Showing posts with label Forgive. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Forgive. Show all posts
Friday, 15 April 2022
Monday, 28 March 2022
Monday, 7 March 2022
Happiness
Among the thousands of thoughts per day, if
you analyse them, you will be shocked to see how many are merely ego driven
reactions. There is no substance there. But we still internalise them and then
go into a frenzy of an emotional whirlpool. “I” am hurt. “I” cannot forgive
this.”I” will hit back.
What is this “I” ? WHO is this “I”? Only
this one question and its answer can relieve so many toxins that we build up in
our systems. What is the point ? Has anyone become happy harbouring so many
unwanted toxins ? In fact, quite the reverse.
To be at peace, letting worthless thoughts
and reactions slide off you is therapy. For the self , and indirectly that
which spills over to others in the form of our attitudes , our mentality.
Nothing should matter except the pain of our loved ones as
well as of those we can help. The energies that we fritter away aught really to
be kept intact for benevolent acts , both to ourselves and to others. The main
purpose in life is to give back in equal measure what life has given us.
I have understood that by expecting anyone
to behave as we want is also an ego exercise to force “other” behaviour into
making US feel good. No one is duty bound to make us feel good. That is a
personal choice. Happiness is an internal fountain.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 6 July 2021
Memories
Sometimes, the clouds suddenly disperse and the sun shines in all its glory. And sometimes, we wait and wait for it to emerge from the clouds. Exactly the way life happens. Sudden happiness and often, we have to pass through “ this too shall pass” phases. And they do pass.
Just remember not to store the wounds and
the reasons for them. That won’t help. What WILL help is dropping those
memories. Forgive. Forget. Gratitude. Abundance. Nothing lasts. So, why should
memories ?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Wednesday, 19 May 2021
Forget and forgive
It’s
time to heal ourselves. How much conflict do we want? Aren’t we tired? Of all
the negativity, all the gnawing desires of more and more and more. Insatiable wants!
It’s
time to heal. Empty out our hearts of all we have bottled up and release it all
to the winds. Let’s breathe easier. Let’s love more. Forget and forgive hate,
envy, cravings ... and be at peace with ourselves.
What
is it that we search? It is all within us.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 13 August 2020
Memories
I marvel at people who just take things for
granted. Because what you really take completely for granted is the most
fragile. Yes, LIFE!
Is there any guarantee that we will even
wake up in the morning? Every day, we hear of sudden health issues, some
discovered too late even because, before manifesting, they were festering
within.
One would imagine that after witnessing one
or two such cases, people would become more sensitive to those around them and
aware of the fact that they can be lost to them anytime.
And yet, this awareness is very slow to
come in, if at all. It is very essential to spend as much time with each other
and build up strong and loving memories to last and transfer to each succeeding
generation. We survive only on good memories, and we have to create them
ourselves.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Sunday, 5 April 2020
The Freedom Movement
Our generation, which was born around the
freedom movement, much idealism , patriotism, the spirit of sacrifice, of
honour and integrity, has more than its share of emotions. Emotions were our
ammunition to deal with injustice and for a strike for independence from
colonialism.
We were also taught to give more than take.
We respected morality, ethics and principles. We were loyal to family, to
social ethics, to senior citizens and prided ourselves in being the way we
were.
Today, we are gradually beginning to
realise that these are the values to imbibe. Standing tall is in fashion,
thanks to our PM, who is as humane as he is a no nonsense Indian, proud and
self respecting not only on his behalf but on behalf of the nation. He exudes
an exemplary and inspiring persona. You want to emulate him.
It strikes a chord within my generation and
sparks a hope that we can salvage the traditional and cultural heritage that
keep our heads held high. Proud to be an Indian , especially from the earlier
generation.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 7 February 2019
Wednesday, 26 September 2018
Thursday, 21 June 2018
Tuesday, 5 June 2018
Sense of excitement
If only every human being had that one
ingredient for life: a sense of excitement! Like, when we are sitting at the
edge of our seats in a thriller movie, just waiting to see what the next scene
will bring. If we could translate that into our lives and wait for the next
thing to happen!
Of course, there are sad episodes one can't
possibly equate to anywhere close to exciting. There are "Navarasas"
or nine types of emotions, all of which are within us. Yet, our attitudes make
us. Or break us very easily said than done though.
When life happens, the best of us crumble
at times. But we accept that we crumbled. And then the resurrection happens.
And we look ahead again at what life brings to us next.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 24 May 2018
Quality of life
It is the truth that things will go to ruin
only if WE let them. People and events will get the better of us if we let
them. The ball is always in our court even if it was thrown by someone else.
And if we don't want it, WE have to make the effort to send it back.
So, there is really no scope for
hopelessness at all. Between the creative and logical parts of the brain lie
all ideas , ways to accomplish what we want to and all processing of thoughts
and information and then ...the challenge to make it all work and NOT get
intimidated by anyone or anything. This the last but lethal stop where
everything can reach a dead end.
Shying away from life for whatever reason
may well is termed as defensive living. It could mean accepting the dent in the
quality of life which could otherwise be enhanced with personal effort.
Because it is true that life will be what
WE make of it.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 20 April 2018
Monday, 2 April 2018
Friday, 22 December 2017
Introspection
At some point in time, we have to answer
one important question to ourselves, and that is, what does each of us stand for?
This introspection is most important for those who don't have a perspective or
have not explored this within themselves.
We don't realize that our self esteem
largely depends on this. When you don't take a stand or your stand is that you
don't want to take a stand at all is when you are divided into several people
within yourselves, each saying a different thing and initiating a perpetual tug
of war.
To live meaningfully, it is essential to
live by a set of rules, ideologies, norms and goals which determine and define
YOU. So, when you are not happy or taking your identity from how others
perceive you, you have yet to come into your own.
The idea is not to get swept away by the
tide but to use resistance so as to stand upright even around quick sands and
when to resist and how much to resist is the evidence of a dawning wisdom and
of standing in your own space with conviction.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 11 October 2017
Tuesday, 24 January 2017
Compulsions
How many compulsions we have to deal with in life on a
regular basis! A lot of energy is lost if we look at them as necessary evils.
To HAVE to do something against our wishes needs an instant infusion of extra
energy in the form of mustering up a little more enthusiasm than we actually
want at that point.
There is heaviness and reluctance and a need to just become
invisible so that there is no compulsion foisted on us.
But actually, that compulsion could be pushing us towards
new experiences which we would be deprived of otherwise. It is like not wanting
new experiences and getting caught in a limited space because we are
comfortable there.
I have realized this fact. And
each time I have surrendered to compulsions, I have gained in one way or
another. Rather than avoid them and miss out on a piece of life. It could be
that the universe wants us to have that experience and that may be the right
time for it. And maybe, we would emerge wiser, better and happier in the
bargain.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 9 September 2016
Quality of emotion
People say it is good to take
people and things at face value ....hmmm...really? But what is the end result
of taking such an attitude? Evidently, something like taking everything with a
pinch of salt! So, that makes for a lot of salt in the system! And salt retains water in the body. Water, you know, is a symbol of
emotions. Which means, if you are taking that attitude, you are doing it
superficially and suppressing
a lot of emotion in the bargain?
Otherwise, how come people who appear to be breezy, nonchalant
and least affected are afflicted with serious ailments? Strokes! Heart attacks!
Lung diseases! These reflect an inability to breathe in life positively.
Excess emotion can be a big killer. So, it is always better to accept
the quality of emotion you are feeling, run through it and cleanse it
immediately. We can pretend before others. Can we run away from ourselves?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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