It
means the ability to accept another, love despite differences and understand
above all, that everyone is imperfect and that perfection is only in the heart
, that is, in the love we feel for another.
But what happens in marriage sometimes, is
the feeling of ownership of another which is the main cause of the wear and
tear. It is a connection between two peopke who are individuals and who forge a
bond based on a long term commitment. But still, two separate individuals
generally from different backgrounds.
It does require much wisdom, much
acceptance of each other and much understanding to not let any ego interference
spoil relationships.
We really need to spend more time on our steady introspection and constant accent on transformation. Otherwise, we can miss out on the wonderful experience of inner change and the joy it presents to those of us who incorporate the change .
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
