Showing posts with label Communication. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Communication. Show all posts
Wednesday, 8 January 2025
Friday, 20 December 2024
Self-Inflicted
I can’t imagine why people would
not speak about how they are feeling! In fact, they would rather spend on
psychiatrists than clear their minds of the hurts they harbor by telling the people
who have been responsible for those hurts.
Many times, hurt is an outcome
that was never intended. It could just be a perception of a sensitive person or
a person who is not too confident even, or already hurting. I can never
underestimate Buddha’s saying that suffering is self-inflicted.
I have always been a great
advocate of communication because I think direct communication, if done with
simplicity , can be less complicated than a third person stepping in.
Especially when we are not attributing hidden motives to each other.
Having said that, I have seen
multiple misunderstandings over simple attempts to improve matters also.
We certainly are a complicated
species with an inherent ability to be simple . For various reasons, we don’t
exercise the latter too often.
At the end of the day, we are
busy creating boundaries all our lives, not all of them justified.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Wednesday, 23 October 2024
Communication
I have always laid a lot of
emphasis on communication as being a major source of bonding between people
meaningful communication that enables you to understand people, provided they
understand what you are trying to communicate in the first place. We tend to
add a lot of pollution to our understanding, based on how we feel at that
moment.
But today, we do tend to overlook
all of this and prefer to deal superficially. Probably, as much as is “necessary”
or as is expected out of decency and or politeness.
There was a time there was an
economy of words but substantial meaning inherent in them, a meaning that
conveyed sincerity and genuineness. There was no need to say ten words when two
were enough. Hearts were connected.
Today, we must speak volumes to
convince that we speak from the heart, which, most of the time we DON’T.
Supplemented with smiles that touch the ears but don’t reach the eyes.
In a crowd, there is an isolation.
There is limited communication. Overtly. Image building exercise, I guess.
Sometimes, I feel there is more depth in dressing up these days than depth of
communication. And therefore, no understanding of what was the essence of the
communication. The roller coaster we ride everyday gives us no scope.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 1 October 2024
Monday, 24 July 2023
Communication
In relationships, sometimes, it
is good to ask “why”. Because once you can talk it out, you may find that you
can save a relationship from misunderstandings. Especially, if you care.
On the other hand, when in
communication with God, “why” is replaced by faith. There is no asking “why”.
Everything is perfect and as per plan. Of course, humans will always doubt!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Friday, 4 November 2022
Wednesday, 7 September 2022
Good Intentions
It is important to know when to communicate but more important to know when not to communicate. We all go through phases when we do things out of good intentions but offend some sensibilities. Fair enough. This happens sometimes to us also and then we are left to deal with our feelings. Like others deal with theirs.
But in all of this, when one tries to smoothen the ruffled feathers, not once but many times and there is no response, it is time to withdraw communication.
Holding on is not healthy but some people can’t let go easily. They have to work out their feelings and their relationship on their own. More so, the intentions of others. May take time. It is all a part of the drama. But important to understand that this is not about us or who we are.
Surekha Kothari
www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Monday, 31 January 2022
Accepting and Expecting
We have to leave everyone to heal at their
own time and of their own accord. It used to be possible at one time to heal
through frank communication. And clearing the mind of any residue feelings of
negativity. I guess, no more ! There is more possibility of making it worse by
talking …
Two similar sounding but diametrically
opposite words are two ends of the spectrum: Accepting and expecting.
The first assists in moving forward. The
second can bog you down pretty badly because your well being lies with someone
else or something else . And you lose that much control.
We live in a world of time, space and
causation. Accepting means giving time and space and waiting for the causes to
fade from memory. Then healing happens.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Tuesday, 3 August 2021
Communication
Don’t go through so much confusion, so much pain and so much denial . What is the point ? I think if we didn’t have egos , our tendencies to misunderstand would be minuscule. You see, we don’t communicate. We don’t speak from the heart. And we hold grudges.
Most of the time, it is just the “I”. Families break up because of this one lethal
letter”I”. Friendships get scattered because people don’t speak to each other
straightforwardly.
Tragically, children move away from
Their own parents because there is so much
excess baggage that they wantonly carry. And again... no communication.
In healing modalities, forgiveness and
blessings , seeking divinity in others and within ourselves are huge ! But if
there is a world that perceives these as weaknesses, could there ever be a
solution ? Yes.. there could be and there is. Creating distances and feeling a
chronic pain which the ego will not allow to be released through effective communication.
Sad but true !
These very same youngsters get jobs on effective communication. Isnt it
ironical ? Well.. keep Watching life unfold. Humans love to suffer and cause
suffering unnecessarily.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 17 June 2021
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