Wisdom

The phrase “acting according to character” sets me thinking. We all have certain basic characteristics that show up as a pattern in daily life. To that extent, we CAN appear as predictable.

On the other hand, to what extent can anyone of us be slotted? Any unexpected action or behavior immediately brands us as acting OUT of character. And comments like, “I didn’t think he/ she was capable of this”.

Let’s watch ourselves to see how many times we do this! As if we know people in and out! The truth is, we are evolving as we trigger old memories and have new experiences. And with every experience, we are also changing subtly. We don’t see it immediately unless we are very aware.

All we can do is observe the changes within us and within others. And mark them for future interactions. In a nutshell, no one remains static. Movement is key. We only choose the direction according to our awareness and wisdom.

Surekha Kothari

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Self-Destructive

People find it easier to live amidst past memories. Strange because it is like a pool of a lot of stagnant water of a lot of negative emotions, hurts and anger, all of which are self-consuming and self-destructive.

Why? It is a known territory even if people have to relive suffering! More so when there are negative emotions attached to those memories which smoulder within. How does one forget?

Letting go is difficult also because what is yet to come is unknown. And there is fear of the unknown.

We have a tendency to hold on to crutches which are obviously temporary. When WE are temporary in this world, how can we think anything can be permanent?

A journey is like a flow of events which we must experience as observers only. That is the best training we can give ourselves. The universe is working systematically and with a beautiful flow. We don’t even notice. We only lament about ourselves and what we got/ did not get, deserved/ did not deserve and most importantly, WHY others got more than we did.

If this is our thought process, we deserve then, to suffer.

Surekha Kothari

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Journey

 All these years, having been in denial and argued and vented, finally, truth has dawned! Everything happens for a reason. Everything was meant to be. We thought we were taking the decisions but, was it so? Really? Were our reactions valid then?

Actually, what is meant to stay, stays. And what is meant to get over, just gets over. WE reach a saturation point in a lot of the cases. And in some, the choice is not ours.

And yet, all our lives, we fight and stress, and refuse to let go to move forward. We forget that karma is at work constantly. Our debts call out. Also our credits are interspersed with those debts we must pay. When we experience the joy of good karma, we forget easily. What remains and sustains is the unpleasant memories.

As the wise have wisely said, cut thoughts. Cut memories. They are the source of all the attachment and egos at play in our lives. And when there are no thoughts, it is automatic surrender to a higher power. This is the ultimate in our journey, isn’t it?

Surekha Kothari

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Energy

Have you tried the concept of “a new me” everyday? Try giving yourself a new name in the morning and remember that you are not your original name for that day. Because with that old name is attached a lot of negative energy and often unsavory memories.

So, try getting clean energy with a new beginning every morning. It really works wonders. It even becomes an exciting game with great benefits.
Surekha Kothari

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Memories

 

All these years, having been in denial and argued and vented, finally, truth has dawned! Everything happens for a reason. Everything was meant to be. We thought we were taking the decisions but, was it so? Really? Were our reactions valid then?

Actually, what is meant to stay, stays. And what is meant to get over, just gets over. WE reach a saturation point in a lot of the cases. And in some, the choice is not ours.

And yet, all our lives, we fight and stress, and refuse to let go to move forward. We forget that karma is at work constantly. Our debts call out. Also our credits are interspersed with those debts we must pay. When we experience the joy of good karma, we forget easily. What remains and sustains is the unpleasant memories. 

As the wise have wisely said, cut thoughts. Cut memories. They are the source of all the attachment and egos at play in our lives. And when there are no thoughts, it is automatic surrender to a higher power. This is the ultimate in our journey, isn’t it?

Surekha Kothari

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Adversity

 With every so called adversity, rejuvenate yourself. Life is to be lived, not to be lamented over. You can either give energy to your dark memories and experiences or create your own happy space with the many cherished memories. And create new ones.

I don’t know if anyone of us is infallible! It is for each of us to rewire ourselves wherever and whenever any thought, speech or action produces discomfort. And sure, it happens to us all.

At such times, look within immediately and go to the root of the discomfort. It is always within you. Not outside

The moment you gloat about your success; life confronts you with yet another challenge. So, be aware of the blessings upon you and live in gratitude.

Surekha Kothari

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Spiritual Practices

 

As the candle burns the brightest before getting extinguished, so , when pain is the highest in intensity during its transitiory phase , and before it disappears to provide the relief.

Ofcourse, this is evinced after rigorous spiritual practices to empty the mind of memories and seek salvation through a superimpisition of positivity on  every negative factor seen within us. 

It is not quite right to assume that pain and suffering won’t recur. But with regular practice, their impact can be minimised . With an understanding of why it is returning and with the wisdom we have hopefully acquired .

Surekha Kothari

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Personality

 When abuse becomes virtually a religion, manipulation becomes your second skin. What a pity that there are people who would be callous enough to abuse their own parents , let alone outsiders ! That anyone can be so self absorbed that all the filters in behaviour disappear.

We speak of upbringing , sensibilities, grace, loyalty and all

Those fine endowments of our personality which come from

The old world. But where IS that world ?

Thoughts of bygone eras are only memories , memories that bring you misery in the wake of the current scenario where , unless you are diplomatic with “family” also , more often than not, you have to pay a huge price with being persecuted. Because love is not a currency that works anymore. It is only the art of superficiality that gets you everywhere. But ultimately, it is manipulation because it does not come from the heart.

