Self-Glorification

Why did existence plant us in this world? Have you ever thought about it? Why did it plan that everything and everyone should be connected?

We were placed in different slots of affluence, work fields, and relationships to create a wholesome world in the image of the Divine. And when we led such lives, we exonerated ourselves and knew we were following the path laid out by the universe for ALL of us.

But what did some of us do? We started feathering our own nests, monopolizing resources given to us as gifts from the universe, indulging in   self-glorification and paying little heed to the ones who were less fortunate in many significant ways.

So, are we responsible for the world as it is today? If anyone says “no”, please think, reflect and internalize the values we have completely forgotten.

Surekha Kothari

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Transformation

There is no value in relationships where little things are constantly misunderstood and have to be sorted regularly.

It needs one experience of watching someone leave this earth, of the grief and remorse, even guilt felt by those around for what could have been , to wonder why we don’t treat relationships better in our lifetime.

There are a few landmark experiences in life which are utterly transformative. Make you accept and deal with life with more awareness and more grit. Above all, with more balance and respect for your soul.

Surekha Kothari

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Frustration

By and large, we humans judge more than love. I guess we are so needy that we want to be around those who give, who anticipate our needs and dedicate their lives to each other. Something most naturally expected from certain close relationships more than others. But what is forgotten is that whatever roles we are given to play inevitably come with challenges, sometimes ones that can take all our strength to endure.

As we are coping with our own grief, disappointments, and frustrations on one side, no one is really concerned but ourselves. And if we let that mask we wear in public, slip, we are in trouble! All kinds of speculation and judgement is thrown at us.

This is the human being of today, that is building artificial intelligence today, to emphasize the need for something external to come through as an aid for us. Who have moved away from everything natural, especially our divine collective consciousness that holds complete knowledge.

The vastness of the soul is only being researched by science now, whereas India knew it eons ago.

Read about Indian, even Egyptian civilizations and we see evidence of the spirituality of humans, the knowledge they possessed and the relationship to righteous living as the hallmark of divine connection. Are we on the wrong path then, or are we on the inevitable path of evolution? Wherever it takes us and to whatever consequences we face in the bargain.

Surekha Kothari

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Truth

I saw a video that set me thinking and analyzing its truth! The caption was “no one is really a friend”. Hmmm.

Actually, right from childhood and our school days, we make friends. We even depend on them not only for company but for our happy moments spent with them. But the basic reality is that we must accept AND celebrate our dissimilarities and similarities if we want long term connections.

I find relationships like reading new books every day. We get absorbed in them. But if we see a change in the friends we have, we get disoriented. Which means that there are conditional acceptances.

It is the human ego which is at the root of karma. It is the feeling of incompleteness and wanting more to fill that perpetual void within us!

If you have noticed, no ONE person can fulfil all our needs. That is why we HAVE so many relationships, each fulfilling some need.

Ultimately, if truth be told, we ARE alone. We may look for crutches here and there, most of which are temporary. We appear seemingly together, like passengers on a train, but only till our station arrives.

This is not a unique thought but an oft repeated one. However, it does not sink into many minds and they still carry on, living out of the flow of life and suffering for it.

Surekha Kothari

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Journeys and Challenges

When you live by your conscience and what is right, indeed, it is god’s grace that you have reached that state. Conversely, living in a world of conflicting perspectives, fragile egos and frequent misunderstandings, simple truths can ostracize you in a big way.

Humans don’t understand the value of personal Journeys and challenges, the need to stabilize your energies even if it means letting go of your personal preferences of relationships, thoughts and misguided values.

It demands courage! But it becomes easier if you understand that there is a price to pay for everything in this world but, anyways, pay all the price BUT except for your own soul. Nothing warrants that.

Understand that the journey of your soul cannot be shared by anyone. You are the master. Your soul is divine. Your higher self is always supported by Divine Light.

So, let go of your lower self that is trapped in this world and immersed in the afflictions of the mind. Observe, detach from outcomes and always do the right thing to feed your soul with enlightened nourishment. Live and act out of pure intentions. Selfishness misaligns you with the universe.

