Journey

 

The day we realise that we have to love imperfect beings as imperfect beings, we will stop judging others. If, during the ascension process, we have to leave certain things behind, they were never ours to take with us in any case. Our journey is alone. But there is fear of being alone. This fear is the starting point of all issues and all confusion in our lives. Because it removes love from our radar. When love recedes, so does the light. And then we end up groping in the darkness of fear, trying to crawl

out of its clutching hold.

Why not let love in, in the first place ?

Surekha Kothari

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Social etiquette

 Sometimes, I think this irritation of people with fake news is really unjustified. It is WE who have invited it. We have created a market for it. It’s almost like a child telling a lie ever so often that everyone just laughs it off but the child continues lying because it has a license now. Through indulgence by the elders instead of instant correction.

Think ! How long have we worked to convert the society into a fake one. Yes, when individuals start to become fake themselves , gradually, the “fake” is supported and encouraged . Why ? Because fake behaviour, as in pretentious and false , gets you everywhere... or so people think. That is the attitude today

“Straight from the heart” is not in fashion. In fact, it is mainly a perceived as a weakness. “Social etiquette” is making yourself popular through massive doses of artificial sweeteners. No one wants bitter gourd juice anymore , the bitter taste of which conceals innumerable health benefits.

It is so amazing to sit back and watch how the hypocritical gets wonderful results while frank speak gets shunned. That’s why there are fewer people on the path of dharma.

But, you have to ask those who are genuinely simple and heart driven people whether THEY want to seek out the fake. You will find that they are pretty intolerant of this.

Aren’t we just a little bit exhausted trying to live a life that does not define us ? Actually, do we even know what defines us ? Worse still, do we WANT to know ? Not unless we start facing the truth about ourselves. And for this, we need to leave the fake world behind even if it means moving into a new space, which syncs with our true selves.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Parameters

 

Being emotional by nature is a very stressful trait. Not only is sensitivity an integral part of this state , so is depression. In a world filled with a standard “no problem” answer to every huge bottled up issue, depression is a normal condition.

What is significant is, we may confuse the symptoms of spiritual growth and depression at times, specially when we pretend to be happy when we are actually depressed, often clinically depressed.

It is a fact that when you work on spiritual Growth, there comes a time when you leave behind many earlier “normals” in your life, reaching a point of isolation. You also stop fitting into earlier moulds. But you don’t really think that you are “sacrificing” normalcy. Because you don’t miss the earlier routine which included a certain amount of social interaction. In fact, you might be happier this way.

A depressed state also tends to give a feeling of isolation and a withdrawal from social activities and interaction, and a general lack of interest and excitement... a general ennui.

The only parameters of telling the difference are within. If you are happy and busy with your personal growth by being by yourself and WITH yourself happily, then you are on the path of spiritual growth, because you naturally move into a state of gradual silence, not liking too much mundane conversation and preferring to use time more constructively.

But when you are depressed, either you are numb or wrapped up in your own feelings and hence, uncommunicative. And you need help because you will probably not admit to being depressed and might be showing a false bravado which could be harmful for you.

You never know when depression might be triggered if you are not careful to keep your emotions in check and give yourself more care and attention before others.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Transformation

 There are speculations now and then about the institution of marriage dying a slow death. I don’t think anyone can deny that marriage is hard work. However, basically, any relationship is hard work .

The essential ingredient in any relationship is commitment. But commitment is also the end result of caring and faith in the relationship.

In every day and age, this is a common denominator : commitment. It is not a fashion statement but a genuine fact. It means the ability to accept another, love despite differences and understand above all, that everyone is imperfect and that perfection is only in the heart , that is, in the love we feel for another.

But what happens in marriage sometimes, is the feeling of ownership of another which is the main cause of the wear and tear. It is a connection between two peopke who are individuals and who forge a bond based on a long term commitment. But still, two separate individuals generally from different backgrounds.

It does require much wisdom, much acceptance of each other and much understanding to not let any ego interference spoil relationships.

