Showing posts with label Communication. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Communication. Show all posts

Monday, 26 January 2026

Isolation

 That feeling of isolation when you realize no one is really understanding you and your explanations, however genuine, are falling on deaf ears! That you may well be on a different planet speaking in an alien language.

But, please don’t take it as an offence or a slur on you. It is really not. For the most part, today, people’s minds are buzzing so much with their own issues which they are trying hard to conceal or deny, that genuine communication or empathy for that matter, eludes them.

They are thinking west when you are talking east. It would be funny if it were not sad!

It has become the norm to excel in small talk “feel good” talk, as if the sugary words stem straight from a glass of alcohol.

Sometimes, it is better not to have too much awareness or understand too much! It kind of spoils you for superficial fun. Nonsensical interaction which is not designed to make “sense” in any remote way!

Our energies are spent more in beating about the bush than take a straight path.

But, when it concerns a large number of people, I guess, salutary changes in the minority may not be visible unless many begin to adapt.

So here we are, each one of us believing that we are on the right track but the tracks run parallel and so does communication become a casualty because there is no meeting point.

Communicate with yourself instead. Smile at these instances of being a chalk against cheese or cheese against a chalk! It’s all the same ultimately. And anyway, the focus was always YOU.

So, you can find yourself, your reality, your peace within, and stop wondering about anything else.

Surekha Kothari

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Tuesday, 13 January 2026

Realization

 At some point, after a lot of struggles and tears, we must reach a point where the universe becomes our mentor. We have been living within lower vibrations, attempting to experiment with different outcomes. But the foundation itself has been questionable.

Some humans on a quest for higher dimensions appear like aliens and find few like them in their journey.

But carry on they must, despite the risk of being misunderstood or isolated. Sometimes, there are no meeting points in minds and so, no satisfactory communication may be possible.

Maybe, the death of the old and the beginning of the new is the way out . Funny how strange the same old world starts looking and how puzzling to have spent so much time and emotions where now, there is a remoteness of watching the same things as mere observers.

The ultimate realization that we do have to leave this world at some point makes everything meaningless except what my soul carries out of this world: the memories, the healing and the joy or just restlessness and a lot of unfinished business as arrears for other lives.

Surekha Kothari

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Friday, 20 December 2024

Self-Inflicted

 

I can’t imagine why people would not speak about how they are feeling! In fact, they would rather spend on psychiatrists than clear their minds of the hurts they harbor by telling the people who have been responsible for those hurts.

Many times, hurt is an outcome that was never intended. It could just be a perception of a sensitive person or a person who is not too confident even, or already hurting. I can never underestimate Buddha’s saying that suffering is self-inflicted. 

I have always been a great advocate of communication because I think direct communication, if done with simplicity , can be less complicated than a third person stepping in. Especially when we are not attributing hidden motives to each other.

Having said that, I have seen multiple misunderstandings over simple attempts to improve matters also.

We certainly are a complicated species with an inherent ability to be simple . For various reasons, we don’t exercise the latter too often.

At the end of the day, we are busy creating boundaries all our lives, not all of them justified.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Wednesday, 23 October 2024

Communication

I have always laid a lot of emphasis on communication as being a major source of bonding between people meaningful communication that enables you to understand people, provided they understand what you are trying to communicate in the first place. We tend to add a lot of pollution to our understanding, based on how we feel at that moment.

But today, we do tend to overlook all of this and prefer to deal superficially. Probably, as much as is “necessary” or as is expected out of decency and or politeness.

There was a time there was an economy of words but substantial meaning inherent in them, a meaning that conveyed sincerity and genuineness. There was no need to say ten words when two were enough. Hearts were connected.

Today, we must speak volumes to convince that we speak from the heart, which, most of the time we DON’T. Supplemented with smiles that touch the ears but don’t reach the eyes.

In a crowd, there is an isolation. There is limited communication. Overtly. Image building exercise, I guess. Sometimes, I feel there is more depth in dressing up these days than depth of communication. And therefore, no understanding of what was the essence of the communication. The roller coaster we ride everyday gives us no scope.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari 

Monday, 24 July 2023

Communication

 

In relationships, sometimes, it is good to ask “why”. Because once you can talk it out, you may find that you can save a relationship from misunderstandings. Especially, if you care.

On the other hand, when in communication with God, “why” is replaced by faith. There is no asking “why”. Everything is perfect and as per plan. Of course, humans will always doubt!

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Wednesday, 7 September 2022

Good Intentions

It is important to know when to communicate but more important to know when not to communicate. We all go through phases when we do things out of good intentions but offend some sensibilities. Fair enough. This happens sometimes to us also and then we are left to deal with our feelings. Like others deal with theirs. But in all of this, when one tries to smoothen the ruffled feathers, not once but many times and there is no response, it is time to withdraw communication. Holding on is not healthy but some people can’t let go easily. They have to work out their feelings and their relationship on their own. More so, the intentions of others. May take time. It is all a part of the drama. But important to understand that this is not about us or who we are. Surekha Kothari www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com surekhakothari.wordpress.com Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Monday, 31 January 2022

Accepting and Expecting

 

We have to leave everyone to heal at their own time and of their own accord. It used to be possible at one time to heal through frank communication. And clearing the mind of any residue feelings of negativity. I guess, no more ! There is more possibility of making it worse by talking …

Two similar sounding but diametrically opposite words are two ends of the spectrum: Accepting and expecting.

The first assists in moving forward. The second can bog you down pretty badly because your well being lies with someone else or something else . And you lose that much control.

We live in a world of time, space and causation. Accepting means giving time and space and waiting for the causes to fade from memory. Then healing happens.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

Tuesday, 3 August 2021

Communication

 Don’t go through so much confusion, so much pain and so much denial . What is the point ? I think if we didn’t have egos , our tendencies to misunderstand would  be minuscule. You see, we don’t communicate. We don’t speak from the heart. And we hold grudges.

Most of the time, it is just the “I”.  Families break up because of this one lethal letter”I”. Friendships get scattered because people don’t speak to each other straightforwardly.

Tragically, children move away from

Their own parents because there is so much excess baggage that they wantonly carry. And again... no communication.

In healing modalities, forgiveness and blessings , seeking divinity in others and within ourselves are huge ! But if there is a world that perceives these as weaknesses, could there ever be a solution ? Yes.. there could be and there is. Creating distances and feeling a chronic pain which the ego will not allow to be released through effective communication. Sad but true !

These very same youngsters get  jobs on effective communication. Isnt it ironical ? Well.. keep Watching life unfold. Humans love to suffer and cause suffering unnecessarily.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari