Showing posts with label Worry. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Worry. Show all posts
Wednesday, 30 November 2022
Thursday, 22 October 2020
Sunday, 22 March 2020
Emotions
One basic fact and truth is , never give
too much of your emotions to anyone. There is no value and what develops is a
recipe for your devaluation. Often, it happens that those you loved, protected
and fought against the world for , took abuse for, are the ones who become
abusers . Somewhere, something is not quite right. If we think that there would
be love and gratitude in return, we would probably be naive. Life doesn’t work
exactly that way.
People say its all about respect and
respect is earned. I believe respect is earned , too, but for yourself, from
within , for yourself, with a noble heart and pure intentions. Respect
yourself. This is the main core issue in humans. That we don’t respect ourselves
and only look for endorsements outside. Actually, It is between you and the
Divine. Nothing else matters .
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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Thursday, 12 July 2018
Life is fragile
Life is fragile. Humans plod along merrily,
not realizing this. As is said, when we make long term plans, God has the last
laugh. Hasn't it happened to us all that we are happy, even partying and
merrymaking and wham! Comes news that a near and dear one is critically ill or
has passed on without any known ailment.
And we stand still in shock for a while.
Then life moves ahead. But we still don't know how many breaths we have left or
how many days to live. When King Parikshit was told he had only seven days to
live, he thought only of turning towards God to understand the purpose of life
and heard the entire "Bhagwat" in a week.
But despite many stories and symbolic
meanings to these stories, we still plod along with a lack of awareness.
Yesterday, one of my friends told me she is working towards changing things
around for the better from within. Fantastic! And it is not easy because you
have to watch every little thought, reaction and emotion that crosses your
mind.
You have to sincerely forgive and be
forgiven. You have to cleanse all past memories of the smallest negativity
which can mirror others.
And all this before life runs out and you
don't know how much time has been given to you. So, expanding our consciousness
each second should be our first priority. Looking to and lighting up our own
path is crucial, as compared to being bothered about another person's journey.
Ultimately, we have to rise and rise
further. As we go higher, our choices reduce and it is a straight but painful
and hopefully, steady climb to divinity.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 5 July 2018
Appreciation
There is freedom in appreciation. When we
appreciate someone sincerely from our hearts, we free ourselves from any
bondage of envy, the comparisons or antipathy. The reverse is also true. And if
you look within yourself at this moment of appreciation, you will find a
strange joy within.
It is easier to appreciate and even admire
a well known figure because we can't see ourselves on par with that person. But
it is not so easy to do so within our own social community. That is too much up
close and personal and within the range of competition. It could be tough to be
generous. That's where generous people become objects of admiration, because
the breed is majorly in the minority. And the tag for such humans is
"abnormally normal".
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 2 January 2017
Courage
When someone tells you that you don't have courage or lack
in it, please sit down and introspect very seriously. Because what you may well
be doing is compromising, letting others dominate, not allowing yourself to
move forward in life due to a spate of sacrifices that no one ultimately
remembered...and all this depriving you of the courage you need to strike out
to love yourself, develop your personality, learn to say "no" to
those you have spoilt with too much attention and be your own person.
So, maybe, you HAD the courage all along but never
prioritized on yourself and therefore, subjugated it deliberately in favor of
appeasing those around you and making them comfortable.
When you have a balance, it is when everyone realizes their
limits and stops trying to extract more from people than they SHOULD be giving.
There is a tipping point when caring becomes sacrifice and once too often at
that. Of course, unless there is a very definite reason NOT TO, each person
must show courage to focus on their own goals also, never mind if it does not
suit everyone around or causes some amount of discomfort owing to unwanted
changes...
So, please KNOW why you are
discarding courage and what the trade offs are for you. If the trade off
amounts to your suppression, no one has the right to do this and you may assert
yourself for sure? Analyzing the underlying reasons is most important in
retaining or discarding the courageous aspect of your personality.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 3 October 2016
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