Showing posts with label Aspirations. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Aspirations. Show all posts
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Tuesday, 21 July 2020
Thursday, 21 November 2019
Tuesday, 20 August 2019
Intelligence on earth
There are wonderful people all over the
world. You meet them at various points in your life and they become a source of
joy. You don't look for wealth in people. It is the love and caring that even
money cannot buy, that makes life beautiful. Imagine how much beauty you miss
if you only connect with people when you need them for your benefit.
Upbringing, grace, natural inner beauty are
the shining ingredients in humans. Living for yourself is nothing great. When
your being responds to those you love, you actually justify your birth as a
human being. Because human beings are the highest intelligence on earth. And
also have been gifted with a heart.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 10 July 2019
Tuesday, 9 July 2019
Belief system
Of late, I have begun to question many
belief systems. And one of them is the definition of loyalty. How far do we
stretch to prove we are loyal ? And why do we need to prove loyalty ? Do we
need to see reciprocity in loyalty ? Or is it a bit like unconditional love
where you must be loyal but not look for loyalty as a return. Is this what
people call owing allegiance to ?
Sometimes, when a relationship goes through
stormy weather, out of pique and hurt, we cease to be loyal. We speak against
people. Should we be like that ? Can we live with that ? Or is it better to
just let them go and walk away ? Or, is loyalty standing still , come what may
?
Hmmm. An interesting introspection with a
review of our past years . Where and when did we exercise our choice for and
against loyalty and what we now need to learn.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 25 June 2019
Thursday, 20 June 2019
Sunday, 12 May 2019
Thursday, 9 May 2019
Thursday, 11 April 2019
Monday, 8 April 2019
Sunday, 10 March 2019
Mindset
Sometimes, people talk without thinking .
They live in a world of mindsets. Like, a healer friend had high Blood pressure
and she happened to tell another friend this. The immediate reply was ,
"how come, when you are a healer yourself ?" So, A healer is not
perceived as a human being.
So, a musician should always be calm in the
wake of all odds. An affluent person should always be on top of the world
because what could be HIS worry ? He has everything.
These kinds of mindsets are so mechanical
and so much of a habit that I wonder whether these people listen to themselves.
Moreover, mindsets are a well which you can never emerge from if you don't feel
the need to. That's scary.. to not feel the need. To stand still.
Worth thinking about.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 22 January 2019
Victimhood
A strong message that we need to give
people is that of recognizing the aspect of victimhood within themselves and
shedding it at the earliest. When you compare yourself with others and find
yourself lacking in a few things, you feel life hasn't been fair to you. Victim
of life!
When people don't treat you well, you feel
you are not wanted, Victim again; without realizing that THEY may be struggling
to get out of their victimhood moments which stretch into years for many. Similarly,
you see relationships falling prey. One dominant the other victim, the power
play! Sensitive people often go under very quickly. And the game never stops, because
one of the two is living a victim's character.
Victimhood may be the result of many
things. Low self worth, inability to derive moral and spiritual strength,
depending on others for love and caring, not able to live with themselves and
many more. But the bottom line is, if you sink into victimhood, you sink period.
It is very difficult to come out of it. So, please don't let anyone push you
into that corner, not even your near and dear ones.
Stay wholesome people. And emerge stronger
each time you face any situation. After all, who is going to accompany you out
of this world? Certainly not those who were instrumental in your receding into
that mode.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 3 January 2019
The Era of knowledge
This is the era of knowledge predominance,
so much technology, Brilliance etc. But we have not emerged from our decadent
mindsets yet. Look at the kind of "education” our entertainment industry
provides us. We talk about equality, rights of women, leveling out the society,
going back to "family", respecting women (huge one, this!)
Women, even today, are depicted in the
worst ways. Watch an Indian or Pakistani drama (similar people in both countries)
and the most prominent theme is women bashing, subservience and ill treatment
of women, woman against woman (as in mother in law and sister in law),
intrigue, attempt by the family to destroy the daughter in law because of dowry
(sick!) or the obsessive tendencies of the mother in law and sisters in law to
control the "son" of the family...COME ON!
And we talk of changing our world by making
it progressive. We know that generations after generations internalize these
situations, machinations, dangerous and vicious intrigue and vicarious pleasure
at the downfall of others. So much so that we copy reel life and paste it in
real life.
In real life, we may not have women
characters retiring for the night in their finest heavy saris and jewelry but
we do have the masses enjoying all the politics and deviousness in families on
television and don't necessarily forget about them to go into loving and caring
ways with the family, friends and society.
The thinkers say it is their choice to see
what appeals to them and that you can't dictate what should be produced and
aired. But the appeal of exposure to and specially the enjoyment of such
dramas/ serials can be vital to the health of family, community and country, because
they create regressive attitudes and "license to kill" with self
indulgence of every kind. These are people who specialize in herd mentality and
don't have opinions of their own. AND, they idolize actors and juxtapose their
roles in their own lives, the erosion of values, Eve teasing, violations of
women, these gain momentum. But we don't have any forum to exorcise our people
of thinking and behavioral patterns, including a corrupt judiciary and police.
What all are we going to and HOW are we
going to clean up these to add to the “swachh Bharat" endeavor? If insides
are rotting, what cleanliness can we see outside? We will have understood the
wholesome and vast implications of "swachh" first.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 18 December 2018
Emotion
Regret is the worst emotion for any of us.
Crying over spilt milk, without examining and analyzing the how's and whys. It
IS important to do so. The root cause of regret may be very small.
Aren't there many things we have wanted but
unable to get them ? Or achieve them ? Even if I take up a career successfully
today, there may be other aspects which I could not nurture due to time
constraints and whatever else.
Circumstances, inabilities of different
kinds and for different reasons... it's ok , because one did other things .
That is the satisfaction one seeks. It is important to find enjoyment in what
we do, not regret what we did not or could not do. The bottom line !
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 13 December 2018
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