Why do we go into sometimes uncalled for
and sometimes unnatural behavioral patterns? Especially with certain people?
And you tell yourself that you don't know where these patterns came from. But
they have to have come from somewhere.
I find that old memories are the most
common triggers.
Your old negative experiences about these
people create an adverse reaction and even if you see them after a long time,
you still assume that those old habits of that person would still be existing
as you had experienced before and been thoroughly disenchanted with at the
time.
Assumptions can be very real and dangerous
at times. Because you haven't given another chance and may be completely wrong
and start something like a chain of causes and effects you never should have.
Or never dreamt you would.
It is therefore, a good idea to forgive and
erase those memories.
You would be human to ask, how many chances
should one take and be given in any particular case of being burnt with past
experiences. The reply lies with you and how intelligently you can handle the
same people again, this time without labeling them black and by giving them and
yourself another chance at creating a new equation.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
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