Comfort Zone

 Ideally, we should gravitate towards people and experiences that will teach us and help us grow and evolve. But idealistic situations often remain just that: an ideal. They require a complete turn around from the superficial to the meaningful. They require sacrificing comfort for elevation. Yes, the two cannot go together.

If you stay on land and dream of conquering mountains, well there is no tax on dreaming but that is all it will be an unrealized dream.

Living in and around comfort zones is more for the weak hearted. And I don’t necessarily refer to climbing mountains here. I mean shaking yourself out of anything you find yourself settling into on a long term basis. At least, going beyond it once in a while, gaining new experiences and then maybe, returning to that comfort zone for a while.

I know the world is not always an easy place but it was never meant to be ! It is up to you to gain and lose according to who you are and what you can become or want to become or not!

Surekha Kothari

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Self-Destructive

“Letting go” is more a philosophical statement than a genuine attempt for most people. Sounds wise on the lips. But without any meaning if not practiced. The phrase is not meant to be just spoken about.

These are all personal practices for ourselves. We live in a family, in a community where there WILL be a wear and tear of emotions and feelings and even reactions in the name of being “human”. But instead of harboring the adversely affecting emotions, can we let go of them immediately as they arise? Knowing that they are harmful to us and no one else? Or do we come under the category of “self-destructive”?

Actually, we have a tendency to get into conflict, retaliate, get hurt, shun people and ultimately, lose relationships. And ironically, we are the ones who have suffered on that emotional see saw without seeing any change whatsoever in the people we have conflicted with, except blame for us.

The question I always ask myself is: would I carry a burning coal in my hands just because someone gave it to me? Obviously NOT!

But in many ways, we ARE carrying grouses within us, which are like carrying burning coals, which come from others because we don’t have the wisdom to LET GO. We are unable to focus on what is good for our mental health and peace of mind. And therein lies our core of restlessness and frustration.

When maturity finally dawns, we are able to laugh at ourselves at our earlier foolishness. And we automatically start to let go of the unnecessary burdens we carry.

Learning to discard and delete does not have to be learnt from AI. We have our own super intelligence we could use if we lessened our dependence on the opinions of others and delved into our own common sense department within our intelligence bank.

Surekha Kothari

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