I still have the ability to feel a sense of shock, a disbelief , when I see such episodes being enacted. It gets difficult to then focus on the beautiful side of life . The ugliness is too consuming ! At least for a while !

Surekha Kothari

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Life Journey

 You know why we love looking at old family photos ? Not necessarily to see how we looked and how we have changed in appearance but how bonded we looked and were then. When closeness and love shines through photos , we want to relive those moments, days, years.. and so on.

As adults, life changes. Each one’s journey becomes different and as the modern day world is, family members are scattered through the world. Times are very different. Only zoom shots can be shared and saved. The warmth of physical presence, that hug, that tangible energy of love felt in being in the same room is rare.

In any case, after a certain age, photos acquire a very huge emotional importance in the lives of senior citizens. Those are memories to hold onto in their lonely moments. A reason to smile, however wistfully, at the faces looking out from the photo frames, faces that are not within reach , to hold , to caress… children, grand children…. Miles away , for whom we dare not pine for rationally, for isn’t it time to gradually wind up ?

There will come a time for us too, to bid farewell to our loved ones and travel into an unknown space and into the unknown future of our soul whose journey continues … into unchartered waters !

Surekha Kothari

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Simplicity

 I have always believed that everything is flowing. When I look back , our perspectives seem to have come a long way.

Sometimes, nostalgia takes me back to old movies because I just love the songs. And I was such a movie buff in my school days that I would see every movie running in theatres with silver jubilees and golden jubilees and a few, many times.

The stars of yesteryears were not only on the screen but in our eyes as well. And we thought those were carefree, magical days of innocence and fun.

When I see the same movies again, the impact is not the same. Sometimes, I wonder what I liked about a few of them. You obviously grow out of some things in life. But they still blend with our impressions created at the time and the memories we have of the feelings we had then. That quality of feeling does not return often. But what is important is living in the present moment completely, and this we did very well back then.

What is sad is that those days of simplicity of thinking and living have gone. And what they are replaced with is complex minds, insatiable desires and a general lack of consideration for each other. People now enjoy crime and fear in movies, calling them realistic. Where are the pure love stories and relationship stories?

Surekha Kothari

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Lack of awareness

Many of us either don't learn from our mistakes or don't really care; Just blundering through life with a lack of awareness. Like a child that refuses to learn. I wonder what makes some of us like that.

They say new souks are somewhat like this because they lack memories of the experience of old souls. Makes sense to me. A new soul would be childlike for sure; adventurous, loving, aggressive and rising with every fall; until life happens and reactions to good and bad memories take over thoughts and action.

We don't even realize how much creatures of our past we are. How predictable our actions could be for someone who has seen us evolve.

If you see people with lower back aches, they are storing memories which need to heal. They would be older souls because they have so much to store.

The task of cleansing these memories forms a large part of the reasons of our many births.

Surekha Kothari

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Memories

When we talk of memory, we perhaps refer to the mind in general. The soul memory actually gets transferred from one lifetime to another and is stored as cellular memory. If the memories are painful , they will manifest in the body sooner or later if something is not done to take away the pain . It is like a thorn in your foot which , if deep, gets septic and the pain radiates well beyond the location of the thorn .

It seems like a Herculean task if not an impossible one, to heal the cells by healing the memories. Because emotional pain also radiates out as compounded pain with one major negative emotion finding allied emotions joining in. Like, anger brings frustration and often , hopelessness with it.

One beautiful method is through breath. Breathing exercises are vital to health. Otherwise lungs can get effectively choked due to intense emotions. They can't breathe in life under these conditions.

So, it pays to remember each time we practice negativity, where the memories are going to be stored and how important it is to clean up the toxicity before it attacks the mind body complex.

Surekha Kothari

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Intelligence

Why do we go into sometimes uncalled for and sometimes unnatural behavioral patterns? Especially with certain people? And you tell yourself that you don't know where these patterns came from. But they have to have come from somewhere.

I find that old memories are the most common triggers.

Your old negative experiences about these people create an adverse reaction and even if you see them after a long time, you still assume that those old habits of that person would still be existing as you had experienced before and been thoroughly disenchanted with at the time.

Assumptions can be very real and dangerous at times. Because you haven't given another chance and may be completely wrong and start something like a chain of causes and effects you never should have. Or never dreamt you would.

It is therefore, a good idea to forgive and erase those memories.

You would be human to ask, how many chances should one take and be given in any particular case of being burnt with past experiences. The reply lies with you and how intelligently you can handle the same people again, this time without labeling them black and by giving them and yourself another chance at creating a new equation.

Surekha Kothari

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Spontaneity

People often confuse impulsiveness with spontaneity, probably because of the quickness of response in both cases. But if you think about it, they are not quite the same.

Impulsiveness is a trait which shows often that an action has been taken without adequate thought. The impulse could therefore, be misleading.

Spontaneity is a response from the heart which resonates with the regular actions of another. Like, to spontaneously hug someone you care about and are close to. The caring dictates the spontaneous action. The type of earlier memories about a person or situation can dictate the level of spontaneity, positive or negative.

The heart is spontaneous. The head thinks. And when the head (or intellect) is thinking wrongly, wrong impulses will be the result.

Surekha Kothari

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