Showing posts with label cleanliness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cleanliness. Show all posts

Monday, 26 February 2018

Observers


There are people who, for some reason, do not trust or have faith in most people. They are suspicious. What happens then is that they close their mind and heart to even good advice because they don't trust.
Observers can see many more traits clearly than the person who is experiencing negativity. They are heavily into the denial mode. The tragedy is that they also get distanced from people, sometimes from people they have been close to. Their vision gets clouded and they can't discriminate the sincere from the insincere.
The bottom line being that we are responsible for our lives, we need to pull up our socks, however impossible it may seem to do so during that low phase. There are all kinds of solutions available and possible if we don't start obsessively harping on just that one which is not a working solution. We just need to trust that things will get better if we know how to make them better and keep trying until they do.
Surekha Kothari

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Thursday, 1 February 2018

Melancholy

Melancholy and loneliness are eternal partners. The former tends to alienate you from others because no one wants an extra share. Most of the people I know have that area within that they battle with. But melancholy people cannot be jolly and laughing either. So, they stand alone. From this situation arises a void, loneliness. Your heart may go out to them but their company can be exhausting.
Such is the situation in families and society today. That tolerance is unavailable. Any amount of mental illnesses is available for the asking.
Circumstantially, if life pushes you into isolation, options can still be found. Either you can get lost in your feeling lonely and unwanted or you can concentrate on learning and creating a new life. Melancholy and depression are hardly ways to live a beautiful if tough life. Giving in and giving up need to be replaced by "I can and I will".
Surekha Kothari

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Monday, 17 July 2017

Transformation

Right from the time of birth, we are changing constantly. As children, we listen to parents. When we become a little older, going to school is the first big adjustment. Freedom comes along. Exposure comes along. And with every influence, within the family first and later, the outside influence, changes a human being constantly. There are paradigm shifts in belief systems, styles of living etc.
A fusion of many types of cultures, thinking patterns sometimes confuse, sometimes help in clearing the mind.
In this process, some become better and evolved while some become bitter and disillusioned with life.
Belief systems, unless we have an open mind, tend to make for a certain rigidity which can become our worst enemy, like stagnant water which breeds diseases. Rigid belief systems are often like a disease. They block out the light of each new day.
The catch word is "change", whether the ability or the inability to do so. On this depends the transformation into betterment or bitterness.
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 31 January 2017

Form of dharma

When we speak of dharma, we generally get a mixed bag definition: rituals, duties, religion etc. And the result is confusion. Because dharma is not any one of these. If anything divides human beings, it absolutely cannot be dharma.
The core of dharma in its true sense lies in each one of us.
HONESTY: we might get cynical here because we see very little honesty today. And yet, it is our core because, when thinking about it, who can accept and actually like dishonesty? Which means honesty IS our core.
WORK/ ACTIVITY: Movement and change are two constants. Activity is our second core. We need to give it direction but all humans have act ..that is, keep moving . It is inevitable.
CLEANLINESS: an inevitable measure of dharma. To clean not only the body but the thoughts, the mind and emotions, ego as well as our environment.
KINDNESS: to care selflessly. Help people in need without wanting to be on page 3. On human, compassionate grounds.
Irrespective of your religion, any other identities you might have, all the four points mentioned constitute your inner core as a human being. And if all of us started understanding and practicing this form of dharma, there would come a time when all humans of whichever religion, caste, creed would happily and harmoniously share space, love and peaceful progress.

Surekha Kothari

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Wednesday, 27 July 2016

Realize

is amazing to actually draw parallels between our external and inner worlds. Whenever things are confused outside, I can see that there is some confusion inside as well. You will also realize this. Haven't you noticed that some days you just get up feeling heavy and the whole day goes wrong...nothing goes right.

Old memories get triggered, because of some negativity in the subconscious mind and of course, this manifests outside. The day you are not well, you tend to avoid the world around you because there would surely be conflicts. 

These memories are what we need to cleanse through meditation, introspection and transformation.

Surekha Kothari


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Friday, 10 June 2016

Spiritual

There are many types of people in this world. And that is why life is so interesting and inspiring. Some become role models because they have qualities worth emulating. We look up to them and they inspire us. Some make us wonder what makes them tick and we don't necessarily want to emulate them. 

However, we do understand that there is something good in everyone. Distortions are a part of each one of us. Life's purpose is to get over them and feel clean. To cleanse and to purify our thoughts. 

Spiritual is who we are when the distortions are cleared.

Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 10 April 2016

The important three C's.....

The important three C's.....

Cleanliness, Compassion and Commitment.

Amazing that cleanliness outside means we are clean inside. That's why clutter in homes is indicative of cluttered minds.

Compassion reaches out to others only when it understands and mirrors compassion for the self. Forgiveness, therefore, comes easier to compassionate people.

Commitment is a huge one. I have seen way too many people not fulfilling their commitments or going back on the spoken word. This is somewhere deep down an indication of a lack of commitment to the self. This is hard to measure in terms of worldly acquisitions. You might be committed to acquiring wealth, for example. But you may not be committed to the means of acquiring it. You may not value your own promises. Or maybe, temporary commitment is done only for personal gains and withdrawn later. Who knows?


There are many layers shrouding truth and reality. 

There is never a better time than now to start removing them even if it is painful to do so.

Surekha Kothari


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