We really need to spend more time on our steady introspection and constant accent on transformation. Otherwise, we can miss out on the wonderful experience of inner change and the joy it presents to those of us who incorporate the change .

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Knowledge

 In this age of science and technology, the importance of information and knowledge can never be underestimated. Knowledge is power. Knowledge translates into self - esteem and motivation.

However, is that enough ? There is a third connected branch which completes the first two. And that is WISDOM. Without wisdom, knowledge is theory. Wisdom comes with learning from experiences.

This wisdom is what was derived from the Gurukul system of education where equal importance was given to learning through practice , becoming wholesome individuals and fit enough to take on the responsibilities of being a householder, a spouse, a parent, a respectful and dutiful son or daughter etc.

This was wisdom. Touching the feet of elders was wisdom because taking blessings always kept you humble. It was synergy with your family that each person played a perfect role to keep the unity and love intact.

All this was wisdom. Today, this third arm is kind of handicapped or out of use. The race is only for achievement through information and knowledge. So be it, but somewhere along the way, you will stumble and feel the need for wisdom.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Dharma by Design : A Universe in Harmony

 

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Brilliant mind

 

It is a fact that India has the most brilliant minds. They are in the highest places worldwide, wherever merit is recognised  and not negated based on colour, caste, creed and religion.

In current times, the one property Indians lack is a sense of national

Pride, oblivious of what the world , the media or others might say. And because of this lack, some of us fall prey to deliberately inciting opinions against us. We have little loyalty so, are quick to believe the negative.

Take a mother. Say anything against her kids and you have made an enemy for life. India is our motherland but we, her children, would abuse her , mutilate her and treat her in a way no child should treat their mother.

This sensitivity and loyalty that we have lost has also manifested in children not treating their parents too well. When values are lost, confusion and fragmentation has to rule. Instead of pulling our weight in making the world safe for everyone, we are at a perpetual war within our fragmented and divided selves. How can the external world be any other way ?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Dharma by Design

 

Late bloomers

 We often speak of late bloomers. I don’t understand the concept. Late ? By whose standards ? Is it a judgement based on age ? Or mental faculties ? Only assumptions and postulates ! Mindsets, that this should happen at this time.... as if we are soothsayers !

The way I see it is, when we strive for knowledge , there is a subtle process within that is also assimilating, reflecting and introspecting while doing our daily work. People may not see these aspects until they manifest. So, suddenly, someone may give way to the knowledge they gained silently and this might have the power to surprise people who had never seen this side. It’s as simple as that.

WE are quick to judge and expect based on our limited knowledge of another. The “ late bloomers” are actually blooming when the time is right for them. Like flowers bloom when they are destined to bloom .

We have to change our thinking to see beyond our limited understanding.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Avatar of people

 I think many of us have seen life and people at close quarters. And yet, sometimes we are shocked at the avatar of people we have somewhat known since many years.

Actually, we have to constantly watch our spiritual quotient so as to use the right way to reach the top. And remember that the “top” is an illusory place and very relative in any case.

A hunger for power may be described as being ambitious but the word “hunger” smacks of an imbalance which might override good sense, wisdom and ethics.

We always think men answer to such a description . But, today, usurping power , overruling or sweeping aside a majority is getting to be a common factor even with women. It is certainly not gender based. The field is wide open.

It is amazing to see that there is no concept of right or just when it comes to thirst for power.

This thirst percolates down the layers of society , so much so that someone who retires from the limelight is unable to bear anonymity. And it is even worse if power had been acquired unethically. Guilty kicks in and remorse becomes an “after the event “ syndrome.

Every thought , every deed is energy . It increases or depletes and creates our reality based on how our levels of balance are and how big a role dharma plays in our lives.

Success happens to a deserved level if we are righteous but if we aim too high, we may not be able to be righteous all the time and will sacrifice ethics at some point.

And that’s why contentment and dharma are very important.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari