Showing posts with label Smile. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Smile. Show all posts
Thursday, 11 May 2023
Wednesday, 30 November 2022
Monday, 14 February 2022
Tuesday, 7 January 2020
Brand of caring
I have seen that many people push away good
and caring relationships by taking them for granted or not understanding their
brand of caring. Sometimes, there also seeps into a long term friendship a kind
of envy which leads to two people growing apart.
When you have known someone a long time,
and life takes you into different modes, you tend to look at that friend with a
certain comparison. And if, at that time, you are an unhappy human being, you
tend to forget the close bonds you shared and begin to gradually tear apart the
relationship. And once you reach a point of no return, you have burnt your
bridges until you realize what you lost. By then, it is too late.
Better to make a point in your book never
to reach a point of no return. Life is not about “you”. It works only if it is
about “us”, that “us” could be two people or more.
Besides, those who have experienced the
bonds of love will tell you there is no feeling better, no joy greater than a
no holds barred friendship and closeness. It could be between any two people.
If the base is compassion on both sides, the rest follows.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 19 July 2018
Friday, 22 June 2018
Justifications
Have you noticed that when you plan and
work towards something, there will most certainly be last minute glitches and
little, little obstacles coming your way, Sudden changes and sudden diversions.
It is uncanny. And this goes on through life. I often ask whether some people
go through more and some less. Whether some go through less but more intense
experiences or little irritants throughout life?
But then, you have to find justifications
to accept that which is beyond control. That is the bottom line. This thought
is perhaps a continuation of my earlier thought in a recent post:
That life happens when we are busy planning
it according to our desires. However, let us not dwell just on these but on the
larger happiness beyond the immediate hurdles that makes life worth living.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 13 June 2018
Self assessment
It seems a dilemma when Krishna asks Arjuna
to surrender all his actions to him and act according to dharma. On the other
hand, we are taught to take ownership of our actions. Those who go into these
questions find no easy formula to master. When to surrender and when to own our
actions?
A constant self assessment is a way to
understand the qualitative difference between these two. Even surrender is not
that simple. To surrender completely is not even to plan and just let things
happen. Just flow. Can we do that? Generally Impossible.
We really need to understand all the layers
of our mind that we create for ourselves and then find ways to peel them off
when understanding dawns. Meditation is a powerful tool to scan ourselves in a
way no MRI or ECG can.
The inner voice speaks only when there is
silence around it and it can be heard.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 11 June 2018
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