Showing posts with label Activity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Activity. Show all posts
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Sunday, 21 October 2018
Consistency
Consistency of anything is an absolutely
essential path to excellence. Like a rough diamond that is polished and
polished yet again until it is perfect.
Speaking specially of god given talents, it
would be a pity to just let them languish in favor of idleness or frivolous
activity. Indeed, one has to devote full time to hone a talent and therein lays
the problem with many... too many sacrifices of "good times". But
there can never be a substitute for the joy of reaching the heights of soul
activities like music, dance, fine arts...
We only have to look at the Reality Shows
to see the enormous amount of talent inherent within us. And the dedication
with which these youngsters are working with parental backing. Thank the lord ,
parents are emerging from their narrow cocoon like minds to come out in full
support of whatever it takes to see their children among the "stars".
As one young girl proudly said of her
parents..." they are my super powers". How wonderful!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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Wednesday, 9 May 2018
Tuesday, 6 March 2018
Intelligence
The biggest challenge we humans face is to
keep our thoughts clean. Something or the other always comes in the way of pure
action because thoughts are not so pure.
The way it works is, your thoughts transfer
to your emotions and emotions to decision making followed finally by action.
Naturally then, positive thoughts should be preferred for the entire cycle of
thoughts to action to be positive, too.
I hear many people say they are very
positive among their own groups. It's also like kids who are well behaved
outside but not at home. The cycle of energy breaks this way. You can't have a
half positive and half negative approach. If you are good, you are good, in any
situation.
I see a lot of conditional responses from
people. And that does not make them wholesome personalities. On the contrary, these
are more reactive personalities. If you notice, the day you wake up with a
smile, all goes well and you end up in bed with a smile. It is one happy day.
But on another day, one small unpleasantness can ruin your whole day. Not at
all worth it but it is hard to philosophize and move on at the time.
You can train yourself to give the correct
responses with a fair amount of common sense and intelligence.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 19 February 2018
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Thursday, 28 December 2017
Equation
What
do I gain or lose is a prime question in relationships today. It often takes a
long time for people to understand people, even if they have lived in close
proximity. In fact, especially when they have lived in close proximity, whatever
the name of the relationship. Either the understanding is lacking or the
population around makes minced meat of the equation, In ANY relationship.
So
much wear and tear happens within our emotions and expectations that we don't
see a lot of things with clarity. And, ultimately, we start feeling that we are
gaining only headaches and depressions and losing our health and peace of mind.
And then the inevitable happens...distances.
One
of the big challenges is when there is a communication cripple confronting you
who is impossible and too complicated to read unless you are a clairvoyant… And
YOU are intrinsically a demonstrative and spontaneous person who subsequently ,
is forced to start closing up and getting all bottled up because their words
are hitting a wall and coming back to hit them. It is an unnerving feeling and
one that closes channels like nothing else does.
Under no circumstances can shrink or
twisting personalities against your will contribute to your well being. So, the
cognizance of gains and losses may be replaced by the questions of how meeting
points may be arrived at, if both can will this as the course of action, of
course. Between the two sides of the distance pole lies the meeting point and
the way towards reducing that distance starts with the capturing of the
mischievous little devil called " ego" and blindness towards those
who are mischief makers because, after all, you love them, don't you ?
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 27 December 2017
Sunday, 19 November 2017
Conversation
I think I understand why people don't share
heart to heart conversations anymore. Or rarely... it is not easy to understand
the pain of others for the simple reason that each one's intensity of feeling
the pain and the reasons for the pain are distinctive to each person. What
won't touch me will probably scar someone else for life. And while I could be
clinical , the other person could feel suffocated with an unimaginable tide of
grief.
Ultimately, life is about how much you can
reconcile yourself to. How much numbness you develop before you start to get
into the kind of drug induced slumber that knocks off your brain for a few
hours.
Count your blessings...one, two,
three......calm down! You are alone with your pain. And you have to get your
own power and control back. For one, stop giving importance to that feeling
which is likely to drown you. Cleanse your energy before it breaks you and
brings you to a point of no return. Create space around to build up the
capacity for movement. The last thing you need is to stand still within the
muddied swamp of pain which no one can pull you out of but yourself.
So, share your feelings with yourself, then
expel them from your system and relax with a smile and a charminar!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Monday, 16 October 2017
Tuesday, 3 January 2017
Monday, 2 January 2017
Courage
When someone tells you that you don't have courage or lack
in it, please sit down and introspect very seriously. Because what you may well
be doing is compromising, letting others dominate, not allowing yourself to
move forward in life due to a spate of sacrifices that no one ultimately
remembered...and all this depriving you of the courage you need to strike out
to love yourself, develop your personality, learn to say "no" to
those you have spoilt with too much attention and be your own person.
So, maybe, you HAD the courage all along but never
prioritized on yourself and therefore, subjugated it deliberately in favor of
appeasing those around you and making them comfortable.
When you have a balance, it is when everyone realizes their
limits and stops trying to extract more from people than they SHOULD be giving.
There is a tipping point when caring becomes sacrifice and once too often at
that. Of course, unless there is a very definite reason NOT TO, each person
must show courage to focus on their own goals also, never mind if it does not
suit everyone around or causes some amount of discomfort owing to unwanted
changes...
So, please KNOW why you are
discarding courage and what the trade offs are for you. If the trade off
amounts to your suppression, no one has the right to do this and you may assert
yourself for sure? Analyzing the underlying reasons is most important in
retaining or discarding the courageous aspect of your personality.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 28 December 2016
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