Tolerance

There comes a time when you kind of tend to lose your tolerance for superficiality. The surface look of anything has a limited period of interest and limited value. After that, you want to go deeper. And if there is no “ deep” dimension or is not apparent when sought, there comes a saturation point and then the mind wanders away.

This intolerance, more often than not , is an age related symptom. Weeding out the chaff from the wheat is an inevitable process when exhaustion for meaningless anything sets in over a long period of time.

You start questioning why you think , speak or act without really catering to your basic persona. Your honest persona. Your more genuine persona. Why ? Time to quit the play., the drama of it all and return to source energy.

Surekha Kothari

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Enough is enough

I always wonder, when is enough really enough? How many times during a conflict, we say, enough is enough? What IS that enough? What is this benchmark of "enough?"

Mostly, we set our own limits, don't we? And sometimes, others set them for us. For example, this far and no further from both sides, actually.

You know, in a constantly changing world, I find it difficult to understand this as a permanent concept. We know that "space" is ever growing and endless. We measure it in terms of the horizon but beyond that also is an ever expanding space. Maybe, the horizon then is our limitation of the mind. Maybe, space beckons us to go beyond what is apparent, again and again, repeatedly.

Strangely enough, we have it within us but we tend to use it differently. Like, greed can become limitless. Obsession can, too. The "enough" may not exist here. But we seldom have to accuse anyone about enough loving. There is mostly a scarcity of this and exactly due to a self imposed "enough", Math between people. "I didn't get enough". But I probably also didn't GIVE enough...

But how much IS enough? Give this enough thought. 

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Valuable Thoughts

“I have to accept that I am never going to be the old version of myself again”. Words all of us say to ourselves at least once. But the thoughts behind these words are often of regret. Almost as if we lost something valuable, something we could have or should have retained. The fact that we keep reminiscing about the past is indicative of the fact that there are many happy memories lodged there. This also demonstrates that there is something within our present reality that is not a happy one. Or, maybe, something of value has gone out and we regret it.

It is also true that we are unable to look at our present moment and evaluate it. And this is because we live either within past memories or worry about the future. After all, the conscious mind is where we live. And this mind is a busy bee, planning and plotting, sharpening the ego, even immersed full time in the rat race to power and what not or timid and resigning, unmotivated and lethargic.

On the flip side, the statement can be a positive one if the old version of you was not really a great one depends! This can be a matter of great relief and joy and a moment of upgrading yourself. Feels really good!

So, what does the statement stand for, for each of us? Looking for a thinking cap?

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Judgments

When the mind is untouched by pollution, all human chatter fades into insignificance. When Jesus Christ can be nailed to the cross, this world is certainly not the right place to be in. We are all here to find peace in a cruel world, detachment in an illusory world and courage to eliminate the superficial layers in order to reach the soul.

People who embark on this journey seem to appear to artificial people like pretentious drama artists. But actually, stripping every layer of polluted skin, peeling away memories is painful to say the least but cannot be seen by those who struggle to survive on the strength of pleading that others approve of them. They have yet to discover their true spirituality.

"Avidya" or ignorance until it is seen and accepted as such, leads to illusory perceptions of being knowledgeable and often results in arrogance and scant respect even for the seniors in the family and society.

From "Ram Rajya" to this, the cycle continues. New scripts will be written in every phase when the old lose their interest quotient. New characters will come up to play the roles of "family" and "society". And value judgments will be given each time. Many will continue to get affected and many will learn their lessons from experiencing their karma and move on to another world.

Remember, as the candle shortens, its flame burns brighter. Similarly, those who get smaller in spirituality speak the loudest , perhaps like empty vessels making much noise... in fact, much conflict and chaos.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Almighty

The karma theory does not always sit well on people who feel they have been targeted unnecessarily without any provocation. And wronged, Also made to pay a very heavy price, sometimes for most of their lives. Overtly and examined at face value, it is a believable "truth”, though a subjective one. The question is, why do certain things happen to certain people only? Why not to others? There are many unseen reactions and belief systems at work behind the scenes which are not "seen" and therefore, people may end up believing in a partial truth or even the illusion of truth which they can understand.

Once karma hits without warning, and what is perceived as a gross injustice by the injured party towards the perpetrator turns into a wound, karma is not a reason they will believe. They call it preaching because it has not been experienced by the person who speaks of karma. But, truly, I don't think I know anyone who has NOT seen the theory "what goes around comes around" work in their lives. Often, it takes many years to even start bearing the consequences of karma based on its quality. But it DOES come to fruition.

