Showing posts with label Positivity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Positivity. Show all posts
Tuesday, 16 August 2022
Monday, 25 April 2022
Perspective
Where are you looking ? Look at yourself: At
your thoughts
At your reactions that you have picked up about
people and situations that make you bitter, resentful and bordering on dislike
or even hatred.
At whether you could have exercised
positivity in the wake of negativity .
At how much and how futilely you have
occupied your mind space about opinions of people who are not even in your
circle .
At how you feel when you criticise / judge
people.
These are basic to our well being. The
analysis puts a perspective on us and where we really need to work on
ourselves.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 22 March 2022
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Sunday, 22 April 2018
Perceive love
Paramahansa Yogananda says: "Love
cannot be had for the asking; it comes only as a gift from the heart of
another".
Such wisdom! We tend to expect that love
should automatically come to us from certain people, like parents, siblings,
spouses etc. Not only expect it but we would like to determine the quality,
extent and intensity, too. It is all about personal needs whereas love is a
fountain from the heart. If that fountain is minimized or shut down at will, or
through traumatic circumstances, it will not be forthcoming.
I know of a case where this person felt so
unloved that she neglected an obvious ailment just so that she would get
attention. And later, when she regretted the neglect, it was too late and she
passed on, a sheer case of expecting love from a source that had none to give.
Yes, our hearts need to be open to love and
to receive it as well. And love cannot be demanded. It has to be a gift given
willingly and out of love.
I have been told, "I am very loving
but I don't know why I never get it". These are perspectives. Love is
given in different ways by different people and not exactly the way we want it.
Some love silently and are not demonstrative. Some love less but show more
though there IS love here too. Some show their caring by making life easier for
their near and dear ones but never say, "I love you".
We have to have eyes in our hearts as it
were, to see, to perceive love in its multiple forms and formats.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 25 March 2018
Tuesday, 13 March 2018
Align and Realign
Every time we align and realign ourselves
with people and situations, we are realigning with the universe, trying to find
the perfect alignment, the perfect fit. But is there anything like a perfect fit?
Each time you want to finally rest there, something changes again.
It feels somewhat like...when you have
taken the support of someone's shoulder and that is suddenly jerked away from under
your hand. But that's ok, because there is a new support forming already. A
constant Movement and changing alignments are a kaleidoscopic reality. And
that's the way it was meant to be. We were not meant to be permanent settlers
here. And so, movement and destination became linked.
How the outside world is turning was always
reflected on the inside of us. And the graduation has to be inwards; into
subtle realms till reincarnation is not the norm anymore. Until such time, we
will continue to look for that perfect fit which is our journey till the truth
is revealed.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 20 February 2018
Unrealistic
It is unrealistic to think we can do
whatever we like and get away without a tag attached. Life is a trade off. God
sneakily perhaps gave us free will while lining our path with karma at the same
time so that we are often confused into taking turns which bring grief. And we
have done this completely on our own, no one to blame but yourself. And the
too, you can't really blame yourself because you had to make the choice you
did. The tag attached and the price to pay these is also karma inspired. Your
mind will work in a certain way to make you experience the results of your
actions.
Does it sound ominous? If it does, you need
a change your attitude towards it. Grumble and bear Grin and bear or understand
and bear. But bear you must.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 8 February 2018
Mind control
As we progress from phase to phase, we keep
changing drastically sometimes. My favorite line used to be, “I will never do
this". Over the years, I have done almost everything I said I would never
do. "Never" is a word which now holds a very childish connotation in
my book of life.
But on the flip side, do notice that I used
"ALMOST everything". That is vital to study. What gets excluded from
the "almost?"
You know, in reverse psychology, if you
want someone to do something, tell them not to do it and it will be definitely
done. Similarly, what you should exclude from your "almost everything”,
only your mind can do for you.
You can be adventurous and want to try it
all with the exception of what is not good or healthy for you. And there comes
the role of mind control. I call the mind the "x" factor, like in
Algebra where we were supposed to discover or arrive at the value of
"x".
Aren't we all spending our days doing just that?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 7 February 2018
Thursday, 28 December 2017
Equation
What
do I gain or lose is a prime question in relationships today. It often takes a
long time for people to understand people, even if they have lived in close
proximity. In fact, especially when they have lived in close proximity, whatever
the name of the relationship. Either the understanding is lacking or the
population around makes minced meat of the equation, In ANY relationship.
So
much wear and tear happens within our emotions and expectations that we don't
see a lot of things with clarity. And, ultimately, we start feeling that we are
gaining only headaches and depressions and losing our health and peace of mind.
And then the inevitable happens...distances.
One
of the big challenges is when there is a communication cripple confronting you
who is impossible and too complicated to read unless you are a clairvoyant… And
YOU are intrinsically a demonstrative and spontaneous person who subsequently ,
is forced to start closing up and getting all bottled up because their words
are hitting a wall and coming back to hit them. It is an unnerving feeling and
one that closes channels like nothing else does.
Under no circumstances can shrink or
twisting personalities against your will contribute to your well being. So, the
cognizance of gains and losses may be replaced by the questions of how meeting
points may be arrived at, if both can will this as the course of action, of
course. Between the two sides of the distance pole lies the meeting point and
the way towards reducing that distance starts with the capturing of the
mischievous little devil called " ego" and blindness towards those
who are mischief makers because, after all, you love them, don't you ?
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 21 November 2017
Changes
Amidst all the change and transition that
is happening, I am not surprised that those who have reached the pits of
degeneration are gasping for breath and struggling to avoid getting completely
choked by their own misdeeds. Evidently, they had been so drunk on their power
since so many years that they had forgotten that there is nothing like
permanence. It would be amusing if it were not so tragic to see some senior
politicians who lay out a trap for others, getting caught in its them.
When will this stop? We are paying a price
for the "free for all” environment that the people of this country have
become used to. Now, when the degeneration is being curbed and reversed, and
they are being reined in, they cry foul.
We must examine the intention behind the
rules that are being resented.
In childhood, we were not allowed to do
certain things. When we became adults, many went a little haywire and some more
than just a little.
At any age, a crisis situation must be
averted even if it requires drastic and unpalatable changes. If we had not done
that under the leadership of Mahatma Gandhi, we would still have been a British
colony. (But we have a short memory.) Of course, we would not have had a neighbor
like Pakistan either.
So, what should our priority be? No contest
here. It should be a spirit of nationalism and secularism, tolerance and
peaceful existence with an equal opportunity for all. But between this goal and
the current reality, there lies a great chasm that has to be filled with an indomitable,
persistent will to work hard and achieve this goal. Can it happen in a day, a
month or a year even? Not if we blame and criticize instead of contributing to
the momentum of the visualized growth. We are so pathetic that we don't even know
how lucky we are that there is a dependable leader today. And there is hope. You
can see this at every rally, the latest being Surat. Has the whole country gone
crazy then, to support him? No. Not at all.
If the media was not so busy turning
everything into a debate and controversy, we would be able to see the ground
reality. As someone said, the PM is a visionary but the people around him
should have faith and help in manifesting that vision. If India was minus the
irresponsible and dangerous opposition leaders, evolution would move at
breakneck speed. I guess, the "kundali" (astrological chart) of India
must already be showing the impending ineffectiveness and the symbolic self
immolation of this type of politician. These people are and will keep digging
their own graves while India will move forward despite the formidable
challenges of today.
Surekha
Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 30 October 2017
Get a life!
When there is drought, even a few drops of
rain have the power to cause excitement. The kindness of people is similar.
Every little sincere act inspires gratitude. The absence of genuine kindness is
like a drought. So, suddenly, when you come across people who you haven't had a
close connection with but who spontaneously offer help, it makes you can feel
those raindrops fall on your heart.
Life has become very clinical, mechanical
....like dance without expression, like music discordant, like a house which is
not a home....I guess, I find the soul missing in many around me. And I often
feel that souls on the earth must be experiencing much loneliness. Imagine
being connected and not realizing it! Being lonely when there really is no need
to be so. Deliberately hurting someone , not knowing that it is definitely
coming back to you...or often knowing it but still doing it...succors for
inviting grief.
Oh! Humans! Get a life!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 25 September 2017
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