Showing posts with label Anchored. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Anchored. Show all posts

Thursday, 18 July 2019

Gratitude


Come to think of it, we don't offer gratitude often enough. We are not aware enough that the burning heat of life does not touch us in extremes. Yes, there are challenges for all of us. But, many of us tend to over amplify those challenges and make a huge deal without realizing that there are worse case scenarios around us , the kind we would not be able to tolerate even , just because we have not really been burnt to experience the difference .
We have kind of escaped the areas that the mines have been laid out or have lucked out in not entering those areas. And what you don’t experience ever becomes a memory to learn from.
Somewhere along the way, each time we forgot to say "thank you" to the Universe, we lost a little bit of our energy. And each time we are filled with gratitude, we are transported to a higher plane where there is happiness and joy. They are generated from within and so, also, remain with us over a long period of time.
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 22 July 2018

Option in life


We have so many postulates and generalities we speak out mechanically. "Good from far but far from good". Really! I want to ask, are you talking about yourself? After all, everything in this world has a mirror effect.
If you look deep within each individual, there is something nice and good in everyone. So, when we believe the above saying about someone, we are just resonating and trying to cope with this feeling within ourselves. And if we ARE doing that, then we don't know how to touch the positive core in another. Again, this means that we are unable to touch our own positive core because negative memories have taken over.
I keep thinking that in order to keep our health, we need to clean our homes, both inner and outer. Trying to clean someone else's backyard will not clean up yours.
Frivolity and skimming the surface of life is an option. But for those looking for pearls, deep sea diving is the only answer.
Surekha Kothari

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Friday, 22 June 2018

Justifications


Have you noticed that when you plan and work towards something, there will most certainly be last minute glitches and little, little obstacles coming your way, Sudden changes and sudden diversions. It is uncanny. And this goes on through life. I often ask whether some people go through more and some less. Whether some go through less but more intense experiences or little irritants throughout life?
But then, you have to find justifications to accept that which is beyond control. That is the bottom line. This thought is perhaps a continuation of my earlier thought in a recent post:
That life happens when we are busy planning it according to our desires. However, let us not dwell just on these but on the larger happiness beyond the immediate hurdles that makes life worth living.
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 17 June 2018

Chance


There is a great happiness that lies in our hearts and which springs forth from our hearts when there is harmony within and without. The laughter of friends, the gushing of a waterfall, the drenching in the rain together, bus journeys playing "Antakshari" amidst much merriment... and even in the silent companionship.
Life can be beautiful if you give it a chance.
Surekha Kothari

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Wednesday, 13 June 2018

Self assessment


It seems a dilemma when Krishna asks Arjuna to surrender all his actions to him and act according to dharma. On the other hand, we are taught to take ownership of our actions. Those who go into these questions find no easy formula to master. When to surrender and when to own our actions?
A constant self assessment is a way to understand the qualitative difference between these two. Even surrender is not that simple. To surrender completely is not even to plan and just let things happen. Just flow. Can we do that? Generally Impossible.
We really need to understand all the layers of our mind that we create for ourselves and then find ways to peel them off when understanding dawns. Meditation is a powerful tool to scan ourselves in a way no MRI or ECG can.
The inner voice speaks only when there is silence around it and it can be heard.
Surekha Kothari

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Quote of the day


Sunday, 3 June 2018

The Universe


The Universe is buzzing around us, giving us so many opportunities, so much support, so many kindred souls to help . Yet, we are unable to move forward and create experiences at an optimum level. Our eyes scan far away horizons when everything is so close. Perhaps, that is why we can't see it. It is too close .
The formulae for our well being are also perhaps as simple as the gifts from the universe are closer than we think or we know. We simply look in the wrong place.
Reminds me of the woman who lost her needle inside her hut but was looking for it outside in her yard only because the light was in the yard, while her hut was dark.
Similarly, we also look to raising our vibrations through external sources whereas the tools lie within us. We constantly look in the wrong place.
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 20 May 2018

Enough is enough


I always wonder, when is enough really enough? How many times during a conflict, we say, enough is enough? What IS that enough? What is this benchmark of "enough?"
Mostly, we set our own limits, don't we? And sometimes, others set them for us. For example, this far and no further from both sides, actually.
You know, in a constantly changing world, I find it difficult to understand this as a permanent concept. We know that "space" is ever growing and endless. We measure it in terms of the horizon but beyond that also is an ever expanding space. Maybe, the horizon then is our limitation of the mind. Maybe, space beckons us to go beyond what is apparent, again and again, repeatedly.
Strangely enough, we have it within us but we tend to use it differently. Like, greed can become limitless. Obsession can, too. The "enough" may not exist here. But we seldom have to accuse anyone about enough loving. There is mostly a scarcity of this and exactly due to a self imposed "enough", Math between people. "I didn't get enough". But I probably also didn't GIVE enough...
But how much IS enough? Give this enough thought. 
Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 29 April 2018

Natural consequences


Bringing up children to be wholesome individuals within the current context of complications, confusion, complexes and all sorts of mental corruption is a huge challenge. Many couples who think that having children is step 2 after marriage may please the family members around them but they themselves may not be ready as in mature enough, to become parents. To be responsible adults also means being brought up well by YOUR parents because you will only pass on to the kids what you know or the way you are.
Naturally then, the children will generally imbibe your teachings. If you look around at families, gone are the bonding families where sets of parents and cousins are closely attached to each other. Sadly, the children of siblings who develop distances due to small and insignificant issues invariably influence their children to maintain those distances, a huge part of their insecurities.
The other things that happen are natural consequences of adult behavior. The kids begin to tell the parents what they want to hear. Whenever unity is not prevalent, kids tend to take advantage by talking against the people their parents don't like. And the parents seem to endorse this because of wanting control over their kids. So, wrong becomes right. And the complexes of adult issues percolate to their children.
Growing up, these kids prefer friends to family and thus, families get more and more divided. And the odd people who can cement the frayed relationships are themselves victims of these myopic attitudes.
I can understand that everyone is human. But if the basic family love is maintained, all else can be forgiven and forgotten and kids can grow up healthy and respectful. Many a time, it takes just one complexes person in the family to begin its end. And that person is usually in denial of being the initiator,  small tear in a beautiful fabric which, if not darned immediately, tends to become bigger and bigger.
And after a point, the fabric must be discarded because you can't even darn it anymore. Many families have been torn apart and today what we call insular family units are units without limbs and heart. Collections of units joined together forms unity. And in the absence of unity, only units function in society today.
Surekha Kothari

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