Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts

Monday, 23 June 2025

Silence

 Holding your head high tells people that you are the lead character of your own story. Confidence is liberating from external Validation. Walk tall and create your own space. Don’t shrink into someone else’s world.

Respect starts with you. Don’t give energy to anything negative. People will test your boundaries, try to judge you and control you even, and fail to see your worth. Or it may not suit them to see your worth so, they would try to push you down.

Silence to any external negative stimulus is the apt response. Silence in thought and silence of any reaction.

Owning your own life is the biggest step forward.  Let everything come from within and grow on your own elevating benchmark every day, based on your own increasing wisdom. Learning and growth are products of personal experiences. No one can live your life for you, however supportive they may be.

Surekha Kothari

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Monday, 3 May 2021

Confidence

 

If you are not a confident person, you will always lack in confidence in relationships as well. You might misunderstand instead of understanding because the light emitted by confident people is so bright that many may automatically come under its shadow.

Really not a desirable situation the idea of “I am not good enough” can be the reason. This could have developed in childhood or maybe, with constant comparisons. But this is sheer ignorance nevertheless.

Most of the time, we try to avoid people who threaten us. We know what’s happening but still, don’t want to change this, although change May bring much positivism in us.

If you are excited about learning cycling but scared to sit on one, how will you learn to use it to move forward? Diffidence is like never getting onto that cycle. No one can lift us and put us on that seat except ourselves.

Surekha Kothari

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Sunday, 26 July 2020

Expectation


We play many roles in this world. Familial ties are familiar ties because we are born and bred there. We generally build up a close bond while growing up together.
And then, we tie a “knot” in marriage and reset our lives according to a new person, a new family. And we expect that one person, the spouse, will play all the roles rolled into one, in our lives. Practically, that may not be true. Every human being in and around you fulfils a certain expectation in your life, gives you something different, including your spouse but not to the exclusion of everyone else, however happy your marriage might be.
Souls come and go and each one helps you to learn something. It may not be possible that all the traits you admire may be seen in one human being. Not even in you for that matter, though, thanks to yourself image, it may be easier for you to subscribe to that illusion.
That’s why most of us need to have cerebral, emotional and mental connects with several people, each fulfilling a need or needs as the case may be because expansion is our theme. We are vast, very vast. And we unconsciously try to reach out in that direction through soaking in all the aspects which contribute more and more to our expansion.
Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 29 January 2019

Divine energy


The Divine has been called “Bhaavateet ", meaning beyond this world, beyond the emotions, beyond the transient. If we think for a minute that the Divine symbolizes a set of qualities to be lived, then the human can also aspire to be the Divine energy; Just as "guru" has been described as a "tattva” or substance, a guiding energy which we can elevate ourselves to.
Nothing is beyond us , except what our constant tendency to doubt makes happen. But of course, it takes a lot of pain to even start on that path of slowly healing away the illusory layers from our mind. How many lives are we living in an illusion, thinking there is no one to beat us in wisdom. What wisdom is this? And how have we acquired it and how MUCH, to say with so much confidence that we speak from wisdom? It could also be our ignorance to think we are wise in the first place.
So, how much churning has to happen within us, so that the pollution is cleared and the truth shines, simple and pure. Until then, and if we ever reach that state, we can continue with our illusions.
Surekha Kothari

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Thursday, 29 November 2018

Journey of adventure

There is a strange feeling of confidence in us as we plan our life. It is called faith. That keeps us going. Otherwise, if you really think about it, do we really know that we will live for the days we have planned activities for?
We only begin to think of our mortality as we grow older, and especially when health begins to fail. Then we review our lives, check out our mistakes and want to atone for many of them. We start fearing that our actions might boomerang on us. Our Karma may come back to us... etc.
But faith is that key which makes life into a journey of adventure. And it is faith only which makes us trust the Divine and accept our life experiences.
Surekha Kothari

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Thursday, 1 June 2017

Beauty of life

At the start of the year, you should resolve to defeat your karma as the chief resolution. Sounds strange, right? How that is possible is the immediate thought. I love to quote the story of Savitri and Satyavaan in which Savitri brought her dead husband back to life from the possession of Yama, the God of death.
Symbolically and otherwise, the one aspect visible in this story is that with courage and passion, anything is possible. And that's why I say, if that karma was defeated, all karma can be defeated.

How?

That you have to experience the consequences of your past karma is a reality. But HOW you choose to do so is a decision that lies squarely in your court. You can either transform the experience into a new beginning or cry all the way.

The beauty of life is, even if you do not get what you wanted in one or two aspects of life, there are many other aspects available to develop because we are very vast beings, connected to a very large canvas of energy. Why do we need to limit ourselves?

You know, I have seen many people go to a multiplex, only to find the movie they wanted to see showing a houseful board but they look at other options and find the best one under the circumstances. Why? Because they had made up their minds to see a movie that day.

Isn't life somewhat similar? So, maybe, I wanted to be a doctor but ended up being a pharmacist. Maybe, I badly wanted kids but could not have them. So, I decided to adopt one. Or maybe, I wanted the proverbial perfect marriage but circumstances were not perfect and I decided to develop other talents I had. And kept my friendship going with the spouse. 

Positivity all the way...

The moment you click on the "options" button, you see a drop down menu with a wide range of choices and if you are a positive, die hard kind of a person, some options will definitely engage your mind and imagination.

Hey, after all, we are in this world for a specific period of time. There is no time to cry over anything. Instead, whatever karma is unfolding before you in your life is only giving you a chance to turn to other activities which are waiting to be explored and can be brought within your reach with enough passion and a desire to make good your life.

So, you have a Rukmini Devi starting to learn Bharatnatyam at 30 years of age and you have a Kalakshetra in Chennai as an evidence of her passion for the art. Look around and many such legends can be seen.

So, karma resolution through transformation is very doable. Just don't let yourself go down with self pity and don't let yourself sink into the illusion of darkness...for, that's all it is an illusion...there is nothing like darkness. It is the absence of light that we call darkness. Light is the only reality.
Surekha Kothari

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Thursday, 5 January 2017

Recognize

Confidence! Dressing well and grooming is the first and most obvious point that comes to mind. When you are looking nice, you feel good and feel you can take on the world.
But not so for all...in a group, you do see people looking nice but very uncomfortable nonetheless. They are withdrawn and happier when people don't address them. I knew someone who was a pro at confidence, thanks to a book by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence People". He was popular and could charm a bird off a tree.
Having said that, is being able to influence people everything?
On the flip side, there are people who read "what do you say after Hello", too......
Confidence at a deeper level is the result of a deep spiritual bent of mind, pure thought and unconditional love. When you don't recognize "loss" at all. Everything is a bonus.
When you reach this state of being, your confidence is complete and your core strengthened by the day.
Surekha Kothari

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