Reciprocity

 I don’t understand when people say “it is too late”.why ? How ? When is it too late to salvage a situation ? Maybe, the feeling of “ too late” is within us and WE want to give up. Because we don’t see a reciprocity … Yet, Often, success is just beyond your giving up. And if you had tried just that little extra, a lot could have been redeemed.

Yes, there are exceptions and once in a while, it IS best to let go. But that instinct needs to be cultivated.

We generally seem to persevere when things are important to US. But sometimes, we need to create that balance between us and others’ needs.

Surekha Kothari

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Loyalty

The whole world with a few exceptions is involved in a race for money, name and fame. And yet, ask them if they are happy. You can show off your opulence, your power to the world AND have many people in awe of you, even eager to befriend you. But you know they are not the right ones. In fact, it is really lonely at the top. You get insecure, don't know who to trust, start using people to multiply your money and power and needless to say, people won't do it for the love of you. And you can't buy love or respect. You lose sleep trying just to sustain your room at the top.

I am sure people feel good when they are chased and admired and clamor for one photograph with them. The feeling however, is hollow. There are empty places within where you will never allow people. At best, loyalty from them may be bought by you and again lasts only till you keep filled on the pockets. Despite possessing much, you know you are not wanted for yourself but for your worldly possessions.

People who run after you for what you have will run away from you the day you don't have it. What remains intact and fills up the void and makes you really rich are love of family, goodness and charitable attitude towards each other, mutual respect.

Attitude of gratitude, forgiving and forgetting, kindness, and empathy in fact, humanity, humaneness which is the only religion that will work and these are not buyable.

The rich are those who are gifted with THESE qualities. And certainly, these cannot be bought. Either you have them or you don't. And if you want them, you can’t buy them. So, here we are....

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Cleansing exercises

Don't say what you don't mean. Don't misread the words of another.

Don't insult people even if you don't like them very much.

Don't add fuel to fire unnecessarily.

Don't be dishonest. Don't be untrue to yourself.

Don't keep grudges.

These are a few energy cleansing exercises. The real core of life are these unbelievably simple rules which are so unbelievingly difficult to follow today.

Every day, we battle with such conflicts. Both within us and with others. When it is cloudy, we raise our eyes upwards to look for the sun to come out. When we have polluted energies, why don't we look for ways to clean them?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Forgive and Forget

With most people, I see a struggle in the understanding of the "forgive and forget" principle. First, it seems hard, even impossible to forgive someone who has hurt you. Second, there seems to be an issue about erasing those memories. Somewhere within, when we are broken, we suffer and automatically, the grouse is with the person who caused the grief, the pain. Naturally, no one wants pain.

But it is equally true that without pain, growth is a distant dream. If we did not know what the opposite of light is, we would not recognize light. A vision impaired has no way of seeing day and night. Similarly, symbolically, despite having eyes, we either can't, don't or refuse to "see". But we need to see. To see what the truth is about why the pain .

See what? The root cause of the pain. Our pain is due to our own inability to tolerate the darkness in others. And that is natural because, basically, we are beings of light. But that darkness is not only in others but reflected within us, too. And when this happens, the cognizance of this inner darkness decreases our tolerance levels of ourselves. That gets reflected in the opposite person. And the pain keeps adding on.

Imagine, if we refused to take the pain within us. What would happen? It would bounce off you and be returned to the sender. But we don't know how to do that. Or, the little devil sitting inside, the ego, won't let us. So, we deliberately start taking hurtful actions in retaliation. Any escalation takes two people. Like you need two hands to clap. You can choose not to clap.

So, pain is a choice we make. The pain of rejection, hate, jealousy, revenge, injustice, betrayal, cruelty etc. These are powerful energies and, when directed towards anyone, would take a very strong person to deflect them...a person who makes a conscious choice to remain untouched by these energies.

I cannot express in words how elevating this exercise can be and how beautifully energizing.

Even if one does not want to go deep into this, a simple thumb rule to follow is to block negative energy by giving it a positive connotation. And find it in your heart to feel sad for those who are still living in the low vibration field. You will see then it becomes easier to forgive. You will also decide that such memories are also not worth keeping.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Constant habit

When we are depressed and angry with the world, we tend to go from bad to worse in our mental condition. Anger only dissipates your energy up to a level where you lose your ability to think straight, let alone heal yourself. And in this mode, you tend to become your own worst enemy.

This situation requires the ability to analyze the core issue of the anger because, as I have experienced it, anger is always self directed...for what could have happened but didn't, for the wrong choices made, for lost opportunities, for a lack of love, for loneliness, for feeling rejection, depression...and more.

It is not easy to turn inwards. The mind only wants to blame and blame everyone and everything but the self.

And then, we seek recourse to prayer. Even after, we often wait for a change to HAPPEN rather than MAKE it happen. We need help.

A wonderful way to overcome this mode : just ask yourself..

Why am I angry?

Who am I angry with?

Why am I angry with that person or situation?

Did I contribute to it in any way?

Answer all these questions truthfully to yourself and you will find that most of the time, you failed to look within to find the actual issue. That you had the power to understand and let go but you held on.

Making a constant habit of this kind of clinical analysis can help you in cultivating a calm persona.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Times of sadness

Have you felt that in times of sadness, angels hover around you? These are people in your life who watch over you, worry about your well being and often try to illuminate your path when they see you passing through a dark patch.

Sometimes, their value is felt only after they are gone. Because while they are around, we tend to take them for granted. Not often are we in a mood to give them a listening ear.

A matter of karma, I guess. I still remember the gujrati saying which means, wisdom comes only from others, not your own people. Like you prefer the food in someone else's home. Taking home food for granted and bored with the same flavor. I guess people also come with the same old flavor which goes out of taste.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

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Fragility of life

The fragility of life! The desire to live and the illusion of being immortal keep us going. When there is a death, it only comes to the next door neighbor. Such is our mental makeup.

But life is fragile and a shock could be awaiting us round the corner. So, never take your health for granted as you grow older. Now a day, things just fester inside and by the time we can take stock, things are way worse than we dreamt.

I see people shying away from seeing doctors, fearful of what they might diagnose. We talk about "mind over matter" so easily but when it comes to us that are not always easy.

Just as being forewarned is being forearmed, being careful and balanced in everything would be wisdom.

And even then, we have to pass on when our time is up. Someone said live everyday as if it were your last. That everyday would be the best day every day. A great attitude even to nullify many a karma....

Wishing us all the dawn of this attitude...

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Path of evolution

One of the greatest challenges on the path of evolution is living in the present and awareness every second. To hold every thought outside and examine it for its purity/pollution before internalizing it. How easy this difficult exercise makes our life! Almost like a game. Because the inner being accepts only the positive. And what to accept is completely in our power. 

Yes. It is difficult until it becomes easy...but it DOES become easy for the ones who persevere.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari