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Intellectualization

Intellectualization of meditation is not possible, because meditation is going beyond the realm of reason and therefore, beyond the conscious mind. This is why intellectuals often fail in hypnotherapy sessions.

You have to let go the rational mind at least for a while if you want to explore the hidden crevices of your sub conscious mind. Rather, buried files in this part of the mind which has many answers to your life.

Hypnosis is a state of mind we all visit frequently and can make productive use of it by erasing what is not required in our lives, with new intentions to erase and rebuild.

We all know what is worth holding and what is worth letting go of. It is a matter of good sense and will.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Valuable Thoughts

“I have to accept that I am never going to be the old version of myself again”. Words all of us say to ourselves at least once. But the thoughts behind these words are often of regret. Almost as if we lost something valuable, something we could have or should have retained. The fact that we keep reminiscing about the past is indicative of the fact that there are many happy memories lodged there. This also demonstrates that there is something within our present reality that is not a happy one. Or, maybe, something of value has gone out and we regret it.

It is also true that we are unable to look at our present moment and evaluate it. And this is because we live either within past memories or worry about the future. After all, the conscious mind is where we live. And this mind is a busy bee, planning and plotting, sharpening the ego, even immersed full time in the rat race to power and what not or timid and resigning, unmotivated and lethargic.

On the flip side, the statement can be a positive one if the old version of you was not really a great one depends! This can be a matter of great relief and joy and a moment of upgrading yourself. Feels really good!

So, what does the statement stand for, for each of us? Looking for a thinking cap?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Stages

There comes a stage in your life when you don't need mush. In fact, at any given stage, what is really heartwarming is the feeling of warmth you share with someone. When someone extends hospitality and you reciprocate in equal measure. When you remember the small things you have done for each other, when you understand each other's circumstances without expectations.

Putting your best foot forward is done to impress initially. But it doesn't last. As a relationship deepens, superficiality gives way to a maturity and mutual respect. There may be a few such equations but they are the ultimate in satisfaction.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Life Span

Too much of anything is avoidable. The mind looks for a change when it cannot handle excesses. And why not? A heavy, saturated mind can cause many problems. Like everything in life, the mind needs some space and some rest.

Can you imagine if thoughts never ceased at all? For one, we could not sleep at all. For another, no thought would be complete. Without rest and sleep, we would surely reduce our life span or go crazy even.

As they say, “all work and no play....." and this applies to all of us.

So, if you want to have a happy life, take breaks from everything frequently, even if short ones. Laugh every day. Change unhappy anything to happy. Before a maximum saturation sets in, shift gears ....and be a little wise, a little crazy, a little adventurous, a little determined, a little balanced but always happy.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Oscillation

Oscillation! On a hot day, one finds much relief in the oscillation of the fan. That is comfort.

Not so when people in your life oscillate. Now on, now off. Now friendly, now not so. Now happy, now miserable. Now caring, now not really.

It must be agony to live this way, to feel this way. It must also spark an element of restlessness from being like a yoyo.

Consistency of thought and emotion is very important. It gives a balance to the mind.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Instant

People take the word "instant" to an unreal level. In the current world of instant coffee and noodles, even the desire for success is instant. After barely a few months of training, you want give stage performances. By studying at the last minute, you want to top the class. By taking bribes, you want instant richness.

Actually, you quicker you go up without deserving to, the quicker the chances of downfall and oblivion.

Everything takes time. I think we all have heard of the story of the goose that laid the golden egg. The owner, in his desire to get rich quickly, decided to cut open the goose to remove all the eggs at one go. But there were none. The eggs were produced only one at a time. So, the owner became a pauper.

Be patient and master the knowledge or your craft before you crave for success. Surely, no one can stop you then.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Expectations

We always think of expectation from others. But have we ever dwelt on how much some of us expect from ourselves? To be a perfectionist is one such expectation. “I want to do everything to perfection and I can almost kill myself just to prove to myself that I can do it.”

The flip side of this can be very damaging. Unrealistic expectations from the self can cause much stress, anger if unable to reach the self made benchmark, depression accompanied by low self esteem.

To relax and do your best is a good way to handle life. Often, the benchmark we think is ours can actually inspired by impressing someone else. And sometimes, it can be a trait from the past or past lives that continues due to karmic issues. Any kind of imbalance distorts. Expectations is a need that is perhaps better transformed into a calm attitude of dealing with what comes your way to the best of your ability without getting hyper.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Need or Want?

Very early in life, we were taught that patience is one of the most coveted qualities and is a part of learned behavior. I have learnt that it is in proportion with our needs and their fulfillment. The law of demand and supply is directly proportionate to our levels of patience. It is a need of a baby to be fed instantaneously when it is hungry. These are called “demand feeds” because patience is an unknown word to the little baby. But as age advances, the natural needs change into wants, a scenario where patience AND ethics take a back seat many a time. 

“I can’t wait “is a common phrase heard everywhere, whether it pertains to a simple need like “needing” to go for a movie, or, a more compelling one like “needing” to become a multi millionaire. Both are wants, not needs. At some point, most of us start using the words “want” and “need “ as synonyms, though they are far from being synonyms. “I “want” this because it is my “need”, is a common place feeling. Our mind cannot separate the two because our needs become wants over a period of time. What we want is not necessarily what we need. Our needs are basic to our survival while on this earth, whereas our wants are inspired by a desire for excesses, extras, and greed for “just a little more”. The latter are imbalances of ego driven insecurities and desires within us. When our wants start multiplying, it means we are indulging ourselves and craving for more than what is needed to sustain us through life.

When it is a question of wanting, we are like instant coffee. Everything must be achieved NOW. I used to teach vocal music to a few students who wanted to perform after doing four or five classes when we had practiced for years to reach a common minimum standard. It is understandable that getting an endorsement or approval from others is great feeling. But those who have their goal defined and the determination and perseverance to achieve it with patience are more likely to have the depth of knowledge to be successful. Patience is a long path to amazing rewards. “Too much too soon” does not define wisdom. I guess, the satisfaction of a need is its own reward but the satisfaction of a want breeds more and more “wanting” to which the satiation levels are not well defined or guaranteed.

At the same time, we also need to ask ourselves how much we need in order to be happy. Not much really! If we didn’t seek our identities in the eyes of other people, we would lead a much more stress free life and also be satisfied with what we have. Our “wants” are perhaps more for social recognition than anything else. Many of us have more than we need and some have much more than they will ever need.

Philosophers and Thinkers have always emphasized the concept of “simple living and high thinking” for a good reason. The more we get involved with comparisons of material gains and walk into the race for “one upmanship”, the more our wants increase, gradually becoming out of control. The imbalance thus caused shifts the focus from what we are here to achieve as spiritual beings to illusory gains in a temporary world, a world which we are actually just passing through in our journey. For a very short lived satisfaction, therefore, are we digressing from our evolutionary path?

The time for introspection is now.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com