Showing posts with label Constant. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Constant. Show all posts
Tuesday, 18 June 2024
Wednesday, 24 April 2024
Learn
We learn something every day.
There is sometimes a first time and a new experience. And sometimes, repeated
similar experiences because we DON’T. It is typical that these repeated
experiences will keep coming. Until we learn what we are supposed to.
On a lighter note, this happens
when we don’t address a WhatsApp message. The message will keep coming up on
the screen until we read it. it is a
constant reminder that repeated patterns must be addressed.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Wednesday, 22 November 2023
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Thursday, 3 June 2021
Monday, 1 February 2021
Philosophy of life
We say we have choices. At
least, all humans are supposed to have free will and choices. Yet, we have so
many issues! Why, when we have can make our decisions?
The whole thing is, the choices
we make don’t guarantee the results we want. So, we are constantly in a state
of turmoil.
If only the consequences were
in our hands!!! Life is never a straight, predictable line. There is a super
saying in Marathi symbolizing life: वाकड़ी
तिकड़ी वलणे; Full of twists and turns.
I know one or two people who
enjoy the ride. They take things in their stride. And they know how to balance
when the twists and turns come. What crucial knowledge, sir jee! Makes life
really into a joy ride!
I really admire them because
you have to be spiritual in your philosophy of life, or, it might make for a
huge struggle. Strength and spirituality is a deadly combination.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 28 January 2020
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Thursday, 8 November 2018
Human relationships
Don't judge people from where you are.
Everyone has a story. I read a very beautiful story which is relevant to this
thought.
A father and son were travelling by train
with a young couple sitting in the same compartment.
The son, looking out of the window, shouted
excitedly, "dad, look ! The trees are going back!”
Then again, he said, "dad, look, the
clouds are running with us".
The young couple told the father, “You
should take your son to a doctor. There is something wrong with him".
The father said," we are just
returning from the doctor. My son was blind from birth and has just got his
eyes back."
The couple was ashamed for their hasty
judgment.
So, you see, we constantly feel the need to
judge overt actions without understanding what inspired them in the first
place. Human relationships are always in trouble because we judge more and care
less. We are so keyed up that we don't even know how to smile at someone who
does not smile at us. We don't know kindness, caring and sharing.
But we do live easily on a lack of trust,
suspicion, grudges, envy and constant insecurity emanating out of a deep sense
of inadequacy which we seldom address. We live on a superficial self image most
of the time.
If we are on a judging spree, let us judge
ourselves and see where we can improve and let the others introspect on
themselves. Mind our own store.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 22 June 2018
Justifications
Have you noticed that when you plan and
work towards something, there will most certainly be last minute glitches and
little, little obstacles coming your way, Sudden changes and sudden diversions.
It is uncanny. And this goes on through life. I often ask whether some people
go through more and some less. Whether some go through less but more intense
experiences or little irritants throughout life?
But then, you have to find justifications
to accept that which is beyond control. That is the bottom line. This thought
is perhaps a continuation of my earlier thought in a recent post:
That life happens when we are busy planning
it according to our desires. However, let us not dwell just on these but on the
larger happiness beyond the immediate hurdles that makes life worth living.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 13 June 2018
Self assessment
It seems a dilemma when Krishna asks Arjuna
to surrender all his actions to him and act according to dharma. On the other
hand, we are taught to take ownership of our actions. Those who go into these
questions find no easy formula to master. When to surrender and when to own our
actions?
A constant self assessment is a way to
understand the qualitative difference between these two. Even surrender is not
that simple. To surrender completely is not even to plan and just let things
happen. Just flow. Can we do that? Generally Impossible.
We really need to understand all the layers
of our mind that we create for ourselves and then find ways to peel them off
when understanding dawns. Meditation is a powerful tool to scan ourselves in a
way no MRI or ECG can.
The inner voice speaks only when there is
silence around it and it can be heard.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 24 May 2018
Quality of life
It is the truth that things will go to ruin
only if WE let them. People and events will get the better of us if we let
them. The ball is always in our court even if it was thrown by someone else.
And if we don't want it, WE have to make the effort to send it back.
So, there is really no scope for
hopelessness at all. Between the creative and logical parts of the brain lie
all ideas , ways to accomplish what we want to and all processing of thoughts
and information and then ...the challenge to make it all work and NOT get
intimidated by anyone or anything. This the last but lethal stop where
everything can reach a dead end.
Shying away from life for whatever reason
may well is termed as defensive living. It could mean accepting the dent in the
quality of life which could otherwise be enhanced with personal effort.
Because it is true that life will be what
WE make of it.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 8 April 2018
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