I can’t imagine why people would
not speak about how they are feeling! In fact, they would rather spend on
psychiatrists than clear their minds of the hurts they harbor by telling the people
who have been responsible for those hurts.
Many times, hurt is an outcome
that was never intended. It could just be a perception of a sensitive person or
a person who is not too confident even, or already hurting. I can never
underestimate Buddha’s saying that suffering is self-inflicted.
I have always been a great
advocate of communication because I think direct communication, if done with
simplicity , can be less complicated than a third person stepping in.
Especially when we are not attributing hidden motives to each other.
Having said that, I have seen
multiple misunderstandings over simple attempts to improve matters also.
We certainly are a complicated
species with an inherent ability to be simple . For various reasons, we don’t
exercise the latter too often.
At the end of the day, we are
busy creating boundaries all our lives, not all of them justified.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