The crucial point for us humans is not to wish ill to those who have worked against us because the rewards or otherwise come from above very scientifically and clinically. There is no need for humans to take this onus upon themselves, because that would not be their business. The equation is between the doer and the Almighty.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Child depression

Child depression has become a huge issue in the world of today. There were unwanted children, neglected children even earlier in time. However, the sole reason for stress in as young as school children today is the paucity of love, lack of opportunity, devaluation of merit and a desperate run towards. Just to name a few. There is much depression in children, visible and subtle, and it runs deep.

The new and upcoming affluence can demonstrate cluelessness. Some may be struggling to keep abreast of the rapid changes and not being too successful in giving a comprehensive education.

The thumb rule is, we give what we have. Rich parents give material things for the asking. They have money to burn. And thus, their kids burn their lives in it. The educated class ensures the education of their kids. The middle class has motivation and ambition to give their children because they have to and need to teach their kids to become earning citizens. There is not much to fall back on. Lower income groups struggle to give to their children period.

There is so much available out there that much of the depression comes from complete deprivation, the inability to procure what others seem to have. The pressure just to BE is unbelievable.

Somehow, in life, these are the things that matter. You tend to see only that. You seldom focus on those who give or want to give you happiness because they have it and know the value. Ironically, everyone wants it but no one wants to learn about how it can become a part of you. The more they run, the more elusive it becomes.

And when you don't look for the right ingredients, automatically, you fail to draw the attention of your children to the meaningful achievements. And children learn by example.

Unfortunately, parents very often live through their children. This is yet another big source of depression in children today. Fulfilling the ambition of their parents. Being pushed where they don't want to be. Bearing burdens they are too young to shoulder. Growing up before they have enjoyed childhood. Also, misusing childhood because they either have not been taught better or are swayed by the blinding light of parties and temptations, failing to see the darkness behind that blinding light...and everything blind needs eyes of wisdom.

We have much work to dispel that darkness within innocent minds and give them love, hope and a direction , not missing out the most important one: the spiritual one : the way back to their real source.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Circumstances

To deserve what you get! How far is this true? Does everyone get what they deserve? "Deserving" is such a debatable word. We all feel at one time or another that we didn't get what we deserved. It is an imaginary yardstick we have for ourselves that makes or breaks us.

Who is really to say what we should have or not have in terms of anything ? Or, deserve it for that matter.

How many times we set goals, work towards them but fail to achieve them. Did we not deserve them then?

Likewise, we get pulled into a tunnel of success in something we never even hankered after. Did we deserve that when we did not ever work for it ? Was it luck? Or karma?

So, deserving is something it is better not to focus on too much. You want to achieve something, go at it with full steam. Try your best. Don't judge at all, whether you achieve your goals or not. Because, this is a most positive way you can live your life. Circumstances may change while you toil. You may also decide to change course along the way. Who knows? So, why care or wonder about deserving at all? You had what you had. You have what you have. You will have what you will have in the future. A perfect attitude for contentment.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Belief system

In this country, it is no surprise that people are so divided. Their individual conditioning is not based on a common yardsticks. Every religion has a separate rules book and rituals. And although we may link all religions to one source, is it so simple?

The environment in a Christian home, a Hindu home and a Muslim home will always have different energies. Energies are so subtle that they can be felt even if one is not very sensitive. The thoughts, the way of speaking, actions, cultural orientation etc.

I speak of religion as a priority because our societies are formed around religions...religious sects and cults. All of these claim to teach tolerance, acceptance and love but strangely enough, they succeed in doing just the opposite. The evidence is staring at us each day. Groupism on belief systems taught and practiced because of having a common teacher or Guru is seen everywhere. Nothing wrong so far. You have to draw inspiration from some elevated platform.

The problem arises when each group thinks they are the best and they are right in their beliefs. Therefore, by default, the others may not be so right. How can they be when there is only one type of "right" per group? According to them, of course. This attitude magnifies the differences and so, similarities recede into the background when actually, these are the ones that bind people together.

We need knowledge beyond the "taught" knowledge and that can only come through personal practice and experience by exposure to all kinds of people and their ways of thinking and doing things. And by putting in work on yourself consistently. No guru or teacher can experience anything on your behalf. They can guide you in the right direction though.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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