THINK, REFLECT as a daily practice. And make inner changes with those reflective realizations. See yourself getting free while still in this world, where nothing will affect you.

Surekha Kothari

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Judgement

 Human beings struggle with their deep insecurities and a lot of fear. On this base, they create need based relationships which they give titles to, like “friendship”. There is seldom any trust and faith. There is more judgement on how we can put our best foot forward to retain this quality of bonhomie. And fear that one wrong word or action can remove you from the relationship. If we cannot find comfort in an association, will it last? Perhaps only if we agree to keep paying a price with our own self. And that becomes painful after a point.

I think there is loneliness in groups today because we cannot be our authentic selves and pretense and compromise become very exhausting. So exhausting that sometimes, we ourselves want to distance ourselves from joining group activity. The same goes for one to one relationships. Nothing can endure without faith and trust. Can it? Can we re-establish our base then, to faith and trust?

Surekha Kothari

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Consideration

 

I always wondered why love is considered its own reward. We are so steeped in the thought that love has to be reciprocated with love, that, in any relationship, we start anticipating receiving it in return for our gift of love.

Expecting love is killing the feeling of love in our hearts. There can’t be a display of love. It really dwells in our heart. And does not fluctuate based on a return.

That genuine feeling that is felt as an energy rather than awaiting quantification and calculation. Even a measure of 0 to 10 cannot state the quality and depth of love. The levels of intensity have no precise measure and this is the beauty of unfolding it so that it gives us an abundance of joy. Never mind if no one understands. It is not a matter of reaction but of defining us.

Surekha Kothari

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Wisdom

We want to end things when we cannot tolerate them! But wisdom dictates that nothing ever ends/ finishes. Like the sun is always a reality. It only gets hidden by clouds sometimes. We only “see “things as going or disappearing. They don’t.

As long as the seeds remain, there is a possibility for them to grow back, be it belief systems, relationships or anything else.

And destroying the seeds is certainly a superhuman effort. There are too many desires still lurking in our sub conscious mind and to destroy their seed itself takes a saintly life. And even then, I am told that even they may also not succeed completely.

The light and dark play will always be there. The attempt to bask under the light is our choice. It is difficult to live life without a question paper. Guess work may not work. Knowing will. How many of us are willing to strive towards this knowing during our lifetime?

Surekha Kothari

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Patience

 I was just reading about patience. We live in the days of instant coffee. We are not in touch with principles of nature. If we liked gardening, we would understand that we can only plant seeds. They have a natural plan for healthy growth. They take time and we need patience.

Nurturing patiently! It could be anything from a plant to a relationship to success of any sort.

It takes nine months for a child to be born. Patience!

Relationships can be turbulent over turbulent waters. But patience can calm the storms. Every situation changes and keeps changing. We need to be steady, balancing the extremities. We need patience. As they say, Rome was not built in a day.
Surekha Kothari

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Emotion

 

Warm Hearts for cold storage!

Very late in the day have I discovered the reasons why people prefer to be superficial and sweet tongued. While outlooks have been changing rapidly and hearts are not being understood anymore, it would be fatal for relationships to be looked at naively or taken for granted!

No words that express the feelings in your heart are worth expressing actually. You know the saying, what you say (with feeling) and what the others understand don’t match. While you are saying something, with underlying feelings, it is being understood in a completely different manner, often, creating distances which were never meant to be. Keep the heart for yourself and “art” for the world.

You have just got to develop the art of saying what people want to hear. Period. It does not matter if you are family, growing up together, or friends/acquaintances. You must know how to use your words clinically so that they cannot be remotely misunderstood! Even as I say this, is that even possible?

We seldom succeed in connecting emotionally. It is mostly about “me” and “I”. And of course, about keeping in touch with people as per our needs. Very few exceptions can be seen.

It boils down to being simple but clever in the ways of the world. Managing/ manipulating or whatever works! But no expectations on anyone really understanding you.

So, better know yourself to see how words affect you and admit that you can also feel the in pact of words, not to mention tone of voice!

Even the voiceless WhatsApp can be lethal because there are only words there! We could be missing someone and saying this may boomerang badly! It may be seen as pushing someone who cannot see the love inherent in the missing. So, you see, sometimes, there is no winning here!

People withdrawing from people for such reasons is rampant! Who has the time today, to listen to heartbeats?

Surekha Kothari

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Inner world

Brooding and overthinking has to be replaced by conscious thought. Only then can we progress in our quest for meditation to improve our minds and move towards discovering our inner worlds.

Let thoughts come and go. Let relationships come and go. If we can just watch these without either getting involved in them, reacting or forcing them, they will follow a natural pattern and leave us.

Total awareness should be experienced as it is, totally! We cannot let US displace its energy. It is like a butterfly sitting on our shoulders while we let it, without moving.

Stillness of our being is the answer. For everything. Daily occurrences are like the waves that come and go. We, the ocean, are still. If we let go of the waves, we are simply the ocean.

Surekha Kothari

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Happiness

 

I strongly believe that if you care for a relationship, never hold up your ego between yourselves. Many a time, it has happened that each ego front makes it more and more difficult to bridge the distances created. Especially when you realize you were wrong. Your feet become like lead and the same ego won’t allow you to throw down your defenses and acknowledge your mistakes. And there can be a point of no return coming up in valuable relationships.

I do believe that if someone cares, they should be able to indulge in frank speak without getting guillotined for it. Strong bonds will not break with this. In fact, they will be strengthened.

So, leave ego out and save relationships and enjoy the happiness that such bonds bring you.

Surekha Kothari

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Personal Reflection

 

In relationships, how much are you doing merely for show and how much you really do with genuine feeling should be analyzed. We are in the habit of fooling ourselves!

And often we genuinely also believe that we are doing things for the right reasons! But really speaking, we all like to believe this about ourselves. It can be far from the truth.

Virtue is not partial. It is universal. We cannot call ourselves virtuous if this only shows up sometimes.

It is so easy to blame others based on the past. We all do this… keep hardcore memory about what was done years back. We tend to forget all the good that we also saw in people years ago. No memory there! Only blame continues.

Anyways, the onus is on us ultimately. We can believe in humans or malign them. Or we can mend fences and build bridges without judgement and while giving chances to some valuable relationships gone wrong due to expectations and blame, misunderstanding and negativity.

… and before we start accusing anyone, there are no exceptions to imperfect humans. Let us not be under any illusions that one is better or worse. Because if we have changed for the better in some aspects, we still have work to do on many other aspects. So, to keep any form of ego would be a mistake.

If all aspects evolve, we would all be Buddha. But, with a little change, we become more egoistic than humble and detached like Buddha.

 

 

Immediately, we start comparing with the others who might appear less evolved.

This is why each one has to look within and bare our misdeeds to ourselves so that we can accept the complicated thought processes we carry in terms of our fabricated psyches. They don’t have much to do with our reality.

But yes, real change happens only with pure awareness, acceptance and personal reflection.

Surekha Kothari

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Tolerance

 

“Keep the doors open” and “don’t burn your bridges” are two very important aspects of human connectivity. Circumstances can change overnight and if our relationships are not intact, there will be no support system in times of crisis. Families were created for exactly this reason.

Tolerance for the good, bad and ugly circumstances in our lives is mandatory. However, that tolerance towards everything and everyone without reacting adversely is what will keep us going. Calm and patience , and the faith that things have to change with time and the wheels keep turning. Nothing is static!

We also, hopefully, will keep learning as we go along and contribute to external change by means of our internal change.

Nothing is impossible!

Surekha Kothari

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Communication

 

In relationships, sometimes, it is good to ask “why”. Because once you can talk it out, you may find that you can save a relationship from misunderstandings. Especially, if you care.

On the other hand, when in communication with God, “why” is replaced by faith. There is no asking “why”. Everything is perfect and as per plan. Of course, humans will always doubt!

Surekha Kothari

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