Transformation

 Transformation is always from within. It is a change which comes to stay. Cannot be external or faked. Also, it comes after a lot of churning within. With a realization that something NEEDS to be changed, that it is not quite right, even makes you uncomfortable.

We have a built in meter within us which tells us. But we may not either realize this or want to listen to it. When we are not ready and have to go

Through some more churning.

Isn’t it strange then that we have everything with us, but we take so much time to actually turn to the right side of the coin?

Surekha Kothari

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Acceptance

As humans, we are as negative as many others around us. We struggle with feelings like injustice, reactions, feeling rejected, the unfairness of justifying a wrong deed. Sometimes, these feelings become intense and there is much anger.

Then gradually, as you realize you can only change yourself, grudgingly, acceptance of what you can’t control or change sets in and you begin to seek answers to the “why”.

Finally dawns the light you need so badly within you and have blocked for so long. And when expectations die, finally, some peace dawns.

What a struggle when we could have arrived at this solution so much earlier.

But, right time and right effort is imminent! So much backlog to clear. We have to be kind to ourselves.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Self-esteem

 

Life is not about feeling threatened, politicking and one upmanship. As long as we are in that space, our toxicity will pile up and will take longer to leave us when we start trying. It CAN happen very quickly if we realize deeply that we have to LET GO every polluted thought, against others and equally so, against ourselves.

The culprits are always within us: self-criticism, void, low self-esteem and confidence, the “I am incapable” / “I am not good enough” syndrome and more….

We have all been fashioned in the image of God, to fulfil some requirement. Instead, we don’t trust and flounder amidst our identity woes. Someone whose life seems perfect may have several challenges you don’t know about. Just minding our own store can upgrade us to the next levels.

That’s all we CAN do.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Acquiring power

 The tragedy of acquiring power is that you begin to think you are invincible. And that is the biggest mistake you make. Because you invariably start to turn the wheel in your favor, oblivious to the fact that there is an unseen force that works behind the scenes to stage your downfall if you disregard the principles of living. I used to think there were choices we all have. But I now realize that we have no choice but to be good humans, above and despite everything else, and to be more than good if we are in high places.

Yes, it is difficult to be good. But who said life was easy? We have to conquer ourselves, after all. It is no mean task and not a second to waste. A tall man has to bend to go through a door. A man in high places needs to bend his head in a similar manner to get through to people and connect.

Goodness is also relative. If you spend lavishly for a personal reason and do a little charity, that goodness is not recognized in comparison to a poor person who gives away his food to someone needier.

So, let us not hide behind goodness as a facade because someone up their watches.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Aspects of people

 

When you get into the habit of being stressed due to the way people behave with you, you are in trouble and out of your mind control. I know most people get affected by the negative aspects of people they love or are attached to. That is “normal”. But what we don’t decipher in our hurt is that we have a choice: to hurt or not hurt. If we are wholesome, hurt is not even an option. It is too trivial. But if we are fractured by our reactions and our needs, then we need repair big time. We MUST cure this at the earliest.

I realize that when people are grappling with a certain discomfort in their own skin, they get mercurial. And they tend to unleash their anger about not feeling so good about themselves, on others. So, it is not necessary to retort at all. It is really not about you at all. Once you understand this, it become easier to be calm around such people.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Lack of awareness

Many of us either don't learn from our mistakes or don't really care; Just blundering through life with a lack of awareness. Like a child that refuses to learn. I wonder what makes some of us like that.

They say new souks are somewhat like this because they lack memories of the experience of old souls. Makes sense to me. A new soul would be childlike for sure; adventurous, loving, aggressive and rising with every fall; until life happens and reactions to good and bad memories take over thoughts and action.

We don't even realize how much creatures of our past we are. How predictable our actions could be for someone who has seen us evolve.

If you see people with lower back aches, they are storing memories which need to heal. They would be older souls because they have so much to store.

The task of cleansing these memories forms a large part of the reasons of our many births.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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"The cockroach theory for self development"

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady, she started screaming out of fear with a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group new, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story: 

I understood, I should not react in life. I should always respond. The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded. Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought.

Do you have the ability to find a reason to laugh at yourself? It is a very liberating experience, believe me! So, one day, I was travelling by a share cab with my two grand kids and daughter in New York. These share cabs pick up people on the way if they want to travel the same route and provided there is space, of course. I was completely unaware of this.

So, while we were chattering away, suddenly the left side door opened to a young man. Before I could show my displeasure for unceremoniously stopping our cab, my daughter told me to move to the right. In bewilderment and completely not understanding what was happening, I quickly shifted to my right and fell with a thud on the floor of the cab.

I had not realized that, for some reason best known to the cabbie, half the back seat had been removed! After a few seconds of shocked silence in the cab, I broke into peals of laughter and my grandkids and daughter, very relieved at my reaction, joined in. At this moment, I realized how wonderful a feeling it is to laugh at myself. It freed me from being conscious in the presence of others.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari