Showing posts with label Perspective. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Perspective. Show all posts
Wednesday, 16 April 2025
Sunday, 23 February 2025
Environment
What can be more healing than nature? This is why all the hill stations are visited regularly. There is something about concrete jungles that disturbs the peace. Also, because we ourselves probably cannot handle the stress of city life. We are as concretized within our desires and therefore fail to give ourselves a spiritual perspective of the temporary nature of everything around us. Space gives us a sense of the infinite. Cities generally do not. We must find our own environment, within and without, to become peaceful.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 17 May 2022
Monday, 9 May 2022
Experiences
Those of us who share experiences or are
healers have many stories to tell and many experiences of others and few
personal ones to share.. with the one idea .. to LEARN from.
There is much misery around but recoveries
are possible if we tell it as it is even when some feel that there is a cutting
edge to these notes. Well, what hurts must be healed. This is a simple formula
to follow.
It is ineffective to beat around the bush.
If I am doing something that is giving me grief, I would like to understand how
to do it different.
Personal slander on a facebook page is
unheard of unless one is very very insecure and chooses to take what is written
, personally.
We get so many forwards and posts everyday.
The content often strangely materialises as a sign. It is a message if we can
look at it deeply. I see God’s signs everywhere and these actually change not
only your mindsets but give you new insights to work with.
I admit that many posts come to me as a
mirror, exactly what the doctor ordered at that minute. So , if we change our
perspective towards posts and notes, we can discover a gold mine to improve us
in a big way.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Monday, 25 April 2022
Perspective
Where are you looking ? Look at yourself: At
your thoughts
At your reactions that you have picked up about
people and situations that make you bitter, resentful and bordering on dislike
or even hatred.
At whether you could have exercised
positivity in the wake of negativity .
At how much and how futilely you have
occupied your mind space about opinions of people who are not even in your
circle .
At how you feel when you criticise / judge
people.
These are basic to our well being. The
analysis puts a perspective on us and where we really need to work on
ourselves.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Friday, 1 April 2022
Perspective
It is aptly said that what you can’t
change, you must let go of trying to put your point across sometimes , is
exhausting. You really cannot change people’s perspectives to accommodate your
view, even if accommodating it could be a win win situation.
Just as fruits on a tree will ripen at
their own time, change will happen at its own time.
I remember treating a lot of elderly advice
with some carelessness. Today, I am blessed that the advice was given to me. It
remained as energy somewhere within me and got activated when it was needed.
It always pays to keep your ears and heart
open. And yet, if someone is in denial, the time is evidently not right.
Our journey is a long one and you never
know what tools might be required along the way. So, don’t discard any.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Friday, 18 March 2022
Perspective
If we believe that every opinion is just a
perspective, then isnt it contradictory that we have such an ego that we are
always right ? How can a perspective always be right ?
So, here we are between perspectives
and facts. And how do we differentiate
between the two ? We only act out of what APPEARS to be right by our standards
, our values or sometimes, a lack of
them, too. And only later do we
understand what the outcome has been. Which also means that when the outcome
itself is unpredictable, there is something beyond us that is set in motion,
unseen and not immediately apparent.
Wisdom therefore , is also beyond changeable perspectives and lies within deep
convictions born of transcendental experiences.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Wednesday, 23 February 2022
Opportunity
Today, we are so involved in what we think is our real life that we don’t have time for “frills”. The same frills , if they are loving people and tools for personal evolution, will become very important later in life. When we are young, we don’t have the bandwidth to understand this.
When realisation does dawn, many of the
loving people around us who we regret not valuing , have passed on . And the
ones we thought were ours, have moved on. What is left is regret !
At any stage in life, the vision must
always have a broader perspective to carry the “valuables” in our lives with
us, despite being busy in our own little world. And I don’t mean material
riches. Because life is a vast experience , provided we have a thirst for
understanding its validity and impact on
our journey. There is always a purpose . Nothing is meaningless.
But we fail to understand it. The
opportunity to heal our darker spaces are manifold but we are blindfolded. Only
fear makes us limited. Otherwise, we are luminous, unlimited beings. But who is to explain this to anyone until
the right realisation triggers change ?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 18 February 2022
Liberation
Apathy and neglect are two of the most damaging traits in any relationship. They are a part of taking a relationship for granted. And they don’t do justice to being born as a human being.
Like they say, small acts make a huge
difference. Ofcourse, there is an individual Perspective in everything but
perspectives don’t make reality. Our actions do produce undesirable results but
inaction or indifference may often
damage more.
