When someone tells you that you don't have courage or lack
in it, please sit down and introspect very seriously. Because what you may well
be doing is compromising, letting others dominate, not allowing yourself to
move forward in life due to a spate of sacrifices that no one ultimately
remembered...and all this depriving you of the courage you need to strike out
to love yourself, develop your personality, learn to say "no" to
those you have spoilt with too much attention and be your own person.
So, maybe, you HAD the courage all along but never
prioritized on yourself and therefore, subjugated it deliberately in favor of
appeasing those around you and making them comfortable.
When you have a balance, it is when everyone realizes their
limits and stops trying to extract more from people than they SHOULD be giving.
There is a tipping point when caring becomes sacrifice and once too often at
that. Of course, unless there is a very definite reason NOT TO, each person
must show courage to focus on their own goals also, never mind if it does not
suit everyone around or causes some amount of discomfort owing to unwanted
changes...
So, please KNOW why you are
discarding courage and what the trade offs are for you. If the trade off
amounts to your suppression, no one has the right to do this and you may assert
yourself for sure? Analyzing the underlying reasons is most important in
retaining or discarding the courageous aspect of your personality.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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