Why ? Because this creation is based on
love in various forms. To nurture others is to nurture yourself. I am amazed
that such a simple fact of life is so difficult to understand and put into
practice. It should come naturally if we know what is our true nature. Sadly,
we don’t !
Just thinking about apathy and neglect
might take us back to when we probably felt neglected , rightly or wrongly. A
personal perspective again ! And, Even if that were true, we would do well to
put the past where it belongs.. in the past which is a bubble that burst long
ago and has no value in the present moment! It is over only when you put an end
to it. Not a second before that. And when you do, it is liberation !
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 12 July 2021
Responses
Whether peace, conflict, anger or restlessness, life does not stop for anyone. You get over grief ( mostly) . You experience life in many shades. You love, you lose, you win, you battle. But at the end of the day, nothing pleases more than peace and harmony. And in learning that this is what you ultimately wanted, you have almost completed this journey.
But that is the law of life. You learn what
NOT to do very late in life. You keep repeating wrong patterns of thinking and
acting . Why ? Why don’t some of us learn what works for us and just work with
that ? We create conflict situations and then we do it again and again because
our responses don’t change. Our perspectives don’t change.
But as they say, better late than never.
So, a change in favour of establishing better patterns is welcome at any time.
And the sooner the better.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 5 April 2021
Tuesday, 21 July 2020
Spiritual orators
In the beginning, an attempt to detach is
very painful. Humans are tied up in the silken threads of “moha” which is
attraction to people and things, even to places. Even silken threads spell
bondage, though, it may be remembered.
Spiritual orators recommend detachment to
obtain peace and to move forward towards a more elevated state of being. Not an
easy task ! But when you pray hard enough, and try sincerely, the Universe
helps you. Circumstances arise to help you detach slowly, often painfully.
After the stage is reached when the pain
lessens, you can start feeling the relief of being liberated. Because in “moha”,
YOU hold on so, only you can let go to experience the feeling of freedom from
the huge amount of baggage that you had stored baggage because “moha” leads to
much suffering. You are actually trying to capture the intangible and the
illusory. What then would be the result other than suffering?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 12 July 2020
Tuesday, 24 March 2020
Attitude
Someone asked me, why is there so much
turbulence in life ? I thought .. hmmm.. Do we call it turbulence due to our
responses to the unfolding of our karma ? Our perspective ? I always wonder !
Because i see some people calm in the face of storms while some get blown away.
A matter of attitude ? Maybe, a very strong
core , an unshakeable faith in the Divine ? Maybe, an internalisation of the
ultimate truth after which life becomes like a child’s play. So easy and so
breezy !
... and much turbulence in the absence of
some or all of the above ?
In any case, turbulence was never the
desired intention ever for anyone. Yet, it was allowed by each one of us ... as
, who else is within us but we ourselves ?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 11 April 2019
Evidence
In the good old days, there was a saying,
"there is no smoke without fire". Today, the smoke is as fabricated
as the fire. Distorted, even baseless versions of reality are making rounds,
being magnified and creating chaos. There may not be an iota of truth but it
still becomes a popular story, the more "spicy", and the better.
Why? For one, people are empty within and
like vultures outside. Sorry! These prey on dead bodies. Humans prey on live
ones. Fanning fires, twisting facts, igniting conflicts based on caste, creed,
religion, stopping at nothing to satisfy greed... this has become the world of
the predator, the most dangerous trait among people today. You would never
guess from the outside demeanor who was out to destroy you.
Your reputation can be torn into shreds in
a minute through "evidence" completely fabricated and you couldn't
defend yourself without proof. Not a modicum of either ethics or remorse. So,
what smoke and what fire? Truth went up in smoke and flames long ago.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 13 January 2019
Tit for Tat
I just read somewhere that people try their
best to expose what is wrong with you because they can't handle what is right
with you. I find this to be a little unnecessary. Fault finding is an
aberration of the mind which tells you that you are not good enough. From your
perspective, you might feel good but believe me, it is temporary and the
aftermath of feeling guilty and not so good is uncomfortable.
In society, it is normal to speak behind
the back of a person because you don't want people to know that you are capable
of slander. But slander it is, however much you might try to cloak it. It is
your negativity that gets aired and people are quick to sense this as well, although
they may not say it to your face.
Many people say that they are just giving
tit for tat. But that doesn't stop you from also being in the wrong.
Life is meant to move from strength to strength,
to become better and better, more and more compassionate and generous. Instead
of pointing out the wrong because you can't handle the right, you can
appreciate the right of another and correct the wrong within you. And this
applies to all of us.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
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